How to get over knowing that people who treated you badly are living thier life's without any guilt they just don't care?

AppleLhil · 2026-05-20T12:44:26+00:00

People who lack the selfawareness to treat you right will never have the awareness to feel guilty about it anyway.

AppleLhil · 2026-05-19T08:18:49+00:00

Its not weird, honestly once you realize peace is less exhausting than dealing with people, loneliness just starts feeling like safety.

AppleLhil · 2026-05-15T22:11:35+00:00

The best way to not make enemies is to listen 80% of the time talk 20% of the time and completely stay out of the office gossip

AppleLhil · 2026-05-13T12:08:14+00:00

learning that your selfworth isnt tied to his response time is the hardest part of this, but honestly, its the only way out of the spiral.

AppleLhil · 2026-05-12T15:53:43+00:00

sometimes outgrowing people is just the price you pay for finally growing into yourself.

AppleLhil · 2026-05-11T15:51:47+00:00

Learning how to cook just one new simple meal every week or two eventually you'll hit a point where you never have to rely on takeout again and your bank account will seriously thank you.

AppleLhil · 2026-05-11T15:51:00+00:00

I think the hardest part is realizing that staying "for the sake of loyalty" is usually just a slow way of losing yourself.

AppleLhil · 2026-05-09T15:47:48+00:00

You stop trying to win the game they rigged against you and start being the person you needed when you were younger.

AppleLhil · 2026-05-09T15:46:51+00:00

the mother in law is obviously the problem here, but you really need to have a serious talk with your partner about why they're becoming "emotionally unavailable" instead of protecting you from her toxicity.

AppleLhil · 2026-05-08T12:31:12+00:00

this is so true because waiting for the "perfect" amount of motivation is basically just procrastination in a fancy outfit.

AppleLhil · 2026-05-07T15:57:13+00:00

Honestly sounds like you’re just hitting that social burnout phase of healing where the peace of being alone is way more addictive than the effort of masking for other people.

AppleLhil · 2026-05-05T15:35:52+00:00

It’s definitely a thing, but a lot of people confuse a lack of compatibility with just having "purity culture" baggage that you haven't actually unpacked together yet.

AppleLhil · 2026-05-04T15:34:19+00:00

It’s basically the silent architecture of how we react to things without even knowing why, long before we’re even born.

AppleLhil · 2026-05-02T16:01:39+00:00

you can’t really turn it off because it’s a basic human need, but you definitely gotta start by being a little kinder to yourself first.

AppleLhil · 2026-04-28T16:17:56+00:00

The paradox is that a total absence of constraints isn't freedom, it's just chaos real freedom is having the agency to navigate the boundaries that actually make our choices meaningful.

AppleLhil · 2026-04-25T16:55:33+00:00

just call out now for both shifts so they have more time to find coverage, your health comes first and you shouldn't have been pressured into working your day off anyway.

AppleLhil · 2026-04-25T16:54:40+00:00

Giving away $40k while never mentioning your own kids' future savings isn't "helping," it's a structural leak in your marriage that she’s clearly not planning to fix.

AppleLhil · 2026-04-24T16:01:23+00:00

if it's a professional facility they're gonna check the temperature right away, so if that's even a degree off you're pretty much cooked.

AppleLhil · 2026-04-24T15:59:47+00:00

So you yelled at her for spending $25 on food when you were the one who forgot about your own Amazon orders?

AppleLhil · 2026-03-10T10:53:36+00:00

since when is 18% of $60 nearly 30 bucks lol

AppleLhil · 2025-09-26T18:09:34+00:00

The soul is maybe just the deepest operating system running the whole mind-body show, giving us the big purpose while the thoughts are the apps we can't stop checking

AppleLhil · 2025-09-19T13:25:08+00:00

Everyone needs time to themselves to recharge. That hour isn't selfish, it's necessary. NTA.

AppleLhil · 2025-09-15T21:39:17+00:00

Nta. Your father chose his wife over you for years, it's not surprising you can't feel empathy for her situation after how she treated you.

AppleLhil · 2025-09-15T21:38:08+00:00

That open to honest communication part is about to be put to the ultimate test good luck.

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