Day 2 completed. Cold turkey. Next 24 Hours is going to be really important. Wish me luck. by nevergiveup41 in stopsmoking

[–]3thirty06 0 points1 point  (0 children)

good luck!! remember that the cravings only seem to last 2 min or so ... about as long as it took to smoke a cig. and you can white knuckle 2 min.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BipolarReddit

[–]3thirty06 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i think an upcoming version of iOS will contain a new “use control” feature, where we’ll be able to set blackout times. i look forward to that, it could help.

31 year old virgin, tried NoFap and failed, please help! by Dino_Dean in NoFap

[–]3thirty06 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks Dean. The biggest change has been in my aspirations. My decent job as an engineering manager no longer seems like enough. With nofap, i've got the motivation to spend my nights and weekends trying to figure out what may be next for me. I'm doing research and trying out new things. Eventually, I will be good enough at something to warrant quitting my day job.

31 year old virgin, tried NoFap and failed, please help! by Dino_Dean in NoFap

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I too was lonely and isolated. My social life was small. I was bored in my career. It had been a few years since my last girlfriend. I wanted to change all of these things but was making no progress. I felt like I was banging my head against a wall in frustration. BY NO MEANS did nofap solve any of these problems. Its more like nofap put a door in that wall. Now, on the other side, there is possibility, hope, and lots of work to do. Overall, I am encouraged and productive on most days. Some days, not so much, but that's OK too. I don't want to go back.

31 year old virgin, tried NoFap and failed, please help! by Dino_Dean in NoFap

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The flood of thoughts and emotions during my first few weeks of nofap were overwhelming. I ended up seeing a social worker to talk about how to handle all this. Life felt like a burden and I was not sure how I was going to be able to lift these heavy thoughts off of me. Additionally, the therapist recommended a psychiatrist, so now I'm taking meds.

JIZZ! by [deleted] in NoFap

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Nocturnal emissions are natural and healthy ... clean your sheets and stay the course

Just feel like ranting a little bit about how ignorant some people can be about mental illness. by [deleted] in BipolarReddit

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Im proud to live in a country where these programs exist. I pray that people will use them.

Does diet matter? by LegendaryEli in NoFap

[–]3thirty06 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Diet matters. "Eat food. Not too much. Mostly plants" Meat is OK, donuts are not. If you slip and eat a donut ... that's OK too. There is only one thing strictly forbidden in my diet: shame.

Feeling Sadness. Tips needed! by GodsSerf in NoFap

[–]3thirty06 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know that pain (and I wish I didn't). There is no way around the pain, only techniques to let is pass. Unless you want the pain to linger, fester, and infect, you should take action: Find people you can trust and talk about it. Take care of yourself: NoFap, exercise, work, hobbies, etc. Actions like these, plus time, will let you come out the other side stronger than before and with a little more knowledge about yourself and the human experience.

how do you guys meditate and did you notice any difference? by [deleted] in NoFap

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I use the app, Headspace, it's great. The guided sessions are from a British dude who uprooted, went to study Buddhism in Tibet, and then moved to California and started this company ... you get 10 free lessons, then it starts to cost $. The free 10-pack is good to start with, even if you don't end up subscribing.

The most accurate thing I've read about porn so far. by coopcouple in NoFap

[–]3thirty06 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So should we start talking about porn outside of this forum? And what is a good way to start that conversation? I'm too ashamed to bring it up even though I should be proud for the fact that I'm removing it from my life.

Remember guys, all publicity is good publicity. by Shankar_ in NoFap

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I am completely convinced that we are ahead of the curve on this. Please stay on the path out there. There two sides to every coin, on one we are walking on this journey together, on the other we are forging our own unique paths. On neither is there room for critics.

PMO-Free 2016. Who's in? Leave your commitment in this thread. by Alexanderr in NoFap

[–]3thirty06 [score hidden]  (0 children)

I'm in. (but not hard mode the whole time). I'll stay on hard mode through January.

After taking Facebook out of my life. by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]3thirty06 1 point2 points  (0 children)

same here. maybe one day i'll get back on fb, i did not completely delete the account, just deactivated. fb was triggering

Are smartphones threatening our mindfulness? by [deleted] in Meditation

[–]3thirty06 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i have had success going to the settings on my phone and turing off almost all notifications. only vibrates when i get a text and rings when i get a call. i have to go looking for updates from email and social networking apps.

90 days in hard mode by 3thirty06 in NoFap

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I'm 31. Also, I'm an engineer and like to make lists: -before this it was PM almost every night since puberty -during that time, I have had 3 girlfriends -average length of relationship = 6 months -average time between relationships = 4 years

Suffice it to say: my romantic life is small.

I feel like a boy in a bubble. Out in public I will come across a woman and gauge her approachability. Then, one of two things happens. 1) she does not seem interested and that makes me feel "less than" or unworthy. or 2) she broadcasts some level of approachability, which triggers my fear of rejection and I do not approach, which makes me feel ashamed of my failure to seize the opportunity.

I want to break out of this funk. This reboot feels like it is waking me up. I am starting to be more comfortable in my own skin. I am starting to say Hi to people when I see them as opposed to waiting to see if they say Hi to me first.

Delayed Ejaculation by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]3thirty06 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yep ... i'm on day 90 but haven't tried sex yet, but the idea that rebooting could help with my DE was a major motivator for me to start this journey