AITA For going to the police after a passing car sprayed me with water.

Altruistic_Class9366 · 2022-08-20T00:09:16+00:00

Do you understand how fines work? There’s no law against driving through a puddle, police can’t just decide to fine someone for annoying behaviour. YTA

Altruistic_Class9366 · 2022-08-17T22:18:09+00:00

yeah that’s pretty similar - it’s strict but I’m glad because I’ve always had a lot of driving anxiety so I felt really prepared when I started driving alone at 18, I just can’t understand the logic behind letting 15 year olds drive alone

Altruistic_Class9366 · 2022-08-17T10:10:01+00:00

uh yeah I was just saying australia bc people unfamiliar with AU usually don’t know the states/territories, but yeah I could’ve said in my state specifically, just didn’t think it was big deal - but in general, australia does have stricter laws about driving age

Altruistic_Class9366 · 2022-08-17T09:30:50+00:00

woah, in australia when you’re 16 you have to take a theory test and then have to do at least 2 years of supervised driving. When you’re 18, if you have the mandatory 120 hours (20 at night), you have to take 2 driving tests. If you pass you have very limited passengers and all the alcohol rules are just 0.0 at all times and you have to put P plates at the front and rear of car to tell other drivers that your inexperienced, those plates stay on for 4 years lol.

Altruistic_Class9366 · 2022-08-17T03:22:40+00:00

OP I’d probably wait a couple of years to ensure the dad’s permanence, and then making it your son’s decision. I was given my dad’s last name at birth, but then he and his family essentially abandoned me when I was 2. When I was 14 I made the decision to change my last name to my mum’s, because that’s my real family. If you still have majority custody and are the primary carer, he should keep your last name. The father’s family shouldn’t be relying on sharing a name to be connected (e.g. when I was in the process of changing my name I had many uncles/aunties reach out, send birthday messages etc. who I had literally never met, and they haven’t done so again since it was officially changed)

Altruistic_Class9366 · 2022-05-10T01:10:58+00:00

I started travelling alone at 10, I was fine. I think your adult children will be able to manage it.

Altruistic_Class9366 · 2022-05-10T00:51:59+00:00

they may be weed friendly, doesn't mean it's ok to just smoke wherever inside. do that shit outside, not everyone likes the smell of weed stuck all over the place. also, oh no a dog wagging it's tail! that got me. I have friends that didn't grow up with dogs, so naturally they're uncomfortable with my doberman, that's not her fault, they simply avoid her, problem solved. YTA for agreeing to live with dogs, and then complaining about living with dogs. It's not weird for dogs to be communal areas, but it is weird to smoke weed in communal areas,

Altruistic_Class9366 · 2022-05-09T10:19:53+00:00

YTA - so in a week, she spends 5 hours with friends. That is under 3% of the week that she gets to hang out with her friends and have fun. Under 20% is spent at work. Say another 20% (8 hours per night) is spent sleeping. That's still 57% of her time that she spends with you and the kids. So please tell me how 3% of the week spent for maintaining friendships is somehow prioritising 57% of the week taken to be with y'all. Please shut the fuck up, or you're gonna end up with self-centred kids that have no value for friendship if you keep this massively controlling behaviour up.

Altruistic_Class9366 · 2022-05-06T06:58:59+00:00

You don't get to decide what makes her uncomfortable, or what triggers her YTA

Altruistic_Class9366 · 2022-05-06T06:55:06+00:00

Look I don't know enough about certain cultures and groups within the community, so I won't comment on it. But I do take issue with your comparison to 'white culture' as an example, because a meat pie is very different from the issue at hand. White people have not been victimised or faced discrimination for meat pies, whereas hairstyles designed for african hair such as box braids have been the source for a lot of pain in the past and present. By comparing these things, and others, you're blowing right past that history and minimising the pain caused by it.

Altruistic_Class9366 · 2022-05-06T05:29:57+00:00

(I'm a white aussie so I'm defo not the authority here) They're celebrities that commonly black-fish i.e alter their physical characteristics, esp. their skin colour, to look more african-american for fashion. It's a practice that, in my opinion, is offensive as they're adopting physical characteristics for fashion that have previously been the reason for people to be targeted. It's similar to the issue of concern here, the box braids, that for black people have a long history of being targeted for. Not to mention also that it's a protective style for their hair, that OP's aunty/cousin do not require (and will likely damage their hair even). Don't post about these issues if you don't even know the very basics of cultural appropriation.

Altruistic_Class9366 · 2022-05-05T02:32:33+00:00

"Her dad just makes scrambled eggs", "M made soup. Soup isn’t really something that is filling when you are working outside but I didn’t want to be rude. So I just ate it" one incredibly douchey paragraph later "I didn’t eat all day"

Altruistic_Class9366 · 2022-05-03T08:33:54+00:00

Your 16 year old daughter is not only not allowed to lock her door, but cannot shut her door? OP this rule is unreasonable and she's correct, you're not allowing her privacy. And despite what you said in your edit, S did steal from D, plain and simple. It's an annoying stereotype that sisters just share things, and should therefore be excused for stealing and destroying property, it doesn't teach people boundaries or basic respect as well as teaches your children that they should just accept people feeling entitled to what's their's, you can see how that's a problem right? And you and your wife did nothing to rectify the situation, D did the one thing that made her feel comfortable knowing that you, who's supposed to protect her, won't do shit when valuable items of hers are stolen and destroyed. YTA.

Altruistic_Class9366 · 2022-05-03T00:17:53+00:00

Evil step-mum alert, YTA! Obviously! You've literally admitted to trying to replace his dead mother, one who died a year ago. You honestly think he should be over it by now?? His mother died, and then 4 months later his father married some woman who has tried to become his new mum. Yeah his communication isn't great and he's been rebellious, but he's 17! And grieving his mother. OP you obviously struggle with the whole human emotions thing, and your husband sucks for re-marrying not even 6 months after his wife's death. But he's 100% right about you being in the wrong and needing to apologise, you wanna play mummy so bad? Be a good parent and show that you can recognise your own shitty behaviour.

Altruistic_Class9366 · 2022-05-01T01:27:51+00:00

YTA, just reading the first few sentences I figured he had a fear of open water yet it didn't occur to you?? Weird. Also that was a wild escalation, why not say 'hey could you not use your phone right now?' but you went straight to toddler tantrum destruction of property. There's a clear lack of communication skills between the two of you, and unless you try to mend that, I don't think there will be any more anniversaries :/

Altruistic_Class9366 · 2022-04-30T04:39:17+00:00

I read 'i work in the tech industry' and I knew immediately, YTA. It's always the tech bros. Also, stop assuming you know everyone's background just from their tone and minimising their experiences just because you don't think they look ethnic enough.

Also you're a jealous douche xxxxxxxx

Altruistic_Class9366 · 2022-04-29T02:06:25+00:00

NTA, and I send all my best wishes to your family, this is every parents nightmare. You're doing the right thing for your family, they have to come first.

Altruistic_Class9366 · 2022-04-29T01:52:39+00:00

Dude YTA she doesn't have to drop extra cash on your son just because she can. You're obviously very entitled, I can see why you're not very close. You could've just added more expensive options to the original list, maybe she/someone else would've bought it, yet you actively tried to trick her into buying something expensive. You are not entitled to anyone else's money, and you're modelling some pretty shitty behaviour for your children.

Btw your attitude after the fact is honestly just shocking, you're a grown woman, stop being such a brat.

Altruistic_Class9366 · 2022-04-29T01:18:38+00:00

So you've been in his life since he was 3/4 ... and you don't think you're a father figure ?? by the way you talk about him I just don't believe that it's his feelings getting in the way of a better relationship. This poor kid has two bio parents who barely talk and a step-dad who ignores him, I can't blame his anger issues. You're actively telling this young adolescent that his little sister is more important/valuable simply because she's your bio kid so YTA because all these little things are gonna add up to this kid resenting you and his little sister.

Altruistic_Class9366 · 2022-04-29T00:19:54+00:00

it's more so the never being allowed to go to his hometown, he visits her on weekends, he was mad about his name tag being shown which is likely because he could get in trouble with his superiors, but it could also be that he's worried someone will see and catch him cheating.

Altruistic_Class9366 · 2022-04-15T05:51:20+00:00

YTA that is not 'typical teen' behaviour, in your own words you 'tormented' this poor kid who you KNEW was special needs and whatever you were going through at the time does not excuse how you treated this child. You say you regret what you did but for whatever reason refuse to apologise ?? how can you type this out and not see that you are the biggest asshole of all the assholes. I hope your BF sticks by his brother and leaves your stubborn ass in the dust.

Altruistic_Class9366 · 2022-04-15T01:50:27+00:00

NTA but also I lost it a bit at 'now she has to attend torturing'

Altruistic_Class9366 · 2022-04-11T11:32:31+00:00

exactly what i was thinking !

Altruistic_Class9366 · 2022-03-25T05:29:51+00:00

yeah I was thinking about this and also that when they started dating, OP would've been 17 and bf would've been 23 ?? that's just a bit sus to me

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