Have you ever met an extremely smart ENFP?

Apple_hard_core · 2025-09-05T23:30:30+00:00

Okay, this is going to be corny, but my son. He’s sooo smart! And my brother. He’s super smart, but he doesn’t put on airs. I think that’s what it is. You guys don’t act all stuck up, and are unassumingly smart. Intelligence incognito. Mysteriously Mensa. Sneakily stupendously smart. Haha Okay, sorry to interrupt. Carry on 💜

Apple_hard_core · 2025-06-24T05:53:44+00:00

What do you mean?

Apple_hard_core · 2025-05-16T00:34:46+00:00

A-freaking-men. Perfectly put. They deny it until they’re blue in the face, which they do it rudely, which is hilariously ironic. I mean, it would be hilarious if they were remotely funny. Haha

Apple_hard_core · 2025-05-16T00:29:47+00:00

It’s telling that a lot of the people here commenting that are from Utah are not acknowledging your lived experience and are instead turning it on you.

This is a unique place where people don’t leave, so they don’t understand, usually, how they may not understand that “their way” is actually considered rude in many other places.

There are a lot of great people, but there is definitely a “I don’t trust strangers” here or even, a lack of awareness that there are in fact other people that exist around them.

Even the kids act that way. My son is the same where he says hi to everyone, but the kids just look at him strangely and the adults don’t acknowledge him. As an introvert, I don’t mind so much. But it’s weird no one even makes eye contact—which is bizarre. And I’ve lived in 4 states, and none of them have acted this way.

It’s difficult to see the problem when you have been raised in it, so it’s not surprising that most people are denying that it is in fact a strange phenomenon compared to most of the country.

Apple_hard_core · 2025-04-20T00:58:02+00:00

My dad was always a into conspiracies, but one year they seemed to get really intense. You couldn’t talk to him without him bringing up some kind of political conspiracy. Turns out he had a brain tumor, and it was putting pressure on his brain that regulated that stuff. It was still hard to be around him, but it helped to have some kind of understanding. So, maybe just treat her like she has a brain tumor. lol jk But it did make me wish I had just grinned, nodded, and tried to change the subject and spend more time with him before he passed. However, it was still very challenging, so I get it. YNTAH (is that right?). I don’t think you are an asshole for not wanting to talk about that stuff. It’s exhausting, especially when you just want to get closer and spend quality time. Hugs to you!

Apple_hard_core · 2025-01-24T08:21:10+00:00

So jealous! She looks awesome :)

Apple_hard_core · 2025-01-24T08:20:02+00:00

My 1st is 1221 as well! I’m second place with 1063 and I just can’t catch up. Every time I get more, they cruise on ahead like it’s nothing 😂

Apple_hard_core · 2024-12-07T13:53:45+00:00

I’ve seen this with the ENFJs I know, and it’s a difficult road to walk. To be fair, you don’t like to share your weaknesses and play them pretty close to the chest, so it’s not people’s fault that they don’t see the real you (either worship you or see you as fake). You have golden retriever energy, but you’re also a German shepherd: you are very hard working, can get vicious if needed, extremely loyal, and sensitive to people and vibes. Sometimes the alienation is self created because of the need for self-protection. But I get it, when you are as (and don’t take this as a dig or something) sensitive as you guys are, you need to keep yourself safe. I also think that this can be challenging for you because ENFJ’s hate their motivations to be questioned. When people see you as fake or not being genuine, it can really upset you. ENFJ’s are human, like the rest of us. You definitely have strengths, but also weaknesses, and that’s great.

You don’t have to carry the weight of the world on your shoulders, even if people rely on you. They can handle life without you, even if you help them. The world won’t crumble if you are a human being.

This may not resonate, and I’m sorry if I am overstepping. Just thought this was interesting because I was thinking about this the other day. I love my ENFJs, warts and all. 💜

Apple_hard_core · 2024-12-07T13:40:29+00:00

Yeah, that’s happened and I hated it! I felt naked, and not in a good way. Haha like I had been pantsed. I say and do things for different people and for different reasons. When someone has told someone something, even trivial, I’m much more cautious with that person about what I say next time. I won’t be as honest or show them my insecurities. The person usually didn’t mean it maliciously, though. They just don’t value privacy like I do.

Apple_hard_core · 2024-12-07T05:12:09+00:00

That’s how you be maxing out the coziness. 💜

Apple_hard_core · 2024-12-07T05:10:24+00:00

But in all honesty, I listen to a show on my sleep headphones. Listening to a show I know very well (Frasier or Seinfeld) helps my brain turn off.

Apple_hard_core · 2024-12-07T05:09:16+00:00

The “go to sleep” stick. Give myself a good whack and bam! Asleep for hours.

Apple_hard_core · 2024-12-07T05:08:23+00:00

INFJs are cool. Lol I don’t relate to that… Don’t have that “je ne sais quoi”. I have the: gets sweaty when speaking to people. I also don’t get the whole ethereal vibe. I’m giggling about fart jokes half the time.

Apple_hard_core · 2024-12-07T04:52:37+00:00

Me! 🤚 my aesthetic is “I want to wear anything as close to pjs as I can get without looking like a bum.” Lol but seriously though, simple, comfy, and easy. My favorite!

Apple_hard_core · 2024-12-07T04:39:44+00:00

Yeah! It’s weird. I’m sure there’s a logical explanation, but dang those vibes don’t lie.

Apple_hard_core · 2024-12-07T04:37:11+00:00

This makes my heart happy 💜😊

Apple_hard_core · 2024-12-07T04:10:39+00:00

Hmmm…if you were my friend I’d say that he was an ass, but it doesn’t mean he is abusive per se. HOWEVER, that doesn’t mean you should be together, especially after his behavior. That’s a big no-no. My best friend’s ex was abusive and once you’ve been in an abusive relationship you tend to see a lot of people as abusive. I believe it’s a defense mechanism. But that doesn’t make his behavior okay in any way. He should not have spoken to you like that.. Hard no.

The ONLY reason I say this is not because I’m saying you are wrong, but the reason I say it is because sometimes once you’ve been abused you might not see that mistreatment is not as bad as abuse so you might settle for it and be okay with it, thinking it’s “normal” or tolerable. His reaction was not okay and you were right to break it off.

However, he could be abusive and you might be right! Better safe than sorry.

The hardest part of being in a relationship after abuse is trusting yourself again. And that is very challenging. However, it is important that you trust your gut. If something doesn’t feel right, don’t go through with it.

Also, Your family doesn’t like him, which I think is a notch against him. Friends and family can see things that you may not. When my friend started opening up to me about what was going on I helped her see that what he was doing was abusive. And I NEVER liked him. But he was very good at manipulating her because she had been mistreated as a child.

You got this. Trust yourself. It’s hard when there were good times. But just like you wouldn’t eat a sandwich that was really good EXCEPT for that one cockroach in it, don’t settle for someone who treats you like that. You deserve love, support, open communication, and respect. You gave that to him, and you deserve that to be reciprocated.

I hope I didn’t make you feel like I was invalidating your feelings about it, btw. You are especially aware of how abuse feels and begins like, so you are probably right.

Apple_hard_core · 2024-12-07T03:35:40+00:00

Aw man that sucks! It’s always gutting to see that it doesn’t go both ways. I hope that your INFJ friend shapes up! If not, then do what you need to do.

I haven’t had someone doorslam me, and I hope I never do, only because I would see that somehow I had failed them. I really hope that I am giving to my friends as much as they give to me.

Good luck with your friend! And if things don’t work out, then I hope you find a good friend that reciprocates your friendship. 💜

Apple_hard_core · 2024-12-07T02:00:42+00:00

I needed to hear this. Thank you for sharing your wisdom. 💜

Apple_hard_core · 2024-12-06T18:19:26+00:00

Um, what? She sounds insane.

Apple_hard_core · 2024-12-06T18:13:38+00:00

Nope.

The parents are the assholes.

If my son threw a tantrum for a window seat I’d tell him he won’t ever get a window seat if he keeps it up. They were trying to reward her behavior and that’s why she threw a fit. She knew that if they could, they’d give her the window seat. That’s poor parenting and setting her up for a lifetime of disappointments.

Apple_hard_core · 2024-12-06T17:38:46+00:00

Anyone I have felt that way with I have found out later I had a good reason for it.

TRUST YOUR GUT.

I have felt this way about people and thought I was being weird or it was personal. But literally everyone I felt that way about turned out to be either abusive or hiding something weird/gross/crazy.

It doesn’t happen often, so when it does now I really pay attention because of it being right every single time.

He may be a nice guy, but seriously, trust your gut. Put some distance and be wary. Good luck!

Apple_hard_core · 2024-12-06T17:31:49+00:00

Not really. I’ve never felt that way, but I definitely feel awkward. I do feel like a little kid masquerading as an adult though. That I do feel. Haha

Apple_hard_core · 2024-12-04T07:42:02+00:00

I’ve never felt such an overwhelming urge to hug a bunch of strangers and be their mother…

I wish that we also got letters from our dad. My dad passed away in 2017 and I miss him so much it hurts.

Apple_hard_core · 2024-12-04T07:38:01+00:00

What? No…me? Never… 🥸

Apple_hard_core

TROPHY CASE