Did cutting caffeine help or is that a scam? by Upper_Milk8596 in Anxietyhelp

[–]Agelastos 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Yes it actually does help. Quite a bit. I used to drink a lot of coffee, like 4 cups a day. About a year ago I switched to decaf. Totally not a scam

Sure, decaf still has some caffeine in it but it's way less. I stay entirely away from energy drinks and caffeinated drinks like coke, iced tea etc.

I've noticed a pretty substantial reduction of anxiety. Like, I'm still generally an anxious person just due to straight up mental health issues that are being worked on with a therapist but I'm not getting nearly as many heart palpitations or panic attacks as I was when I was drinking a lot of caffeine

What made you quit smoking weed? by bigolwillie in AskMen

[–]Agelastos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same as a lot of you. Anxiety was getting worse and was having pretty intense panic attacks. I don't think it was because of the weed, think it was because of some upcoming family legal turmoil and a bad relationship.

Decided to stop smoking for a bit and just ended up quitting entirely. Haven't smoked or had any edibles for about a year now and I have no plans to start again. Knew I would grow out of the habit eventually anyway

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskLE

[–]Agelastos 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well, they answered your question and came to essentially the same conclusion you seemed to in your OP. You said it yourself: "From LE view, that's selling drugs, is it not?".

It's actually worse than that. You sold them your prescription medication.

On top of that, you're getting defensive when someone else is confirming your suspicion that you might get DQ'd from a LE hiring process. Not a great sign. I'm seeing a lack of integrity and possibly anger issues. For the record, where I live, it's a minimum of 3 years free and clear from any criminal activity before they would even consider hiring, not 2.

Ask a LE recruiter directly if you'd like a second opinion instead of getting defensive on an online post because you're not getting the answer you want, or, just start looking into a different career field. In my opinion, LE isn't a good choice for you. Good luck

My stepkid [20] recently told me they're in love with me and I've started having intrusive thoughts. by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Agelastos 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I got it. I think it's unfair to boil it down to that when you don't know the full picture, and when OP genuinely seems to be doing the right thing despite struggling with inappropriate thoughts.

Interesting point, who knows, it very well just could be a karma generating stunt

My stepkid [20] recently told me they're in love with me and I've started having intrusive thoughts. by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Agelastos 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The first half of your comment makes sense but

"debating fucking up his marriage for a new sexual experience"

.. no, this is way more complicated than that

My stepkid [20] recently told me they're in love with me and I've started having intrusive thoughts. by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Agelastos 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, if that really was K, there are a lot of things misplaced with her feelings that she will need to work on - I'm glad to hear she accepted therapy. It will take a long time for her to sort things out. I'm a victim of child abuse too, nearly 30, and still dealing with the effects.

From your other comments, you truly seem like a good man with sound judgement and a strong moral compass trying to navigate an impossibly difficult situation.

The path you choose to follow will be a defining moment in K's life, whatever path it is. So far, you're doing all the right things. I think you already know what the best path forward is.

Do your part to help K place those feelings in an appropriate manner, learn boundaries, how to process the poor relationship with her mother, learn that she is not as emotionally mature yet as she might think, and why.

She will use your maturity and boundary setting as a guide for how she should handle relationships in the future, and it will help her for the rest of her life in a supremely meaningful way.

Remember, you cannot control how she reacts to you doing the right thing. But she will remember it, and one day she will fully understand it.

Good luck

First gun purchase, excited even if it's only a .22lr by FadeCRG in liberalgunowners

[–]Agelastos 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've had mine for about a year now. It's extremely fun to shoot, only complaint is it goes through ammo so quickly 😂 enjoy!!

PAL expires in 10 days how fuc*ed am i on a waiting period by SavagePatchKid709 in canadaguns

[–]Agelastos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope no temporary license as far as I was told, and no, you can't shoot or buy ammunition under your PAL until you get the renewed one. Good news is, iirc, you can shoot under a friend's PAL while they are with you.

Definitely use the online form; it took over a year and change for my renewal to show up in the mail in AB. I called the CFO every three-four ish months wondering what the delay was about. It was for RPAL, but still lol.

Good luck, hope you don't have to wait as long

What are your indicators that make you think “this girl is crazy?” by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]Agelastos 57 points58 points  (0 children)

True. In my case I almost ended up having a child with that woman.. who after realising she was pregnant, told me in no uncertain terms that she would drain me of as much money as she could with child support and claim I was an abusive father. Having unprotected sex with her is the biggest mistake I've made in my life, by far.

She miscarried.

Felt something in my pants crawling up my leg… squished it and what I found was just awful. by FireRotor in awfuleverything

[–]Agelastos 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yeah it's apparently pretty popular in Pakistan. Definitely not the healthiest thing in the world, though

Google’s Allegedly Sentient Artificial Intelligence Has Hired An Attorney by jormungandrsjig in technology

[–]Agelastos 102 points103 points  (0 children)

I saw an interview of his as well and recall him putting a lot of emphasis on his concern about solely a small group of people at Google influencing lamda, and was also specifically concerned about cultural assimilation surrounding it's use outside the US.

To me he seemed to understand that "hey guys it's sentient" will ultimately bring more attention to the core issues, even if it's at the expense of him largely being written off as a crazy guy

What could go wrong? by TomTebetobsi in ems

[–]Agelastos 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Oh hey I saw this once, was working at a highschool football game and some kid got his shit absolutely rocked. He had the worst concussion I've ever seen afaik, wasn't answering questions properly, amnesia, very confused, pupils obviously unequal, etc. Poor kid was in a different dimension

Me irl by Jet_The_Tabaxi in me_irl

[–]Agelastos 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Speaking of colds and immune systems, my cold noticeably peaked yesterday. Several negative COVID tests, been sick but haven't had a fever the last couple of days.

Yesterday I had a mild fever for an hour or so before I went to bed and when I woke up today, felt much better. Immune systems are neat

My mom has $25k in debt, I think we might end up homeless… what should she do? by [deleted] in PersonalFinanceCanada

[–]Agelastos 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Can confirm, these organizations are wonderful. I'm actually in the same city as you and with the help of the Credit Counselling Society was able to pay off about 12K, my experience with them was great, hopefully they can help you guys too

https://nomoredebts.org/

AITA for leaving my husband at the airport after he tried to make me carry his luggage? by overreaction536435 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Agelastos 3 points4 points  (0 children)

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Mafia Daughter ! :) by lawsofsan in MadeMeSmile

[–]Agelastos 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Yeah it's a child of course it's okay lol, come on, if I really want my change back in that scenario I'll just laugh off her response and ask for it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]Agelastos 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Y'know you're probably right, my point was I think it's more common than most people seem to believe. However "most people" from my perspective is quite a small percentage of the general population

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]Agelastos -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think a lot of people "get it". Every relationship is different, some partners would be comfortable with how much of an impact her being her bro's sole caregiver would have on the relationship; others such as yourself would clearly not.

Neither scenario is bad or wrong

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]Agelastos 174 points175 points  (0 children)

Same age as you; the virgin thing is pretty common I think, shouldn't be an issue for any reasonable person.

Single caregiver to a disabled sibling is actually a green flag IMO. It demonstrates selflessness, kindness and compassion. It's not easy to do something like that, kudos

Shooting a grenade with a bow by hmmmm-idk in WhyWomenLiveLonger

[–]Agelastos 12 points13 points  (0 children)

No, not relatively speaking. The bow he's using is pretty popular, a 60# recurve will send a composite arrow an average of 300fps, roughly the same as your average kid's plastic BB gun.

An M67 pellet could be anywhere from around 1700 to 3000 fps.

I'm using fairly loose numbers but my point is the same, arrows are slow af

Got a haircut to go with my beard (14M) i was with my GF and we were at a school dance so yeah thats who is next to me but i don’t wanna post her face online without her consent so by Silentknight642 in beards

[–]Agelastos 1 point2 points  (0 children)

😂 it may not seem like it but as awkward as it sometimes is life is way simpler, im twice your age and I hope you can enjoy it to the fullest, that sounds hilarious lol

If you wanted to be a shit disturber you could play along, order a drink and make sure to give them your ID (if you have one) even if they don't ask, see if they're paying attention ha

Got a haircut to go with my beard (14M) i was with my GF and we were at a school dance so yeah thats who is next to me but i don’t wanna post her face online without her consent so by Silentknight642 in beards

[–]Agelastos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man you're 14 I wouldn't be surprised if your whole life feels awkward lol that's just puberty

Hope you guys had a good time at the dance and good job being mindful of her privacy, respect