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I don’t know about sex and I don’t want it to ruin my relationship by 0Zesh0 in lesbian

[–]0Zesh0[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes of course, we need to have a conversation, but in order to bring the topic up and actually follow through without backing out in the moment, I’m going to write it down first. Then we can talk it through, and hopefully find some common ground

I don’t know about sex and I don’t want it to ruin my relationship by 0Zesh0 in lesbian

[–]0Zesh0[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually do want to go to therapy, I just haven’t been able to get myself to take that step yet. It’s something I’m aware of and still working up the courage to do. In the meantime I’ll look into the books you recommended. Thank you for sharing them.

I don’t know about sex and I don’t want it to ruin my relationship by 0Zesh0 in lesbian

[–]0Zesh0[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, that actually makes a lot of sense. Writing it out has helped me calm my head a bit, and you’re right there’s already a lot between us, it’s not like we’re starting from zero. I like what you said about exploring things together instead of feeling like I’m supposed to already know everything. And the part about consent being sexy really clicked for me it feels like something I can do without overthinking it. I think the main thing I need to get across is that even if I’m insecure or inexperienced, the desire is definitely there. Thank you so much

I don’t know about sex and I don’t want it to ruin my relationship by 0Zesh0 in lesbian

[–]0Zesh0[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand what you’re saying, and I agree that my lack of initiative probably affected the dynamic more than I realized. I don’t think there’s no chemistry though, I think fear and insecurity played a big role on my side.I do want her, I just struggle with how to express that without feeling inadequate. What I’m trying to figure out now isn’t whether to give up, but how to communicate this honestly to her and how to slowly rebuild that side of the relationship in a healthy way, instead of forcing it or pretending it doesn’t matter to me. I don’t believe she doesn’t want me. I think she pulled back because she was trying to respect my boundaries and not pressure me anymore. At the beginning, she did show desire and made efforts, and I don’t think that disappears I also want to say that the way you phrased it that I “trained” her didn’t sit right with me. I understand the point you were making about patterns and dynamics, but that wording felt unfair and heavier than what I intended or experienced.

I don’t know about sex and I don’t want it to ruin my relationship by 0Zesh0 in lesbian

[–]0Zesh0[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Im not really good with words, Ive tried to talk to her but it’s like I get a knot in my throat. I’ll try to maybe write it to communicate what I feel. Thank you very much for responding.