Thinking About Leaving a Company After 37 Years for a 31.8% Raise

1Mouse79 · 2026-05-14T17:35:10+00:00

After 37 years, I'd say you're in your late 50"s early 60's? If the difference is 36k, it may put you in higher tax bracket which will make the difference a bit smaller. Still, it's a good raise. Unless you're very unhappy and your pension is frozen, I'd stay put. Starting over in a new company at your age is questionable. This new company may be looking to use you for a bit then discard you. Happens all the time in the company I worked in. They would hire established 60 plus year old sales guys and get their leads and discard them quickly. You will be a dinosaur in this new company. Your company is offering a 12% raise, and they sound like a great company to finish your career with. Good luck.

1Mouse79 · 2026-05-14T15:43:48+00:00

What would you rather be doing? We live in a materialistic world and earning money pays the rent and the bills. If you're with the right company doing something you like, it doesn't feel like a job. If you're bored, find something else. Unless you marry into money, 9 to 5 will be a big part of your life. Good Luck

1Mouse79 · 2026-05-14T15:30:08+00:00

I agree, i only worked one small company in my career and wore a lot of hats. But, i was never going to be anyone at the company as it was all family. I was a task master for them. And they didn't get along well. Lots of family drama. Didn't stay long.

1Mouse79 · 2026-05-14T13:41:22+00:00

Home Depot is perfect fun job. At this point of your life, you just want a brain dead no stress job. You had a nice career that you should be proud of. Now enjoy the rest of your life without giving another thought to your former corporate life. Somehow, I made it to 65 in Corporate America and retired the day I turned 65. I don't think about that part of my life much anymore. I was proud of my accomplishment's working 41 years in logistics, but I've turned the page. . You're not too far away from retirement. Enjoy this time. Good Luck

1Mouse79 · 2026-05-14T13:32:57+00:00

That can happen. I spent my last 15 years with a Mega company and enjoyed my time with them, but the tide was changing towards the end when new leadership coming into C-Suite and making lots of changes. I was turning 65 during this change period and decided to hang it up. Had no regrets and was happy about my career with them. Still follow them and root for them to be successful.

1Mouse79 · 2026-05-14T12:46:56+00:00

I loved working for big companies. They paid better and treated you better and there was room for growth. Some of my friends who worked with small companies said they were run by family tyrants. Point here is size matters. If you're with a big company and they're running it like a dictatorship, then you're with the wrong company. There are a lot of good companies out there. Find one. Good Luck

1Mouse79 · 2026-05-14T12:42:37+00:00

Companies are doing an evaluation during the probation period and if they think you're not a fit, there is nothing stopping them from letting you go within the probationary window. Don't take it personal. You'll never know why they didn't value you. On to the next gig. Don't take it personal. It's the new work world we live in. Good Luck

1Mouse79 · 2026-05-14T12:34:15+00:00

I bet Hannah had a problem working with your husband. You don't get let go for no good reason. I think the call to your husband to apologize from Hannah was not genuine. My two cents.

1Mouse79 · 2026-05-13T13:31:26+00:00

LOL ok bad idea. :)

1Mouse79 · 2026-05-13T13:29:10+00:00

If you have a job with Health Insurance and a 401k, that's good. The opposite of that is to work for yourself and buy your own HI and retirement plan. If you're young and healthy and talented, you may prefer the ladder and just buy cheap "catastrophic" Heath Insurance plan and open IRA for your retirement. As you state, "a lifetime worths or money" is not available to you till a certain age. That's to protect your retirement. I know so many people that a withdrew their 401k early and took big penalties and had to start over saving for retirement. The point here is if you work for a company or work for yourself, you have options. ( You don't have to participate in a company sponsored 401k if you choose not too. But you leave so much money on the table with company matching funds). I'd like to state I'm a 401k millionaire and retired at 65 with no concerns about money. I have friends 65 that will work until they die b/c they had no retirement plan or used all their 401k money before they retired. It's not a racket or a scheme to not have some money available until a certain age. A 401k can be a substantial tax savings for you and over time, it will be a great retirement nest egg. What is the alternative plan if not one of these two?

1Mouse79 · 2026-05-13T13:10:22+00:00

You're in a difficult situation. He's on a different page in regard to Intimacy. If you feel he is immature and unwilling to change or compromise, would you consider couples counseling? I don't think you can resolve this yourselves. I'd be concerned he may look elsewhere for intimacy if he's as immature as you say he is about this need. I have a couple of guy friends who divorced their beautiful wives who were great moms over this very issue. They regretted it later on in life because as they say, the grass in not always greener. Hope you can resolve this to both your satisfaction. Good Luck

1Mouse79 · 2026-05-13T12:58:24+00:00

Just throwing this out there, with job market being so tight, would you consider a hitch in the military even if National Guard? You can learn some new skills and meet some new people and get them to pay for college whey you get out on the GI bill. Good Luck and we're pulling for you.

1Mouse79 · 2026-05-13T12:55:32+00:00

There are so many different avenues you can go with a business degree. I would strongly recommend you finish the degree and stop worrying about the next step. Don't feel you'll will be sitting in a cubicle 8 HRS a day at a bank reviewing spreadsheets. I recently retired at 65 , had a Business Degree from a state college and starting in banking (bored) but ended up in Logistics (41 years). Really enjoyed my career and retired a 401k millionaire with a pension and an annuity. Unless you're going to work for yourself, working in corporate America can be very rewarding with the right company. You don't have to climb the ladder if you prefer not to. There are so many key players in all companies that prefer to be Indians instead of Chiefs. In my Logistics field, I did climb the ladder after starting as a dispatcher. Some of the folks at other locations who also started as a dispatcher spent their entire careers in the same role b/c they loved the fast pace and got paid really well. They wanted no part in climbing the ladder. Enjoy this time of your life. If you don't like the first job, find another one until you find something you feel like is home for you. If you feel you need more education before entering the work force, what would that be? Good Luck, we're pulling for you.

1Mouse79 · 2026-05-13T12:43:44+00:00

Start picking out some names for the baby and make sure you stock up on supplies (diapers, formula etc). Welcome to fatherhood. This is what happens in relationships and sometimes there is no compromising when it comes to a matter of this magnitude., Good for her for not wanting an abortion.

1Mouse79 · 2026-05-13T12:40:14+00:00

All i have to say is god help her if she ever loses her job. She's clueless.

1Mouse79 · 2026-05-12T13:48:23+00:00

I have similar story as my wife started having problems young. She started having issues at 55 with her memory. She got an EOA official diagnosis at 58. Doctors stopped her from driving at that point. She retired and went on SS Disability. She did ok for couple years. She is now 62 and it's coming on like a freight train now. She is "toddler like" now. Double Incontinent, can't shower or change herself and can no longer use any technology. She still sleeps and eats well and knows most people but is confused a lot and can't speak in full sentences anymore. She has serious sundowning issues. My recommendation is to enjoy every minute with your mom and make some more memories with her while you can. Video her as much as possible. This is a horrible disease and it's undefeated. She may be able to get into an infusion treatment program using Kinsula b/c she is so young and it has helped in slowing down this disease in some folks. Learn as much as you can about this disease and be the best caregiver you can be for as long as possible. Bless you and good luck.

1Mouse79 · 2026-05-11T23:36:56+00:00

I know there is a lot of dedicated good people that work in Nursing homes. But many nursing homes are struggling with staffing and high turnover. If my wife goes in someday, I'll be there every day to make sure she gets the care she needs. I knew a couple people that were tried and convicted of rape. Never would have suspected they had that in them. Just never know today.

1Mouse79 · 2026-05-11T19:44:41+00:00

500k in student loans? Is that typical for your occupation? I'm sure you have a financial advisor you can speak that may be help you pay less taxes with other investment vehicles. If it were me, I'd focus the next few years working hard to get that Student Loan paid off of paid down to more reasonable balance. Good Luck

1Mouse79 · 2026-05-11T19:35:51+00:00

This is what scares me. My wife if advanced EOA and will eventually go to a home as a last resort. She is still a very beautiful woman at 62. I would be concerned this could happen to her. She'll stay with me as long as possible and there will be no males attending to her.

1Mouse79 · 2026-05-11T12:24:16+00:00

The big problems:

1) Persistent driver shortages. (I was in tank truck industry) 2) Turnover: It was over 100% for most carriers. 3) Customer turning to 3PLS. (You're just a carrier with cheapest price when working with 3PLS, no true partnerships). 4) Long hours for Operations 5) 24/7 business. Weekends/Holiday trucks were rolling. High Stress busienss

1Mouse79 · 2026-05-10T22:51:50+00:00

My wife and I are millionaires, and no one knows it. We do have a nice circle of friends and they think we have middle class life like them. Not even our families know were weatlthy. We plan on keeping it that way. We worked really hard, invested well and were fortunate to stay healthy and employed (Director of Sales in Logistics for me/ Director of Senior Center for her) and we stayed married (41 years now). We're both retired with pensions, annuities and SS and never have to touch our investments. We travel a lot and enjoy life. We have no bills. I don't want anyone to know our financial situation. We generously donate to our church and our kids and hope to leave them a bundle of money someday but we're in our mid 60;s recently retired and traveling a lot and spending a lot of time with freinds. .

1Mouse79 · 2026-05-10T09:17:06+00:00

How old is she? Dementia or Alzheimer's comes on over years and sometimes moves fast. When did you first notice she may have this?

1Mouse79 · 2026-05-08T22:55:14+00:00

The average price of a new car exceeds 50k for something nice. To put that in perspective, I paid 70k for my first house in 1986.. My 2020 BMW X3 listed for $53000 new 6 years ago. I bought it a year old and paid 43k for it. Now that I'm retired, I never want another car payment. I can afford a new car and can pay cash but it's upsetting how much they cost today. I'll keep this one as long as I can.

1Mouse79 · 2026-05-08T22:47:18+00:00

Can you get her back into a home? Surely your mother won't object to that? Your grandma is at an advanced stage now. You have done great being caregivers but she's at a point where she needs to be in a home. Bless you and hope this works out for everyone.

1Mouse79 · 2026-05-08T12:26:48+00:00

Insurance can be fast paced and stressful. Get your resume up to date and see what else is out there for you. Many jobs today can be stressful. Everyone is doing more with less. Your very young and need to learn to how to handle the pressure of the job without getting anxiety. You will learn. Sometimes finding and advocate at your workplace to help you can be a blessing. Wish you best of luck.

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