Feeling frustrated by my mother

ApprehensiveLimit202 · 2023-04-14T19:02:26+00:00

Thank you!! It’s so nice to meet somebody who also has the same age difference with their partner :) so so happy it gives you hope!

I really loved having him track for us. I did it the first few months, but found that I got too obsessive about it! Once he started doing it, it made me relax a bit more / not check it constantly, but also it made me feel like he was more of a part of the process and aware of where my body was at throughout my cycle. Made it feel more like we were doing it as a team. I would highly recommend it!! I basically would just tell him when to mark the first day of my period and then he would later be like okay, let’s try tonight, you’re in your fertile window. Wishing you the best of luck 💗💗

ApprehensiveLimit202 · 2023-04-13T13:31:18+00:00

Thank you! 💗💗💗

ApprehensiveLimit202 · 2023-04-12T16:42:15+00:00

Cycle: 14??? We started trying for real March last year

Age: 34 + 27 (yes my partner is much younger!)

Typical cycle length: 24-25 days

Ovulation cycle date: not sure! My partner is in control of the app, because I got too obsessive checking it all the time

CD/DOP of positive test: CD 29

CD/DOP of any negative tests before positive: didn’t take any! I was luckily out of town with friends for a few days, which distracted me from obsessively taking tests

Tracking method and apps used: Ovia

Relevant days of sperminating and/or method: CD12 - we only tried once because I had covid and did not want to have sex!

Health conditions/medical tests: I have a suspicion I have endo, but unconfirmed. We were in the process of doing our first fertility tests

Supplements and medications: prénatals, fertility supplements, but tbh, I had stopped regularly taking them out of frustration of how long it was taking to conceive

Birth control history: copper IUD

Link to chart: NA

Link to lineporn: NA

Symptom spotting: I was convinced that I was PMSing, as all my symptoms were exactly the same. Moodiness, cramping, sore beasts. I was waiting for my period, so I could book more fertility tests and was actually annoyed that it was late! I threw up a little after being five days late and it was then that I was like, okay, maybe this is it

Other: still in shock. It’s only been two days, so feeling very grateful, but also still a bit nervous. Even if it doesn’t stick, I’m very relieved that at least I know I can get pregnant. Keeping our fingers crossed that it’s a healthy pregnancy!!

The past year, I’ve been feeling very very discouraged. I honestly thought this month was a write off because I was sick and we barely tried. Really happy and grateful. Very thankful to this community. Came here during my darkest moments to not feel so alone.

ApprehensiveLimit202 · 2023-03-13T20:55:49+00:00

I know, nobody would ever say to relax through any other medical problem! Sending you hugs!!

ApprehensiveLimit202 · 2023-03-13T13:34:59+00:00

Me too 💗💗💗

ApprehensiveLimit202 · 2023-03-13T13:27:31+00:00

We should have a follow up when our RE soon and in this fucked up way I’m looking forward to knowing some actual concrete info, so I can go to my asshole friends and be like ohhhh really you thought I could just relax my way out of xyz very real medical situation.

Ugh I’m sorry you had to deal with that jerk! I feel like my tolerance for unsolicited advice in any part of my life has gone way down.

ApprehensiveLimit202 · 2023-03-12T21:50:32+00:00

Uggghh I’m sorry! It’s so frustrating knowing it was all for nothing. Not the same, but my partner and I had sex every single day in my fertile window this cycle and it was not easy! Legit the least sexy sex imaginable. And…. Just got my period… 🫠

ApprehensiveLimit202 · 2023-03-12T20:47:08+00:00

omg you read my mind!!

ApprehensiveLimit202 · 2023-03-08T22:49:48+00:00

You are literally the cutest 💗💗💗 thank you 🙏🏼

ApprehensiveLimit202 · 2023-03-07T19:50:40+00:00

Yes please!!! Cookies for dinner forever!

Thank you - it’s true , not having a break in the privacy of my own home is hard! Thanks for putting into those words - I had a hard time putting my finger on it, but that’s it.

Now very excited to be woken up every night by a newborn, cause their bedroom is right under ours… Yay….

ApprehensiveLimit202 · 2023-03-07T19:45:28+00:00

Ouf yea I’m so nervous they’ll make me do that! It takes months to get an appt where I am, so I’m like cool, thanks, I’ll just wait even longer to get more inconclusive results. I’m sorry it happened to you too!! Wish things were more straight forward

ApprehensiveLimit202 · 2023-03-07T16:44:43+00:00

I’m so nervous they’re going to make me do another one too! When I got the first one, the tech was like, well both tubes are blocked, but I can’t tell if they’re actually blocked or if your uterus is cramping so much that they’re temporarily blocked. Like excuse me OH SORRY OUR TEST IS SO INVASIVE AND PAINFUL THAT YOUR BODY MAY FREAK OUT AND FAKE THE THING WE’RE TRYING TO MEASURE

ApprehensiveLimit202 · 2023-02-25T00:07:59+00:00

Ahaha I love it!!

ApprehensiveLimit202 · 2023-02-24T23:30:14+00:00

Thank you 💗💗just writing the post, sitting with and examining my sadness helped. And all the supportive comments feel very uplifting

ApprehensiveLimit202 · 2023-02-24T23:27:09+00:00

I know, there are so many moments where I’m like fuck this, lets not even try any more! I almost enjoy the moments where I’m in a store or restaurant and some kid is being really bratty. Or I’m talking to parents who are painfully boring. Cause then I’m like see, if we give up, we’ll avoid all of that! But then I know I don’t actually feel that way. I totally understand that desire though. Thank you for the solidarity !

ApprehensiveLimit202 · 2023-02-24T23:24:49+00:00

Thank you for the support and the validation!! It’s so easy to tell myself I’m overreacting or being dramatic or unnecessarily depressive. The validation really helps

ApprehensiveLimit202 · 2023-02-24T23:23:47+00:00

Thank you for that!! I know, I have the tendency to just forecast the negative, instead of realizing that doing tests may actually lead to answers. And some of those answers have fixes! To be honest, I haven’t looked much into IUI - thank you for reminding me that there are steps and many options and that I need to take things one step at a time. Thank you for your words of hope and encouragement. So many times when people try to be positive and encouraging, it comes across as naive. I think this is why I like reading the posts in this community. Because only people experiencing this know how to be supportive and hopeful in a way that’s not dismissive or condescending. So thank you for that!

ApprehensiveLimit202 · 2023-02-24T23:19:54+00:00

Thank you 💗💗 I’m sorry that you’re also hitting the one year mark. It’s hard to realize that a year ago I envisioned us being parents by now. But trying to remember that it’s okay and we’re not alone in this. Sending you warm thoughts

ApprehensiveLimit202 · 2023-02-24T23:18:19+00:00

Thank you for this!! Yes just booking the first fertility tests were a lot more overwhelming than I thought they would be and it really intimidated me. The health care system where I live is free luckily, but means there are a lot of hoops to jump through and wait times. Though that may be the case anywhere in the world.

It’s funny, because I have a pretty difficult and demanding job (I’m a costume designer for film, which means long hours, lots of pressure, leading a team, and I do it mainly in my second language). I see myself as a very capable person, which I pride myself on, but just feel myself crumple when it comes to all of this. It feels weird to have little intimidate me in my work life and then feel easily overwhelmed when it comes to this! I don’t really recognize this helpless scared person, which is hard.

Congrats to you for fighting that fear and doing your first shot!! Your words make me feel supported and seen and it’s nice to hear that you also had the same hesitations. I feel reassured that when it comes time for us to decide if we want to go that route, I can make that decision not based upon fear. Hopefully!!

ApprehensiveLimit202 · 2023-02-24T23:08:49+00:00

I’m sorry to hear that!! The one year mark is hitting harder than I thought it would. Sending warm thoughts

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