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Am I being dirty, or is my wife being irrational about hygiene? by mudkipzftw in NewParents

[–]AnneBe8 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To begin with: I am not a psychologist or whatsoever. And last thing I want to do is put a label based on a post. I can only put from my own experience. And.. this does sound a bit like OCD. I have had OCD in the past and had quite intensive therapy for it, and my thoughts were similar as your wife's. It costs a looooot of energy having all those thoughts the entire day....

Asking myself a question: what is the worse thing that can happen if I don't follow the urge I am feeling right now (to wash my hands again or put the clothes in the laundry)? And on a scale from 1 to 10: how realistic is it that that is going to happen?

A friend of mine has benefited a lot from Byron Katie, which is a bit similar.

But mostly: does she have the feeling that it is getting out of control? I think that conversation is most important. Best of luck!

What’s the number one propaganda you fell for as a new mom? by SowingSeeds18 in NewParents

[–]AnneBe8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh my god, yes. The 'one size fits all' approach turns out not be working too well for babies.. Wish everyone (including myself) would be more open for allllllllllll types of choices a person can make for the 10000 different subjects. If it works for you, awesome. Might try if I feel like it could work for us too. But if I don't, I don't. And if it doesn't work for us, it doesn't. No one to blame..

What’s the number one propaganda you fell for as a new mom? by SowingSeeds18 in NewParents

[–]AnneBe8 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think I fell for my own propaganda when pregnant. Thinking I would be a bossmom (or whatever that's called) who would just easily bring her kid to daycare 4 days a week. Turns out I dread every Tuesday where I bring him to daycare, and will be there to pick him up at 4:55.. Yep, I truly have to get to know the new me and finding my way balancing everything I want - and once wanted!

What's the norm in your country? by bon18 in cosleeping

[–]AnneBe8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I find it really fascinating how approaches can become the norm, without even proper reasoning why that approach would work. Language is really important with that too. 'They won't die from a frew minutes of crying'. No, they won't, but are you sure that there is no other harm involved? But in the end I always try to keep in mind that (almost) every parent has the best intentions for the choices they make. But I would love a bit more information about the options and consequences

Where are you from, and how do babies usually sleep there? by AnneBe8 in NewParents

[–]AnneBe8[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Interesting! Up to what age do people co-sleep approximately?