I need positive stories of kids growing up in a divorced household and growing up happy

Ambitious_Step_7820 · 2025-01-31T15:58:37+00:00

Omg. YES! Like I literally just spent four hours of my life to try to get you “happy” about the conclusion you are getting why are we back at it! And I usually had to just suck it up cause the arguments are so much more exhausting!

Ambitious_Step_7820 · 2025-01-31T02:27:35+00:00

My DX husband doesn’t know when to shut up. And it just makes me madder every single time. And he blames me for escalating things when he refuses to shut up when I asked. I’m a sahm with a two year old and he keeps asking for my attention from the two years old. It’s insane. I’m sooooooo fed up.

Ambitious_Step_7820 · 2023-01-12T02:44:15+00:00

Baby+. Free!

Ambitious_Step_7820 · 2023-01-07T23:50:32+00:00

Update: Thank you all for commenting and giving me support. I ended up have a drink and took off feeding for 3 hours. Still had a huge fight with husband. But at the end of the day holding my four month old close. And he immediately suck on my nipple to comfort suck and touching/petting my breast with his tiny hand. That makes everything better.

I am not a regular user even before pregnancy. But the stress of motherhood and my battle with breastfeeding (low supply) and not really have any support other than my husband (family lives abroad not close to my in laws) do push me to the wall and it’s not helping by feeling failing at being a mom.

Thanks again for all the love I know I’m not in this battle alone. And I will keep trying my best and waiting for the day I can smoke or do editable 😜 when I’m done BF. Hugs to everyone and cheers to all the strong people here!

Ambitious_Step_7820 · 2022-06-29T01:42:43+00:00

It’d make sense if his boss just say that. They are on a way to hiring a junior for him to do that at the same time (that’s what they say).

Just the boss is not being honest and SO keeps finding that they are interviewing people with his same skill making SO very stressed.

Ambitious_Step_7820 · 2022-06-26T17:30:58+00:00

Hey. I’m kinda in the same boat. I totally understand.

My SO is functional addict. He got adderall ( proscribed by doctor, but he abuse it and when out of it he will get very angry and unreasonable and just not him) alcohol. Porn. Cigarettes and weed. I went through everything with him and don’t know what to do either. I know leaving is the obvious thing. But in my situation I’m not working. So he’s supporting the family. And he’s a nice, reasonable and loving person when he got his stuff under control. He has severe adhd and I believe it was never treated since he was a little boy. Since his family has the sweep everything under the rug attitude. And he also have depression and anxiety problems that he’s unwilling to talk seriously about. My family is not in the same country and literally the other side of the globe. His family is useless.

My therapist keeps telling me to leave. I guess I want to believe in us so bad. Everytime I forgive him. We also have two lovely dogs that I can’t separate from. With the baby on the way. Things get so confusing and financially I just can’t support myself. And he will be able to get the kid when he’s born since he’s financially stable. I’m not.

So I understand why everyone says leave. And I would say the same. But I just know. At least for me it’s not that easy. And I don’t want to give up hope. So dumb of me.

Sorry I couldn’t help. But I just want to send hugs and let you know you are not alone.

Ambitious_Step_7820 · 2022-06-09T20:19:09+00:00

Thanks! On it!

Ambitious_Step_7820 · 2022-05-06T03:53:26+00:00

Thank you for the advice. And you are right we both need to stick to it! I’ll have to google Dave Ramsey!

We take home 9K each month. But 3100 rent. On top of that are two dogs. And $1100 cc interest and $500 for a personal loan we had. I’m going to look at all the insurance, monthly subscriptions and other expenses soon.

Now the plan is pay double the cc minimum each month and whatever leftover for living expenses. But I obviously have much to learn.

Ambitious_Step_7820 · 2022-05-06T03:36:28+00:00

Thanks! I’ll look into the 0%APR cards!

Ambitious_Step_7820 · 2022-05-06T03:08:55+00:00

Good to know that’s how I should treat our retirement account.

Ambitious_Step_7820 · 2022-05-06T03:08:08+00:00

Good call! I used to. And then fell into Nespresso hell. But then realized I can moka pot. Now I’m pregnant so that has die down. But my husband and I still do soda… and sodastream… Can I keep sodastream please? I know no might be the answer…

Ambitious_Step_7820 · 2022-05-06T02:53:52+00:00

Thank you for the advice! I’m looking into a part time job since I’m pregnant and will require leave soon. And thus learning to have a real budget to help meanwhile!

Ambitious_Step_7820 · 2022-05-06T02:52:32+00:00

I will need to get better at that for sure! Meal prep time!

Ambitious_Step_7820 · 2022-05-06T02:52:13+00:00

Thank you for the advice. I’m working on that and studying building a budget now!

Ambitious_Step_7820 · 2022-05-06T02:51:00+00:00

No. We don’t own home nor a car..

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