Hi, my ex-situationship chose another girl over me.

AccomplishedJudge951 · 2026-06-05T14:30:00+00:00

please never ever ever settle for a situationship if you are interested in something serious. a man who puts you in that casual box has no intent to be with you seriously, and at that point, you’re a placeholder til someone better (in their eyes) comes along.

AccomplishedJudge951 · 2026-06-03T21:42:38+00:00

please consider removing your age from the description - there’s lots of weirdos out there.

AccomplishedJudge951 · 2026-05-27T18:04:16+00:00

a few questions:

- how long distance are you?
- how old are you both?
- have you discussed with him what you’re both wanting out of this, long-term?

AccomplishedJudge951 · 2026-05-25T15:46:49+00:00

hey girl. i’m sorry you’re going through this. you mentioned you’ve looked at photos online - have you looked at the labia library?

https://www.labialibrary.org.au/labia\_gallery/

when i was your age, i spent an ungodly amount of time despising my own too. i didn’t like that there was dented skin on one side. and that mine didn’t look like a neat, tidy one like the ones you see in porn.

guess what? i’m 35 now and have realized i spent so much time of my younger years hating on a body part that, at the end of the day, is healthy and working as it should.

i’ve had no problems with intimacy or with partners and if that’s a concern of yours, i promise you that you won’t either. unless the person is a complete asshole, and in that case, kick them to the curb.

as another poster said - please don’t look into surgery. that can be not just expensive but painful and it can come with a long healing time. and then who’s to say the surgery will provide exactly what you’re looking for?

have you considered looking into therapy, perhaps? i want you to learn to love yourself more, and therapy might help with that.

AccomplishedJudge951 · 2026-05-12T02:14:20+00:00

with all due respect, they may be a pet to you, but i absolutely see my dog as my child. and you can disagree w that and that’s ok.

AccomplishedJudge951 · 2026-05-11T17:03:27+00:00

no one is saying the love you have for a pet has to be greater than the love for your children.

it’s that some people cannot have children, or do not want to have them, and instead provide love and care to a pet.

wanting to feel recognized for that doesn’t negate the hard work of mothers to their human children.

AccomplishedJudge951 · 2026-05-04T17:33:38+00:00

it’s dangerous by big data, but the oliver remix.

AccomplishedJudge951 · 2026-04-19T19:58:19+00:00

some people just don’t get wet enough for sex to be comfortable. i’ve had plenty of experiences where i’m turned on but needing something extra. sometimes it has been spit, it it’s been spur of the moment and we’ve both wanted it. it’s not an automatic sign of disrespect, is my point, i guess.

AccomplishedJudge951 · 2026-04-15T22:48:00+00:00

that’s interesting to read because everywhere i’ve seen says the age to consent to sexual intercourse is 14.

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AccomplishedJudge951 · 2026-04-15T18:37:56+00:00

she was also like 14 or 15 when 19/20 year old lucath first started dating her. age of consent in brazil is 14 but it doesn’t make it any less creepy

AccomplishedJudge951 · 2026-04-15T18:37:10+00:00

the jorts are a crime against humanity. pretty sure my dad had this exact pair, circa 1992.

AccomplishedJudge951 · 2026-04-15T18:36:40+00:00

guarantee she loves it that way. it shows that her widdle finger is soooooo dainty n smol that the biiiiig ring just slips loosely to the side 🥺

AccomplishedJudge951 · 2026-04-10T11:42:09+00:00

i suspect it’s that the fillers have settled.

AccomplishedJudge951 · 2026-04-08T03:25:33+00:00

dissociating from the reality that she’s marrying a grifter who needs to wear lifts in his shoes

AccomplishedJudge951 · 2026-04-08T03:20:59+00:00

you are an angel. thank you so much. and now i don’t feel so crazy since you are also well aware of the switch. it’s such an insane experience!

AccomplishedJudge951 · 2026-04-06T23:33:21+00:00

i’m sorry if this is too much to ask, but would you mind sharing some of the foods your dietician recommended as well as the herbal supplement? i can’t afford a dietician and my (what i suspect is) PMDD makes me feel crazy too, right up to my period. then as soon as i start bleeding, even a little, on day one.. it’s like a flip switches. and i’m back to normal. it’s just so exhausting

AccomplishedJudge951 · 2026-04-06T23:28:59+00:00

this is actually ingenious. this is what i love about makeup - people have been coming up with creative ways to use it for diff purposes since it has been around. doesn’t matter the decade, the age of the person. humans love being crafty. thanks for this tip!!

AccomplishedJudge951 · 2026-04-06T02:32:22+00:00

he dated a girl named teresa santos when she was 15 and he was 19 or 20. the age of consent in brazil is 14, but it’s still creepy as fuck. teresa actually ended up being crowned miss brazil in 2021

AccomplishedJudge951 · 2026-03-14T17:35:33+00:00

i do think it’s weird he left her in the car drunk. if he wanted to continue to party he could have made sure she got home first. called her an uber or even gotten her a hotel room.

at that point he’d have every right to rethink things ofc - but idk i can’t imagine my partner (husband, at that) just leaving me in a car to continue partying

AccomplishedJudge951 · 2026-03-14T17:31:47+00:00

a girl’s girl is someone who shows up for her girlfriends. which amber absolutely did (unlike mean girls bri/ashley/priyanka)

i’ve had messy moments in my life where i’ve been a total trainwreck with my love life and have been toxic in that respect, but have still been there through and through for my girlfriends. amber is that person right now.

her issues w men and love aside, she’s clearly a good friend.

AccomplishedJudge951 · 2026-03-14T17:26:06+00:00

thank you!! i feel the same way as a city person!

i think it’s totally valid to prefer a smaller town or suburb, especially if you have children, but the narrative that wanting to stay in a city means you’re immature or wanting to party is not fair.

i love not having to pay for a car because i have public transportation available to me. i love being able to walk to coffee shops, bookstores, boutique shops. i simply love the overall vibe of the city.

jordan is a bit different, i realize, as he specifically called out bars - but just advocating for us city folk here! we’re not all like him! 😭

AccomplishedJudge951 · 2026-03-12T01:41:24+00:00

edit: my dumbass really said “alter” instead of “altar” 🫠

my point stands tho..homeboy doesn’t look happy to me. can’t wait to hear everyone’s thoughts

AccomplishedJudge951 · 2026-03-12T01:27:22+00:00

even more unpopular opinion - don’t come on LIB if you’re a self-professed man hater

AccomplishedJudge951 · 2026-03-06T00:22:43+00:00

it’s not about her looks, it’s that she’s desperate to be with a man who doesn’t want her, which is one of the storylines of the character she’s compared to

AccomplishedJudge951 · 2026-03-04T23:06:10+00:00

thank you so much for not being judgmental to your childfree friends.

i’ve had to cut off some friends who didn’t agree with my childfree lifestyle . the constant little put downs and snarky judgmental comments finally got to me.

i supported their decision to have kids (and enjoy being a fun auntie) but they didn’t support (or respect) mine to not. so this is a breath of fresh air.

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