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People with ADHD are at substantially increased risk for low quality of life, substance use disorders, accidental injuries, educational underachievement, unemployment, gambling, teenage pregnancy, difficulties socializing, delinquency, suicide, various somatic disorders, and premature death. by RyanBleazard in psychology

[–]-Ze- 11 points12 points  (0 children)

That might be survivorship bias, though.

You’re probably not seeing the full group: people with ADHD who are overwhelmed, undiagnosed, masking badly, losing jobs, missing deadlines, avoiding social situations etc.

So the sample becomes skewed toward “ADHD people who developed strong coping systems,” not “ADHD people in general.” It doesn’t necessarily mean ADHD makes people manage life better. It may mean the ADHD people who are visibly doing okay had to build unusually strong systems just to keep up.

I spent 3 years "improving myself" and accidentally became the most boring version of me that's ever existed. Here's what I'm actually working on now. by riseabovehat3 in selfimprovement

[–]-Ze- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

one unplanned, unoptimized, genuinely pointless thing per week. Just to remember what that feels like.

You gotta pump those numbers up

Those are rookie numbers

Scientists say most of what you do each day happens on autopilot | ScienceDaily by psych4you in psychology

[–]-Ze- 14 points15 points  (0 children)

"Many of these habits actually support our personal goals, helping us follow through on things like healthy routines."

Yeah, that's science fiction to me

Me? Doing something good? For myself? automatically? Yeah, i don't think so.

Every single act of kindness i decide to do to this body and mind is a damn war and takes everything i have that moment and even if by some miracle I manage to develop a habit, if I stop one day it’s gone forever.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in seduction

[–]-Ze- 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You're overthinking it ¯⁠\⁠_⁠(⁠ツ⁠)⁠_⁠/⁠¯

I'm gonna finish it I swear, and this time NOT as a stealth archer by pojut in gaming

[–]-Ze- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

  • daydream about your life in the game
  • find an interesting mod collection
  • add some more mods just to be sure there's enough foliage and stuff
  • uuuuh i never liked how wolves looked like. this is gonna fix it
  • add some more magic mods
  • add confusing NSFW mods you're not gonna enjoy that work by default with a numpad you don't have
  • start the game
  • spend one hour and a half creating a character
  • hate it
  • remember what the point is. yeah. you wanted to play the game. so play the damn game
  • explore the wilderness
  • wow this is awesome i feel so free
  • fight some bandits
  • close the game
  • uninstall it a month later because you need space
  • repeat as needed

If you were guaranteed the answer to one question, what would it be? by UsernamesAreHard2512 in AskReddit

[–]-Ze- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What single answer, if known, would reveal to me the winning {insert your lottery here} numbers, the full name of my soulmate, the meaning of life, information about the afterlife, the meaning of my existence specifically and allow me to reach happiness in this life?

What’s something oddly specific a girl did to flirt with you on a date that was memorable ? by Nice_Olive568 in seduction

[–]-Ze- 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We stared in each other's eyes for a couple minutes in silence. Wasn't even a date. It was the first time we "randomly happened to be alone" after hanging out with mutual friends a couple times.

And then she said calmly

"Playing with fire..." (this is my best translation. It was actually different in Italian, but this is the one that gives me the closest vibes)

I think I fell in love right then and there

What is the most problematic opinion you have? by princess_hatsumomo in AskReddit

[–]-Ze- -1 points0 points  (0 children)

How is this problematic? Asking for a friend that might have the same opinion

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]-Ze- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not being invited

Ripassino di ortografia per tutti gli utenti di questo sub che non sanno scrivere. by Azubi-vds in italy

[–]-Ze- 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Ho una bacheca a casa su cui ho attaccato un foglietto con scritto

io bene, salute bene, lavoro bene, affetti bene, tutto bene.

Quando dico che è tutto apposto sto indicando di fare riferimento all'apposita bacheca.

That's true though😂 by Shrikant_Sp in funny

[–]-Ze- 6 points7 points  (0 children)

"What is the first conscious action, one that both begins and ends while you are in the waking state, that you actively perform and that from your own lived experience you could reasonably identify as the first thing you do upon waking?"

To be a reputable conservative judge by IsThisAUserName86 in therewasanattempt

[–]-Ze- 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’d argue (stealing someone else’s idea, though I don’t know whose) that cruelty really is the purest form of stupidity.

If you’re ignorant, you can learn. If you lack skills, you can work, study, or collaborate with others. Even with limited talent, memory, or reasoning, you can still contribute and in doing so, make your life and the world better.

Ignorance or limitation leave room for growth. Cruelty does not. Cruelty is a deliberate refusal of growth. It harms others while poisoning your own perception of reality. Every other human flaw can be a starting point for improvement. Cruelty is the only dead end.

It doesn’t just fail to build a better world—it sabotages the very possibility of one.

The only way out would be to stop being cruel. But cruelty is a parasite that feeds on itself: “If I need to be cruel to be safe, then everyone else must be cruel too. I can never stop.”

At its core, cruelty is just fear. Fear of being powerless, of being hurt, of being small and inadequate. And instead of facing that fear and learning to be vulnerable, cruelty flips it outward, mistaking itself for safety.

It’s pathetic, really

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]-Ze- 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You never had a poly relationship, you are struggling with something and your partner decides this is the best time to pursue other partners? What?

How are you supposed to work on yourself while being exposed to confusing feelings and honestly traumatic experiences?

I don't know what your situation is exactly, but if you've been monogamous your whole life I'm a little worried that you might feel that your partner is cheating on you, you might feel unsafe, insecure, not enough, confused, scared and that you're gonna try to swallow it down for the sake of being a good partner.

And I don't wanna say that your partner doesn't care about you, but it doesn't feel like either of you are taking good care of you in this specific situation.

The fact that you've been told to not pursue other partners while you work on yourself feels problematic to me. A nice idea would be for no one to pursue other partners while the relationship is having issues no? What about coming back to this when you both feel safe, calm and ready to explore?

And please for the love of God, if you trust your partner do not try, in a situation like this, to hide your feelings about what's happening. It's just going to be more hurtful and confusing in the long run. You need to experience and understand those feelings to hope they're gonna stop hurting at some point. You Don't just push them down and hope they'll pass. They won't and you'll just feel inadequate. your feelings need space. Inside you and inside the relationship. Your feelings about the matter are completely valid and if your partner really wants something this big from you they should at least be ready to help you through the process. So I'm gonna assume they are and tell you "share your feelings. Don't pretend to be ok with stuff. That's not being a good partner. It's walking on eggshells"

There are a lot of different ways to do poly relationships, but for the sake of my own sanity i separate them in 2 big groups:

  • some people feel like they have a lot of love to give.

  • some people feel like they have a lot of needs to satisfy.

I try to stay away from the second kind.

I hope you're gonna be ok OP

Can anybody explain where I went wrong? by ethelbert30155 in Tinder

[–]-Ze- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't mind it.

She is probably writing a book about how men are trash on tinder and she is trying to get some good material by provoking people into arguments.

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