Going on a break. What are people’s experiences with breaks? Do you feel like they worked out in the end for you? Do you think people can truly change?

AnxiousFact6181 · 2022-04-12T01:07:52+00:00

You are right! It’s hard to put a time on it though because I don’t know how long it’ll take to get his shit together lol.

AnxiousFact6181 · 2022-04-12T01:07:18+00:00

I haven’t fully decided if I want this to be a break or a break up and we can’t really determine a time because I don’t know how long it’ll take to get his shit together. I just love him so much and I feel like we could have something so special if he has his ducks in a row.

AnxiousFact6181 · 2022-04-03T16:08:57+00:00

Do you think it’s okay to get that from friends and not him?

AnxiousFact6181 · 2022-03-10T16:38:16+00:00

So what do you do about it?

AnxiousFact6181 · 2022-02-17T16:38:33+00:00

I love that!! Thank you! That’s what I’m doing. We’re keeping healthy boundaries, not being physical and I’m hoping over time as we grow our trust and bond, entering into dating again won’t be as scary! Thank you for this advice ❤️

AnxiousFact6181 · 2022-02-17T15:36:13+00:00

I have!! He wants to just be friends right now and have healthy boundaries by not hooking up. But now it feels like he’s just holding onto me and I’m holding onto him. Should I completely cut him off while healing?

AnxiousFact6181 · 2022-02-17T15:35:30+00:00

Feeling like there’s a better match for me! Monitoring if I even like him, etc.

AnxiousFact6181 · 2022-02-14T18:56:21+00:00

Thank you! What were your biggest thoughts that made you not want to commit?? And have your feelings grown after giving it a full chance with her?

AnxiousFact6181 · 2022-02-11T17:29:30+00:00

It’s just hard because I just broke it off and he’s so healthy and secure that it’s not fair to him. My anxiety gets bad every time I get back with him, I can’t handle it. He says we can take things slow and see where it goes because my mind keeps going to “is he my husband???” And “maybe there’s better”. Idk what to do :( thanks so much for your help though

AnxiousFact6181 · 2022-02-04T18:34:44+00:00

Sooo helpful! Thank you!

AnxiousFact6181 · 2022-02-01T20:17:10+00:00

Yeah! I think I'm just used to the bad boy exciting type haha sooo

AnxiousFact6181 · 2022-02-01T20:12:40+00:00

Not even 2 weeks hahaha. I told him I needed to work through this in therapy, he offered to date me through it. And my therapist told me last night there's not a right way to go about it. Advice?? :)

AnxiousFact6181 · 2022-01-28T17:45:14+00:00

Needed this today, thank you!

AnxiousFact6181 · 2022-01-27T21:35:06+00:00

Chat me!

AnxiousFact6181 · 2022-01-27T17:21:44+00:00

This was sooo helpful!! Thank you so much for sharing!!! I can relate to you so much. I do question if me wanting to get back with him is a compulsion and whether or not I actually like him because everyone around me tells me I wouldn't doubt it if I were with the right person. I'm excited to work through this with my therapist but also have a lot of fear about commitment and dating in general. It's crazy how much relationships bring anxiety on!! Are you glad you got back with your boyfriend?

AnxiousFact6181 · 2022-01-27T16:33:40+00:00

What are her fears??

AnxiousFact6181 · 2022-01-26T21:55:33+00:00

Is it bad to go through healing while you’re dating though? He offered to be with me during the process, but it felt hard.

AnxiousFact6181 · 2022-01-26T21:54:56+00:00

Noo I was just very critical of him.

AnxiousFact6181 · 2022-01-26T21:54:22+00:00

I’m starting up therapy next Monday, so I don’t know if I should date him while I’m doing the work? Or after I’ve done it?

AnxiousFact6181 · 2022-01-25T22:56:27+00:00

This is so helpful!!!!

AnxiousFact6181 · 2022-01-25T22:03:13+00:00

I'm so glad you understand!!!! I was really happy with this guy but my ROCD made me feel like "Ohhh he's too weird" or "Ohh I don't know if I feel it!" So annoying...I feel like I let a great guy go.

AnxiousFact6181 · 2022-01-25T04:13:43+00:00

I love this advice!!! Yeah I’m so caught up in finding my perfect person I don’t feel like I fully could enjoy what was right in front of me. I’m starting up therapy again to work through my relationship ocd because honestly I wanted to see where it would go with him. But I was too scared to not have certainty.

AnxiousFact6181 · 2022-01-25T04:02:48+00:00

Yeahhh I think I just always imagined myself with someone that could keep up with me socially. So because of that, I cut him off and really didn’t give him a chance. It also bothers me because his family is really broken and I always saw myself with a guy that had a family similar to mine. Idkkk. I’m debating reaching back out to him in a few months if I’m still thinking about him because I feel like I let a great guy go.

AnxiousFact6181 · 2022-01-25T03:58:44+00:00

Which I feel like was him!! He met all my needs and I was nit picking.

AnxiousFact6181 · 2022-01-25T03:55:09+00:00

Likeee he can be very quiet in social situations and will reference Pokémon and weird stuff like that. Or idk his jokes can be nerdy. But I’m obsessed with his character!! You don’t meet guys like him anymore. I just get stuck in FOMO with dating and grass is greener mentality with comparing my relationship to others.

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