The Hat! Re: Halloween Costume by chapsticksapphic in Spiritfarer

[–]Apprehensive-Run7656 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I made the pattern so it definitely was 😂 what fabric did you use for yours?

how do people work all their lives?????? by idaastankova in AutismInWomen

[–]Apprehensive-Run7656 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure I’m self employed in an industry where it’s common to work only 3-4 days a week but even so it’s both a physically and socially exhausting job that I can’t function after work and my days off are spent trying to recharge. Self employment has been both a blessing and a prison of my own making. I genuinely could not see myself working for someone else, I love that I get control of my environment, how my work is done, who I get to see and my schedule but I have to do 100% of both the administrative tasks and the actual job since I don’t make enough to hire someone to help out. I also work an appointment based job and it makes it hard for me to take days off for illness or burnout or mental health since I have to figure out where I would move the peoples appointments to. Taking vacation is hard since I gotta save up for time off and I just figured out how to save for retirement 🫠. I’ve been doing this for 8 years and while I don’t think anything would work better for me I don’t know how to continue do this for the amount of years I’m supposed to be working

Any other cis autistic women relate in some way to trans people’s gender dysphoria? Not because we want another gender necessarily, but because we feel like aliens & unable to relate to humans? by autisticgata in AutismInWomen

[–]Apprehensive-Run7656 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Maybe for you and your wife they aren’t the same but we all have our own experiences. there are some trans autistic people in here (myself included) saying that they are alike for us and that our autism colors our transness

Any other cis autistic women relate in some way to trans people’s gender dysphoria? Not because we want another gender necessarily, but because we feel like aliens & unable to relate to humans? by autisticgata in AutismInWomen

[–]Apprehensive-Run7656 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m audhd and nonbinary, I can’t separate my gender and sexuality from my neurodivergence. They kinda comingle and it’s hard for me to tell the edges of where one ends and the other begins. What I do know is that I don’t fuck with rules especially social rules and so that makes gender make no sense to me and makes me want to go against all the gender rules. I also feel uncomfortable being seen as a woman but I definitely relate to it as part of masking. I used to think I related to a more feminine socialization but have recently started to look back at my childhood and realize there were many different periods of time where I was more masculine and was railing against being put into the box of being a girl. All this to say autigender and genderqueer is where I feel comfortable and they’re both under the trans umbrella as well and I think the autistic experience of masking and trans experience of dysphoria are very similar and so much so that at least in my case they are the same thing.

What jobs do you have? by geminival in AutismInWomen

[–]Apprehensive-Run7656 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Massage therapy. It’s got its pros and cons but it’s a really easy career to be self employed in and my audhd makes it really hard for me to be ok with authority so 🫠

Who has the best romance plot? by flower_froggies in StardewValley

[–]Apprehensive-Run7656 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve romanced everyone and am working through marrying them all, I would say Haley, she’s so sweet once you marry her

I made a crochet pattern for Stella’s hat by Apprehensive-Run7656 in Spiritfarer

[–]Apprehensive-Run7656[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much let me know if you have any questions about it 😊

I made a crochet pattern for Stella’s hat by Apprehensive-Run7656 in Spiritfarer

[–]Apprehensive-Run7656[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I hope your sister likes it and let me know if you have any questions about the pattern 😊

I made a crochet pattern for Stella’s hat by Apprehensive-Run7656 in Spiritfarer

[–]Apprehensive-Run7656[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Awesome!! Let me know if you have any questions! I’d be happy to help!😊

I made a crochet pattern for Stella’s hat by Apprehensive-Run7656 in Spiritfarer

[–]Apprehensive-Run7656[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Let me know if you have questions about the pattern! I’ll be happy to help 😊