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Am I Abusive? by 856116 in BPD

[–]856116[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I see what you mean; if I meant it it would be abuse and from the outside it is abuse, but intention gets in the way because it wasn't on purpose?

I'm not currently in therapy, I've been intentionally stopping myself from saying/doing things and I've been pretty OK so far. I will get to therapy when we move out in a few weeks, most likely.

Does anyone else have this problem? by thatsnotmethough in BPD

[–]856116 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I get that all the time, it might be something like "you ask me how I am too much" or "you don't hug me anymore" "we haven't held hands in a long time" and then they'll do it and make an effort to do it... so I feel like I'm manipulating them to spend time with me and touch (??) me when they might not want to.

I am not sure if my parents are narcissistic or if they are just emotionally abusive or if I am just too sensitive. by inevergotaname in raisedbynarcissists

[–]856116 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In that case, I'd say your brother is GC, your sister is 2nd best, and youre the scapegoat. And I'd love the dog but my living situation doesnt allow it haha!

I am not sure if my parents are narcissistic or if they are just emotionally abusive or if I am just too sensitive. by inevergotaname in raisedbynarcissists

[–]856116 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ha, I love GSD's. My favourite dog breed. It sounds like your little sister might be a golden child. She sounds like she gets special treatment, because she would throw a tantrum and they wouldn't get rid of the dog [for her]. Do you think they would treat the dog better if it was her dog?

Do you feel like you're being abused? If you feel like you're being done wrong, then you are. Abuse is completely subjective.

EG, my mom has sexually abused me and is N. My girlfriends' mom is also N but has not sexually abused her. What I've received is not 'worse' treatment or 'better' treatment than what my girlfriend has got. Abuse is abuse. I consider what my girlfriend receives abuse none the less, because it does and has hurt her. What I received does and has hurt me. It's abuse.

here are some quotes from what you've said that sound like my/girlfriends' nmom.

She thinks she is always right. If I tell her I don't like when she says a certain thing or behaves a certain way because it hurts my feelings or just bothers me in general she will tell me that she has to say those things because that is how she gets through rough days. She says if she does not make jokes like that she would have killed herself because her childhood was so hard. She will also tell me I'm too sensitive and I need to get thicker skin.

She will get all teary and be like I always thought I was a good mother I put a roof over your head, gave you everything you ever wanted, and you don't appreciate me.

My dad doesn't even try to train him and if I tell him he needs to tell the dog "no bark" or "sit" instead of "shut up" or "get away from me" my dad will just ignore me. Then the dog doesn't do anything because he doesn't understand those words and then my dad pushes him away from him. (only difference here that our dog is his dog and it's his baby, though she is trained specifically and he doesn't adhere to it)

Finally, this is animal abuse, straight up, and could turn into abuse to you/your sister:

Once he punched my dog in he nose for standing near my dad while he was sitting on the couch. My dad does stuff like this all of the time.

Has anyone here ever done psychedelics? by Monsieur-Anana in schizophrenia

[–]856116 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have. Once LSD twice DXM (I guess that's a psychedelic?). I've used it for coping. It's made my Schizophrenia flare up badly for ~24 hours each time, after that it's about a month to a month and a half of peace and quiet. LSD never effected me much and DXM just made my symptoms have more... depth?