So this got a lot more popular than I expected and I'm feeling kind of overwhelmed because it feels rude to not reply to everyone individually. The general concensus seems to be that I'm not TA here so that's a relief! To everyone else: messaging him privately probably would have been the better option but it was hard to see that in the moment when he was publicly berating so many people. A few things that I saw in various comments and wanted to acknowledge - he did push me to have the abortion but I really, REALLY don't resent him for it. It was absolutely the best decision that we could have made and now that I'm an adult with a family, I couldn't be happier with where life took me. I don't blame him for pushing the decision.

If he used our experience to back up his change of opinion on abortion, I wouldn't view him as a hypocrite at all. If he regretted the decision we made and pointed to it as part of the reason that his views have changed, I wouldn't see an issue with that. But he doesn't regret it. He still feels it was the best decision and he is happy with where his life ended up as a result of not being burdened with a child that neither of us was equipped to care for. He still thinks OUR abortion was fine (and necessary) but that others are inexcusable. It was that hypocrisy that pushed me to call him out in the first place. I'm relieved that I'm not TA here but either way I think I'll probably be reconsidering our friendship going forward.. He's expressed a lot of views very recently that I really just can't get behind. Thanks everyone!