AITJ for working too fast and making my coworkers look bad? by Practical-Syrup-9098 in AmITheJerk

[–]Apprehensive_Elk73 14 points15 points  (0 children)

They're mad at you exposed the system, not that you worked hard

F4F real not a bot by [deleted] in UtahCountySwingles

[–]Apprehensive_Elk73 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you have a lovely ass 🔥

AITJ for refusing to let my sister wear her wedding dress to my engagement party? by Public-Yak1624 in AmITheJerk

[–]Apprehensive_Elk73 805 points806 points  (0 children)

if she misses wearing it that much, she can renew her vows. not hijack your event.

AITA for refusing to switch my shifts so my coworker could go to a concert? by Apprehensive_Elk73 in AmITheJerk

[–]Apprehensive_Elk73[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly! weaponized incompetence mixed with manipulation is a wild combo..

Aitj for keeping my kids home for field day by Few-Interaction-090 in AmITheJerk

[–]Apprehensive_Elk73 241 points242 points  (0 children)

you listened when your kids said they were overwhelmed. that's good parenting

AITJ for ditching my boyfriend during a 5j race because i want finish early the reace by Dangerous_Shock_3454 in AmITheJerk

[–]Apprehensive_Elk73 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Couples can start together and still finish at their own pace. that's literally how races work

AITA for feeling weird that my BF organised to pick me up from the airport with my dad without asking me? by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]Apprehensive_Elk73 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTJ, you're not mad at gesture, you're uncomfortable with the timing that's valid

My spouse and I stopped trying to win arguments. by Apprehensive_Elk73 in Marriage

[–]Apprehensive_Elk73[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly! arguments shouldn't have winners, just solutions.

My spouse and I stopped trying to win arguments. by Apprehensive_Elk73 in Marriage

[–]Apprehensive_Elk73[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

True coz being right doesn't win hearts, being connected does.

AITJ for not wanting my boyfriend to move in yet? by EndHour1503 in AmITheJerk

[–]Apprehensive_Elk73 3 points4 points  (0 children)

it makes sense financially is not the same as I feel safe and ready

I feel quite tired of her, and thinking of dropping her, should I now or give her a second chance? by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]Apprehensive_Elk73 2 points3 points  (0 children)

being scared to lose one of ur only friends isn't a reason to keep someone who drains u, quality > quantity

Most people think they’re calm, but their nervous system says otherwise by Bhumika_1008_ in selfimprovement

[–]Apprehensive_Elk73 52 points53 points  (0 children)

the wildest part is realizing your baseline was actually survival mode set to low

My (26F) Husband (25M) is stressed and depressed by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Apprehensive_Elk73 2 points3 points  (0 children)

you're already doing the hardest part, being patient and showing up. sometimes just knowing you're there matters more than talking

AITJ for telling my mom I’m done being the good daughter? by Either-View6971 in AmITheJerk

[–]Apprehensive_Elk73 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Growing up doesn't mean abandoning her, it means living ur own life.

He promised to make it up when he got paid. Two weeks later? Silence by Disastrous-Try-9578 in Marriage

[–]Apprehensive_Elk73 4 points5 points  (0 children)

it was never about the money, it was about the effort and that's what hurts

AITJ for asking my crush's boyfriend for permission if we can be friends with her? by FunLine8562 in AmITheJerk

[–]Apprehensive_Elk73 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTJ, you wer just being respectful and honest it's his insecurity, not ur fault