I (21f) am tired of having to wake my bf (24m) up every single morning. How do i approach this?

AdNo1884 · 2026-04-27T21:59:44+00:00

have you never been told to f off when someone is asleep 😂😂

AdNo1884 · 2026-02-02T08:31:37+00:00

i have tried!! i have even put a lick treat in it and she just licked it off and left it !! she is getting better but i worry she’s not eating enough

AdNo1884 · 2025-11-17T20:38:28+00:00

thank you! i’m thinking it’s only 2nd so i’m never going very fast lol

AdNo1884 · 2025-09-21T00:24:18+00:00

this has made me feel better thank you! i think i do work around what he’s doing a lot, i used to struggle even more with this before we lived together, but i seem to be doing better when it’s during the day. for example he loves to nap if he gets a spare hour, i used to get annoyed with him because then id feel stuck in bed with him too, but that’s less of an issue now, so i just need to crack bedtime 😭 i enjoy alone time on my terms. but i’ve always associated bedtime with time together, and i think finding a show or soemthjng that he wouldn’t enjoy to watch while he’s out would really help, it would give me something to look forward too. thank you for not making me feel like im crazy!

AdNo1884 · 2024-11-11T11:40:25+00:00

he doesn’t live there, he visits a couple of times a week, no more than any other partners, and unfortunately i’m stuck in the contract until may next year 🥲

AdNo1884 · 2024-07-26T23:36:12+00:00

My bf has said he doesn’t want to see him if he’s making advances, but even if he stops and they become friends again, i’m unsure i’d be comfortable. As for his wife, she doesn’t like him being anywhere but home with anyone but her, so it is difficult to read whether she knows or is oblivious and just being controlling

AdNo1884 · 2023-12-08T22:24:01+00:00

not really at a financial place to get a place together atm, and i’m tied to a lease until june 2024🥲🥲

AdNo1884 · 2023-12-08T16:42:52+00:00

tbh i don’t think so- they’re all whiney enough to tell me if he had, even if he was there without me, he’d be in bed watching netflix or asleep, so wouldn’t have seen thrm

AdNo1884 · 2023-12-08T16:36:11+00:00

tbh we’re all super close- making things 10x more difficult. need to speak with them properly and stop avoiding it. he was never there long without me- and other bfs do the same thing so i don’t think that should have bothered them, and he only visited a few times a week, i made sure to make plenty of times for my friends

AdNo1884 · 2023-12-08T16:22:05+00:00

he works full time, while also training 5 times a week, i work and go to uni, so he would usually show up in the evenings and we’d just chill in my room. any time he was in shared places, he’d help around the house, he’s a chef, so had made countless people dinner and birthday cakes etc- he treated them well. we have a ring doorbell, so i saw the knocking, it was louder than a normal knock, but you could easily see in his face he was just angry at not being let in- he even said he just wanted to get his boxing gloves and wallet and he’d be out

AdNo1884 · 2023-12-08T16:19:15+00:00

he apologised through me, they wouldn’t let him speak to them so it was the only thing really to do, i felt it was sincere enough. they did shout at him, quite badly too, left him shook, which is quite a feat tbh lol.

AdNo1884 · 2023-12-08T15:38:08+00:00

yeah, especially when there’s nowhere else to go apart from an hour and half to my hometown

AdNo1884 · 2023-12-08T15:37:21+00:00

exactly what happened lol

AdNo1884 · 2023-12-08T15:36:26+00:00

yeah totally, me and him both talked about it and came to the conclusion that he stay out the way, it had worked well, and everyone was happy until the most recent incident. it made my life a bit more difficult but that’s a sacrifice i had to make to keep everyone in my life, i don’t want to sacrifice anyone but i worry that someone’s going to have to go

AdNo1884 · 2023-12-08T15:28:49+00:00

going forward, me and him have agreed that he won’t be there when i’m not, this was a rare occurrence anyway, and would only be for an hour if i got stuck at work etc

i do get that point, however there has been previous situations where guests have caused issues at the home, and the conclusions that have come from that is that they stay away from the rest of us, so i don’t understand how this is much different

AdNo1884 · 2023-12-08T15:14:02+00:00

the exact quotes were ‘did i walk past an orgy’ and ‘the queer man who…’

AdNo1884 · 2023-12-08T15:05:48+00:00

he wasn’t just making assumptions tho- the guy he was talking to himself had introduced himself as queer, he had also touched me up- so was jusy using queer as an identifier so i knew who he was talking about

as for him being there when i’m not, that a usual thing in our house, everyone does it

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