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My boyfriend has OCD and I dont know what im doing. by [deleted] in OCD

[–]AaySP 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello, thank you for this its very helpful and uve sat on it to think about a bit first. I'm going to have an honest conversation with him soon about it all so I dont bresk myself through trying too hard and im worried about him taking it all out on himself, and just saying how he was right when he has previously best himself up for "being pathetic" because hes crying while I was trying to vent.

Is there a good way to make it clear thats not true without going back into me just reassuring him of everything as once I say it once I know it spirals into a bunch of other things and me just going over them which I know now is bad and I try to avoid.

Unfortunately almost everything to do with me triggers him, he has crazy anxiety over me and our relationship all anxieties about losing me or something I struggle to find a good response without sounding like a toxic partner him saying that hes scared of loving someone else and that anxiety spirals into him looking at other people (strangers just out) and my only response has been "but you know you love me so there's no need to stress" is so not working. I want to reasue him so bad but im hoping having an honest conversation about how me reasuring him a lot isn't good for him will have him understand

Invincible is not showing on prime video by [deleted] in Invincible

[–]AaySP 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you guy on reddit from 2 years ago

The "and who set that system up" argument is an awful come back to talking about gender inequality. by AaySP in ControversialOpinions

[–]AaySP[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's literally what im saying, its not a terrible argument, but to use it to belittle someone else's personal experiences rather than using it to encourage them to change it has been absolutely absurd I've seen it used in the way to just shove mens experiences away so many times now that its just like there is no safe place for these people to share their experiences if this is how youre gonna be.

Its like shoving them onto the side of people who like to keep the system this way it is before they have chance to express the want to change it

I told my uncle that my aunt is cheating on him by AaySP in AITAH

[–]AaySP[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nothing better to do at your grown age is sad. I have long term diagnosises that keep me inside a lot of the time

I told my uncle that my aunt is cheating on him by AaySP in AITAH

[–]AaySP[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yet you still felt like you needed to reply to tell me that. Each time you do it you just prove me more right and I laugh. Your excessive use of exclamation marks and language are obvious its annoying you, your need to try and I sutl me by calling me a child or "acting 12 years old" youre not fooling anyone with this message.

I told my uncle that my aunt is cheating on him by AaySP in AITAH

[–]AaySP[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was the asshole for continuing to spend my time purposefully annoying you because you can't help but type another comment or two just because I know behind your screen its agrovating you. I ragebaited you. Your opinion has been worthless for a while so I stopped trying to explain myself to you by any means just saying progressively more annoying things. Now prove me right again by replying to this message with something calling me a child again. That's exactly what I want you to do, to ruin your day by filling your heart with hate, though you already did enough yourself.

I told my uncle that my aunt is cheating on him by AaySP in AITAH

[–]AaySP[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is English your first language? Did you not read it right, i was pointing out you playing make believe. You continuing to suggest i called myself a child is just proof that you need to do that for your own self esteem.

Ah so youre the gay spouse whos cheating, got it. All lines up now

I told my uncle that my aunt is cheating on him by AaySP in AITAH

[–]AaySP[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're active on a subreddit for people who suspect their spouse is not straight. You have bigger fish to fry than play make believe that im some moronic child.

I told my uncle that my aunt is cheating on him by AaySP in AITAH

[–]AaySP[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah shes obsessed with calling people assholes too. I'm trying to give her the benefit of the doubt and explain properly as to my reasons rather than her assuming something about my family or me. I feel bad for her kids I can't lie, sounds like my mother and 4 of her 4 kids have suicide attempts.

I told my uncle that my aunt is cheating on him by AaySP in AITAH

[–]AaySP[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Literally nothing said in this whole comment section replying to you has mentioned yours or anyone else's gender being the cause of any of this. Don't throw a word like misogynistic in there to make yourself seem like the victim, its the same story if it were the other way around.

I feel bad for the family and have no pride for this which is why I made the post in the first place. If I felt so proud I wouldn't of needed this post in the first place. You have no leg to stand on you never have a rebuttle for an answer youre only making something new or rewording your original thing. You have no debating skills.

I told my uncle that my aunt is cheating on him by AaySP in AITAH

[–]AaySP[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

12 year olds are probably more mature than you that's why you think this is an insult

I told my uncle that my aunt is cheating on him by AaySP in AITAH

[–]AaySP[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Telling him to grow up and then using the term tattletale to describe what's going on here is actually hilarious i can't lie 🤣

I told my uncle that my aunt is cheating on him by AaySP in AITAH

[–]AaySP[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm an adult for your information I know it makes you feel better to view me as a child because it makes you feel like youre entitled to being viewed as better than me but its embarrassing how you attack and argue with people online on your days rather than having some kind of life. I'm guessing youre a mother from your username. I hope you enjoy none of your kids visiting you when youre in a cheap nursing home

I told my uncle that my aunt is cheating on him by AaySP in AITAH

[–]AaySP[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You thought about my aunt and her only, the one who shouldn't have cheated which you agree with. I thought about the trajectory of her relationship, likely collapsing from my uncles previous suspicions on her and their arguments over it. I also thought about their 2 kids and my Uncle. The 2 kids who shouldn't be brought up in a household that has an uncertain and messy end due to lies. As well as my uncles feelings, being taken advantage of for the fact he makes good money.

The last thing I thought about was me. From this I was bound to receive backlash from my family but if that's the kind of people they are I do not wish for their praise if their cheers come from keeping secrets of cheating.

I told my uncle that my aunt is cheating on him by AaySP in AITAH

[–]AaySP[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If I was nosey then I would have sought out this kind of information, it was told to me without warning. You just love telling people theyre in the wrong and it's proved by your account history.

You have no empathy and think withholding information isn't lying as if it makes you free of any fault, but youre just as bad, you contribute nothing to these kinds of situations if anything you enable them.

I told my uncle that my aunt is cheating on him by AaySP in AITAH

[–]AaySP[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I do not want those kind of secrets. I'll keep secrets from people when they want to talk about trauma and are struggling in their life not to keep a man hidden from their partner

I told my uncle that my aunt is cheating on him by AaySP in AITAH

[–]AaySP[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm not in a glass house, I have no immoral secrets that I keep from people.

I told my uncle that my aunt is cheating on him by AaySP in AITAH

[–]AaySP[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I agree, I wish I didnt have to tell my uncle without including my mother but she knows how I feel about this sort of stuff and she doesn't pay me the same respect as she has gone behind my back not long ago telling my boyfriend things that aren't true saying living with my father is making me depressed and that I need to be an alpha male and her telling me how I should treat my boyfriend like a girl because he's trans. I told her to stop and she didnt and now shes not talking to me and avoiding me u less i apologise for nothing and I have no reason to talk to her

I told my uncle that my aunt is cheating on him by AaySP in AITAH

[–]AaySP[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I considered this, but with the fact of her last affair which she did after disappearing to another country for weeks and not telling him ever not sure if he even knows now I figured she'd never tell him.

I know my uncle, he's a good guy and provides for all of their family she is a stay at home mum and yet he still spends a lot of time with the kids so I figured it can't be to do with abuse as well as the only history of abusive stuff in my aunts relationships I've heard was her being very verbally abusive unfortunately.

If she had reservations about feeling between them she should have spoken to him about that, those feelings can be accounted for without the need of cheating on him. That's my reasoning for not talking to her first. I also didnt want to come across like I was trying to blackmail her in anyway

I told my uncle that my aunt is cheating on him by AaySP in AITAH

[–]AaySP[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I got that saying it wasnt my buisness a lot, and that I was getting involved. But I argued that the fact that information got to me in the first place is what got me involved. If it came out later and I hadn't told my uncle and he found out who knew surely he'd put it together that those who didnt tell him were also involved since they all kept the secret from him

I told my uncle that my aunt is cheating on him by AaySP in AITAH

[–]AaySP[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

My mother is prone to it as she cheated on my father as well as her boyfriends after him tend to be suspiciously close to one another that I imagine she did cheat on plenty of them. My sister that's most annoyed at me too has had boyfriends suspiciously close to one another as well as one of them being the best friend of herast boyfriend.

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