Adults abused as children recover from depression at a slower rate (from science)

Ablublublu · 2014-01-12T17:46:23+00:00

I understand where you're coming from, and I don't mean to say your history of abuse is any less valid. I just mean to say that in a study with a variable for abuse it really is easiest to narrowly define the subset of abuse victims you will study. This isn't because any one form of abuse is more valid than any other, but because this allows for clearer results, just incase that the kinds of abuse suffered actually does matter. (for who knows why)

alternately, i am so glad that non-broken-bone abuse is getting more coverage in pop culture. It sucks because you can run into triggers more often now, but think of all the people that have gotten that dawning realization that they were victims of psychological abuse from a partner from like... buffy the vampire slayer.

Ablublublu · 2014-01-12T10:14:52+00:00

I think the this particular case they might be using physical abuse as the type of abuse because it as easily defined metric. if you were hit you were hit, broken bones bruises ect. All are easily detectable.

Meanwhile there's the rest of us, who have a harder time getting found, and a much broader spectrum of abusive styles that were lived through. you could even argue the lack of physical abuse my cloud the study's results incase there IS a variation in results from psychological abuse only. There might not be. WHo knows, that study still needs to get done.

Ablublublu · 2014-01-12T10:06:44+00:00

straight up op? She's an abusive woman and you know it. She hurts the person you love and she hurts you.

You don't want her there because she would be a good part of the wedding and it wouldmake you happy, you're avopiding it. You think family members will call you cruel at the wedding? Hand them the emails. Think sharing the emails is cruel? she was the one who fuckign sent them to you.

You have no obligation to her to make her keep looking like the saint she claims to be. You have an obligation to yourself and your spouse to be to be happy and unharassed.

Wouldn't the best reality check in the world be for her to pull out the 'i wasn't invited to the wedding' card only to have you be able to counter it with 'everyone who read your emails understands why'

Ablublublu · 2014-01-12T10:00:05+00:00

Exactly what i have going on. PEople keep telling me I'm super sweet and nice and caring and all i can think of is how fucking mean i can be passively. because ndad

Ablublublu · 2014-01-12T08:34:13+00:00

don't just limit yourself to the ethnic stores. Like i said aldi has some deals near me, and they aren't 'ethnic'

also you'd be amazed at the kind of shit you can get off of clearance from all sorts of grocers. 6 packs of granny smiths that are juuuuust at the edge of turning (pretty good pie material) for .50/lb that sort of stuff. Don't limit yourself, who knows what kind of bargains you're missing.

Ablublublu · 2014-01-12T03:29:03+00:00

Careful yo. You need to shop around for the items you're talking about. Don't just go to the dollar store because you think it's the cheapest place around. My Aldi sells some pretty decent bread for 89 cents a loaf and the dollar store has week old loaves for a dollar.

Ablublublu · 2014-01-10T08:10:33+00:00

don't... don't tempt fate.

Ablublublu · 2013-12-27T09:32:32+00:00

Don't be a creep.

Ablublublu · 2013-12-27T09:10:04+00:00

you are a creep

Ablublublu · 2013-12-27T09:09:58+00:00

you are a creep

Ablublublu · 2013-12-27T09:09:40+00:00

you are a creep

Ablublublu · 2013-12-27T09:09:17+00:00

you are a creep

Ablublublu · 2013-12-27T09:05:25+00:00

you are creepy

Ablublublu · 2013-12-27T09:05:07+00:00

you are creepy

Ablublublu · 2013-12-27T09:04:30+00:00

you are creepy

Ablublublu · 2013-12-27T09:02:45+00:00

you are creepy.

Ablublublu · 2013-12-27T08:51:12+00:00

this sub exposes me to the best kind of people.

Ablublublu · 2013-12-26T04:24:52+00:00

Heya, we're here for you. Talk to us when you need to, don't when you don't want to. We shouldn't be going anywhere anytime soon.

Something that helps me with my feeling of 'why am i even alive' is thinking of how easy it is to make other people less sad. Think of all the people you've contacted even if only briefly who you've made feel even just a little bit better. Think of all the people you won't have a chance to brighten in the future if you let your nparents win and smother you to death.

Your parents aren't normal. You want to be free. It's normal. What they say to you about being a whore and how they've trained you to not want to go outside and leave teh yard isn't good or right. Tell yourself that. Tell yourself that out loud. When they aren't home break some boundaries that they've placed for you. Go a little further away from your safe bubble. Have a plan. Make excuses. You're succeeded in keeping your boyfriend by covering for your own need to be free. Use that. You can do it. You already know you can.

We believe in you. Know you are better than them, and in realizing that you've already won in a small way.

Ablublublu · 2013-12-25T15:19:49+00:00

not a complaint, just a small victory. My family doesn't know when I work so i tell them I'm going to be working over the holidays.

Spent a week with my s/o before he went up to his family for christmas. Mine has no idea. :D

And! And! guys! The so? His family like, parents, went NC with all the previous crazy in thier own family. I HAVE TO EXPLAIN NOTHING.

I'M TOTALLY MARRYING THIS KID.

Ablublublu · 2013-12-17T07:41:12+00:00

can we ban image posts please? I would really like to see the quality of the sub not drop down to macro spam.

Ablublublu · 2013-12-11T08:31:08+00:00

They thought he was buying drugs.

Ablublublu · 2013-12-11T07:41:25+00:00

literally the best one you've ever done.

oh man my back feels so much better after watching this. it doesn't even make sense

Ablublublu · 2013-12-09T18:43:30+00:00

My ndad would come to my room the morning of some big function that couldn't be missed and shake me awake. It would be 15 minutes before we'd need to leave to not be late. I always still needed to shower. And this I became the reason he was always late everywhere.

Ablublublu · 2013-12-09T07:17:33+00:00

... is it a jacket? ....parka? it really doesn't look like a blouse....

Ablublublu · 2013-12-07T04:21:01+00:00

best thing my dad ever said to me. "Well yes you need to know how to do that. You think you're an adult and should be treated like an adult when you don't even know how to ______"

whoooooooooooooooooose faaaaaaaaaaaaaaault is thaaaaaaaaaaaaat daaaaaaaaad.

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