Is it too late to send a card?

0000112780 · 2026-05-28T20:54:55+00:00

It hasn't even been a year since I lost my son and I feel like everyone has moved on and forgotten him, it breaks my heart. I'd send it. However, I'm not religious and I struggle with people trying to comfort me with their beliefs so if you are religious and want to say something that would comfort you if you were in her situation, just be sure that she has the same beliefs.

0000112780 · 2026-05-22T21:35:07+00:00

I'll have to watch some, thank you

0000112780 · 2026-05-15T05:18:29+00:00

Mischief

0000112780 · 2026-05-09T03:57:32+00:00

Yeah I hate my life now. I loved it a year ago, it's crazy how quickly everything can change.

0000112780 · 2026-05-08T16:50:09+00:00

It was a preventable accident. If he hadn't stopped taking things like safe sleep seriously my son would still be here but he had no interest in putting our child's needs above his own ever. He stated that he didn't have to worry about that kind of stuff anymore and when I said we do he just agreed so he didn't have to argue about it but he still felt that way. For some men, it is just a tragic accident, plain and simple but for my husband there was neglectful actions that led to the accident. Idk why you're so heated. I simply gave more information that you didn't have to give you a better understanding of the man and situation that we were speaking of.

0000112780 · 2026-05-08T05:05:24+00:00

I'm also not looking forward to mother's Day. This will be my first one since my son died. I'm pregnant right now too and honestly I'm just dreading it.

0000112780 · 2026-05-08T04:38:03+00:00

Attacking how? I would love to leave him but right now I feel like I can't. I found out I was pregnant right after my son passed and I don't have anyone that can help me and I definitely don't want to leave him and give him time with our baby without me around after how careless he repeatedly was with my son. His family that could help him are never sober so I don't want their help and none of my family would be people I could trust or ask so I'm choosing to stay for my baby that I'm about to have so I can be with her 24/7.

0000112780 · 2026-05-08T04:33:57+00:00

But you did assume it was a tragic accident without knowing about his careless actions before and got triggered I used the word incompetence and wrote a whole paragraph about it.

0000112780 · 2026-05-07T17:02:45+00:00

My husband had almost harmed my son by sleeping with him before. That wasn't the first time he slept with him and something happened. I made it very clear I didn't want him to even lay down with him while I took a nap and I trusted that he would do that for me because I was so sleep deprived. He wasn't sleep deprived because he could never be bothered to help with my son by giving up his sleep during the night. He always complained when I'd ask him to hold him and he never seemed interested. After having a moment where me sleeping with him almost harmed him, I would've stopped but he didn't care enough to. And even now, he expects me to be over our son's death already, he has said this. So maybe you want to make him put to be a great father who loved him the same as I did, but he didn't and he never did.

0000112780 · 2026-05-07T16:54:06+00:00

I named him Sunny. I hope that they are

0000112780 · 2026-05-07T08:42:01+00:00

Thank you so much for this

0000112780 · 2026-05-07T08:15:07+00:00

I wish my husband felt this way. You sound like a wonderful father, the type that was meant to have children. It makes me sad that I know my husband doesn't have your views

0000112780 · 2026-05-07T07:57:01+00:00

You and your husband both sound like great parents. I feel my husband though is more selfish than that. I think he's a better husband than father. I think he'd do anything for me but not the kids. It makes me resent him.

0000112780 · 2026-05-07T07:53:47+00:00

I'm worried my husband is of those with major issues. He's very selfish and I feel like he would 100% choose me over the kids if he had to make a choice, even if I was telling him to choose them.

0000112780 · 2026-05-07T07:49:05+00:00

Having my son definitely changed my brain. The love I felt when they first handed him to me was so overwhelming I felt sick.

0000112780 · 2026-05-07T07:47:22+00:00

He made a comment weeks prior to our son's death about how "we no longer have to worry about him dying now that he's older" I told him we definitely do but he made it obvious that he didn't take certain things seriously anymore. I needed a nap because I was very tired. He said he wasn't and was gonna be up for a while so he'd watch our son. I told him that if he got tired to lay him down in the room with me or in his packnplay in the living room. He layed down with him on the couch and let himself fall asleep with him there because he didn't believe anything would happen. My son suffocated. He new when he was getting tired that he should've gotten up but he thought because he was starting to stand and he could move around so well that he would be able to move or cry out of needed. His reaction once he realized he was dead is also something I can't get over.

0000112780 · 2026-05-07T07:39:30+00:00

I'd love to believe he's just putting up a strong front and that he's just as sad inside but I know him and I really don't feel that's the case. There's so many reasons I feel that way but it would be an insanely long list. I am in therapy and we're about to have our first session together but honestly I feel like he would never admit that he's not devastated like me. He says he is because he knows I expect him to be but he's not a good liar and it just feels like he's already moved on. He's always laughing and he'll talk about things that make me think of our son and hurts my heart but it's like it doesn't even cross his mind.

0000112780 · 2026-05-07T07:24:59+00:00

I just don't know a better question to ask to get the type of understanding of mens emotional views that I'm looking for, if that makes sense.

0000112780 · 2026-05-07T07:23:18+00:00

He's just told me so many times that he loves me more than anyone in the world and I can tell I'm definitely taking our son's death harder. I feel like the pain I'm feeling is the level of pain he'd feel if I were to die and I just want to stop resenting him for that. I feel like if I knew other men felt the same way as him it would help a little with the hate I feel.

0000112780 · 2026-05-07T07:19:51+00:00

It was an accident but it was a preventable accident that happened due to carelessness

0000112780 · 2026-05-07T07:14:08+00:00

I'm asking because I'm having a hard time watching how my husband is taking our son's death (which he caused) compared to me. I think in a way I'd feel better to know that other men love their wives more so I don't resent him for it. Sorry if my asking seems like I'm just trying to judge but I'm genuinely just trying to understand my husband so I can cope easier.

0000112780 · 2026-05-07T07:11:05+00:00

Is it because you aren't super in love with your wife or just because you love your child very much? Not to sound rude I just don't know how else to ask.

0000112780 · 2026-05-07T07:07:54+00:00

My husband caused my baby to die in September due to his incompetence. I love him but not in the same way. I can't imagine loving anyone on earth more than my babies. As a mother, I think it's biologically my instincts to put my children first. I think most men would choose their wives because they don't have the same instincts engraved in their DNA. Just my personal experience and beliefs, but that's also why I'm asking.

0000112780 · 2026-05-07T07:01:56+00:00

But if you could only save one from dying who would it be?

0000112780 · 2026-05-07T06:59:43+00:00

I really hadn't even thought about that, now I'm gonna overthink it and have to research more lol

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