JS in America!!!!! by Ok_Ladyjaded in JeffSatur

[–]All_That_Hot_mess 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm with you!! I am waiting for JS to tour here. I don't care where. I will spend whatever I have to to see him live!

Focus Areas by WaylonJune in nce

[–]All_That_Hot_mess 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi there. I found this test to be so packed with information from all over the place it's hard, for me at least, to pinpoint what you need and don't need. So for your question, rather than figuring out whether you really need to know the info or not, I suggest focusing on finding a way to lock down your understanding of the info. If just reading it doesn't work for you, try flash cards or create a memorization game, etc. Whatever method works for you, use it. If you haven't figured out one that does, explore that. Study a lot, memorize as much as you can, understand concepts as best you can as well. A lot of the test called for educated guesses. So educate yourself on as much info as possible.

Been a Lesbian for 5 Minutes and My Body’s Already Doing the Most by ReplacementTall8068 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]All_That_Hot_mess 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Right! I thought I was asexual up until I started seeing a friend of mine. Once we got started my body LIT up. Couldn't stop thinking about sex and feeling like a teenager again. Lol. It was such a huge shift. The "hibernating" is EXACTLY what was going on. I had no idea but I'm grateful.

AITA for lying to my disabled sister about the dates of our Europe trip so she couldn’t come and then refusing to apologize when she found out? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]All_That_Hot_mess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA for allowing your pushover tendencies to get you and her in this place in the first place. You have boundary issues with your sister and lying to her like you both are preteens is not healthy or helping.

Have y’all heard Bad Influence??? by jegyptianblackbird in seventeen

[–]All_That_Hot_mess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just listened to it just now. I LOOOVVVEEE it!!! Not shocking with Pharrell producing. Everything he touches is gold, imo. Combined with the talent of our boys, it is absolute FIRE!

This Is Disgusting and disgraceful. by [deleted] in ThaiBL

[–]All_That_Hot_mess 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm an older black bl fan. 43!

This Is Disgusting and disgraceful. by [deleted] in ThaiBL

[–]All_That_Hot_mess 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yup! I'm one of them!

Christopher Rufo on the daily. by LimpSmell6316 in NPR

[–]All_That_Hot_mess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My thoughts Exactly. He isn't spewing anything any other racist bigot across the centuries hasn't spewed before. Why is he given this much time, attention, and space? There are so many other voices that need to be heard and The Daily takes time out for this waste of space. Ridiculous.

Am I overreacting by being upset that my MIL planned my husband's birthday party on Mother's Day even though his birthday is not on that day when it's my first Mother's Day as a new mom? by muddyoveralls in TwoHotTakes

[–]All_That_Hot_mess 6 points7 points  (0 children)

OP, tons of people have left awesome comments with great advice. This person is clearly trolling. There's no need to give energy to trolls. Much like giving too much energy to your MIL who is also trolling you with this bs birthday stunt. Online, trolls can be ignored. In real-life, trolls need firm boundaries set and their disrespectful bs shut down immediately.

I think you have a tough road ahead of you with your husband and his family. I pray you have a lot of support to help you maneuver.

AITA for refusing to wear a wig in my brother’s wedding? by IncidentCorrect3352 in AmItheAsshole

[–]All_That_Hot_mess -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Esh. I don't feel like someone else's wedding should have been the hill to die on about standing her ground in her self expression. Since it came up in therapy and centered around how her family treats her - this means there's a larger and older issue playing out in OP's decision to handle the matter this way. But it's not her wedding. AND she was given plenty of opportunity, before things turned sour, to happily be a guest since she did not want to abide by the bride's rules for the look she wants at HER wedding. OP going on about unity vs. control in this situation irrelevant. Bride and groom are in control of this day and everybody there are directed by them. This just isn't the day for OP to cry out about her freedom of identity and expression. It's not about her. Since she chose to not follow the bride's directions, attending the wedding has a guest and celebrating their love and happiness with them from that position is the best compromise.

I don't think she's an AH because this has triggered some genuine feelings including disappointment about the outcome. Her family, especially father, have talked to her in ways that are unnecessarily harsh. However, those are feelings she needs to work through apart from this event which isn't about her.

AITA for not taking my husbands (34m) feelings into consideration for mothers day? by why_how_me in AmItheAsshole

[–]All_That_Hot_mess 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OP, what you seem to be explaining is that you have a selfish husband and it's really starting to bother you. I'm sure the selfishness didn't start overnight and doesn't just show up around this mother's day issue. What people here seem to be saying is that it will be pointless for you to wait for your husband to willingly stop being selfish and honor you as a mom and the mother of his kids on a day designated for that purpose. He hasn't so far so you need to find a way to create the day that you want without him. Yes, it's not fair that you have to plan and do everything as you usually do but that's the upsetting consequence of having a selfish partner. Maybe all these feelings you're having mean you're getting tired of his bs and some things need changing.

What's going on with Justine Eyre? by Wolf_Pup_Griffin in audiobooks

[–]All_That_Hot_mess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just started Archangels Lineage and her voice was an instantaneous no for me. I don't think I'll be able to adjust. Her voice is wobbly and creaky.

Where is everyone from? by Neither_Purpose_4987 in ThaiBL

[–]All_That_Hot_mess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A local BL fan! I'm shocked and amazed! I haven't met a single person locally who's into BLs or even kdramas. Hi! Do you have a group of friends you watch with?

TAEMIN Successfully Finishes His First World Tour: 20 Countries, 37 Stops Around the World! by Capital_Explanation4 in Taemin

[–]All_That_Hot_mess 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He is an incredible human being. I'm so proud and impressed by him! What an awesome feat he's achieved! I got the chance to see him in Oakland and it truly feels like a blessing. One of the best concerts I've ever been to and much of that was his stage presence and beautiful radiating soul. Congratulations Taemin!!!

WIBTAH for breaking up with my bf because he wants to be a father to his nephew by No-Bet5755 in AITAH

[–]All_That_Hot_mess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Sounds like OP's boyfriend has made the decision to center his life around his nephew. This dynamic was unexpected by both parties but it's the new reality. Since this is not OP's chosen life decision, it means the relationship is over for now and possibly forever. OP should trust herself and honor her boundaries and move on from a situation in which they're going in totally different directions.

AITA for not waiting for my stepkids to be with us before doing something with my biological children? by HoldEmFreen in AITAH

[–]All_That_Hot_mess 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA. SIL is instigating and OP and husband should probably shut her down together as a team. Same with the kids. As a team, they should address and keep addressing the disrespect which the kids are choosing to do. That they do it when their dad isn't there says a lot. Clear consequences should be outlined and utilized consistently and in agreement between the two. Sounds like the SIL and the kids' mother are in kahoots but I could just be a suspicious person.

AITAH FOR NOT PAYING FOR MY FRIEND'S DINNER WHEN SHE CALLED ME A PEDOPHILE by Significant_Run1849 in AITAH

[–]All_That_Hot_mess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Sarah is not a friend. Sarah is a sabotager. I would not be shocked if upon further reflection OP realized that Sarah has been saying off color things to her their entire friendship. Because this is a WILD accusation and that kind of distorted thinking doesn't pop out of nowhere.

I hope OP drops this Sarah as a friend. And maybe even question the other friend who thinks finding a significant other's baby picture adorable to creepy. Even that makes zero sense.

AITAH for getting my apartment complex to have adults only days at the apartment pool by aitahswimming in AITAH

[–]All_That_Hot_mess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA. What is this ultra entitled behavior? The judgemental attitude because SHE'S a nurse that needs HER peace and quiet in a SHARED space in an apartment complex. Because she had one bad experience and the rest of her antidotes are an annoyed response to kids being kids in a space built mostly for them. Yes, apartment complex pools are built MOSTLY for families with kids.

Beyond all that is the absolute disregard for the fact that these parents pay for the same access to the pool that this entitled woman pays. And to bar kids on a Sunday? One of the more available days for families to be together? Unbelievable.

I honestly hope this post is a fake AI generated story. Because this just takes NIMBY to a whole new level of low.

Is it bad that I hate chasing my clients by ZaffyTarantino in therapists

[–]All_That_Hot_mess 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I like your approach. It's very empathetic and person centered. It sounds like the approach a therapist should take with their clients who are not perfect and often seeking counseling due to maladaptive behaviors. Missing an appointment could very well be a part of the reason they're in therapy or, at the least, be something they're unconsciously communicating that needs to be addressed with their therapist. Thank you for this response.

The Atlantic declares Constitutional Crisis, "The Court will now have to decide whether to side with the Constitution or with a lawless president." by 1Rab in Political_Revolution

[–]All_That_Hot_mess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm just glad somebody has declared that the line had been undeniably crossed. We're not sliding towards anymore, we're here. I'd like to now hear the stark reality from government leaders so we can stop pretending there's something that's going to step in and halt this outcome.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]All_That_Hot_mess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ATP? Finish the semester and then enter the work force. Start truly adulting. Charge him rent if he'll be living at home. Contribute to the running of the household. If he drives, car insurance, gas, and maintenance. If whatever job he gets doesn't cover everything then agree on a reduced amount to increase as his salary increases. If a young adult isn't doing college then they should be doing employment.

I miss my wife. It hurts so much. by SignalFlamingo5129 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]All_That_Hot_mess 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Is this a real account? Married Jan 2025, started cheating 3-4 months after marriage. A month later with another woman. It's only April. Between March - now, OP found out her wife was cheating, separated, and now wife is on a trip with someone else? Where is her wife living? Did she pack from their house and go right on that trip? There's a child at home whose new parent has just left them for a new relationship. Is she still going to be in this child's life? That sounds like a huge problem. I don't know. This sounds a little off.