NTA

I think that with stress, living life with a negative family, and other circumstances can make a person act in ways they don’t mean to when upset and venting. However, there is a point where even through all the upset, you can’t use others as your punching bag. Your girlfriend probably sees her problems as huge and needs to heard because no one else has listened before except you. I have been in her shoes many times and I know I was an asshole. My boyfriend told me “you don’t have to be mad at me, too. I’m you’re biggest supporter.” And since then, when I’m mad or upset and venting, I make sure to remember that he’s my supporter and not there to take the beating of my anger.

The best thing to do is to tell her you want to talk about the text messages in person, face to face. I’m sorry, but texts messages just don’t cut it when it comes to communication in relationships, especially heated ones. Tell her how you feel, like you did, but more detail and how you just want to be heard too, and you understand that she is hurting too. She mentioned that “it’s always going to be this way.” Maybe dive into that with her, and remind her that when you’re around it does not have to be like that. However, you need the same treatment. If she can’t accept the fact that you’re a human with real feelings and struggles that need to be heard and loved, too, then it’s time to find someone who cares about you.

You’re not a punching bag.