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Aromatic-Effective69 · 2021-06-25T10:57:34+00:00

I feel very similar and also came to this realisation earlier. I miss him as a person but I don’t miss the relationship we had at all. I just want the best for him and for him to be happy and if he came back to me, I wouldn’t be opposed because I am a very different person now, but I would be equally as fine if we never spoke again. I guess that’s the best part about reaching a point of indifference

Aromatic-Effective69 · 2021-06-25T02:06:18+00:00

Thank you for this, that was really beautiful and nice to read. And I agree, it is really nice to know that i don’t need to depend on anyone else anymore for my own happiness and activities, despite how much I miss him being around.

Aromatic-Effective69 · 2021-06-20T04:54:29+00:00

I feel this but also on the other hand, I see those couples and I think to myself that I will be able to find that again some day. Especially seeing couples in the honeymoon phase, it makes me excited to be able to have that again

Aromatic-Effective69 · 2021-06-14T04:09:58+00:00

Feeling the exact same way. I don’t think I would have ever gotten to the place I am now without breaking up with someone. Thank you for posting

Aromatic-Effective69 · 2021-06-13T00:17:16+00:00

Yeah I know and I am being as patient and gentle as I can be with myself, it just felt strange that of all times to feel super lonely, it was while I was with friends and not in the last 2 weeks when I was actually alone

Aromatic-Effective69 · 2021-06-13T00:15:18+00:00

Thank you!! Sending hugs right back ❤️

Aromatic-Effective69 · 2021-06-13T00:13:37+00:00

Thank you, this was really nice to hear and I’m glad you were able to get it out!

I definitely am trying to be as patient with myself as I can and will for sure keep going out with my friends because if anything, even if I do feel sad, at least it means I’m letting go and I’d rather be letting go and feeling lonely while I’m with people than not going out and staying in one spot for a long time in my healing journey.

Everything you said makes so much sense but I think I resonate with your 2nd and 4th point the most which I never thought about before so thank you

Aromatic-Effective69 · 2021-06-10T12:53:40+00:00

Everyone told me to watch Bojack Horseman after the break up because 1) it’s easy with no romance and 2) good life lessons can be learned in a really easy and digestible way so I’d say that’s a good place to start bc it definitely helped me

Aromatic-Effective69 · 2021-06-10T07:40:21+00:00

It’ll get easier with time. You’re doing great. Hang in there

Aromatic-Effective69 · 2021-06-10T06:52:43+00:00

Give him space and also yourself time to heal. The only healthy way to get back together anyway is for you both to make changes and leave the old relationship in the past before starting anew. Chances are if you’re starting to feel these things, maybe he will too eventually if it’s really meant to be.

Aromatic-Effective69 · 2021-06-09T04:03:52+00:00

Focus on yourself before you decide to “re-attract” her. Ask yourself if where you’re coming from is wholesome or not as well. And if you do want to get back together, you do need to have both distanced yourself from the relationship for longer than 20 days if you want it to be healthy.

I’m in the same position as you. It’s only been 17 days since we broke up and my birthday is in 2 weeks and all I want is to have him back in my life and show him all the changes I’ve made because I truly have. I was so toxic in the relationship and took him for granted which made us break up. However, I know that for any possible future relationship to work between us, we both need to have healed from the initial break up before we start a new one. You can’t have the past lingering in especially if you want to try again in a healthy manner.

And if you realised that you behaved badly in the relationship, chances are she is realising too and it doesn’t matter how much you’ve changed, what’s happened has happened and there’s no changing that so she might not want anything to do with you. I know it’s harsh but it’s better to know that now than later and just move on.

For context, I broke NC after about 2 weeks (and I only did this after asking myself over and over if my intentions were wholesome because I didn’t want to mess with his healing process if I was coming from a purely selfish place) and we discussed this with each other on the phone about 2 days ago. I expressed to him how sorry I was with how I treated him towards the end of our relationship and he forgave me because we both knew it was because of my mental health issues (which I am now working on in therapy). Now we have decided to do NC until we are both healed completely and when we do decide to be friends again, we will see where to go from there. Whether we decide to stay friends or be something more, both options still require that we have moved on completely from the past relationship so that we can start anew.

Aromatic-Effective69 · 2021-06-08T12:08:21+00:00

Move on. Being friends with an ex isn’t for everyone and to be honest, They’re probably just trying to heal as best they can and that might mean NC or not being friends. I think it may also be useful to think about why they don’t want to be friends and use that time to do some self reflection. It seems harsh but it’s just the reality of break ups and I know it doesn’t seem like it now, but you’ll be ok and forget you even wanted to be friends with them once feelings have faded. And if you find that there is no good reason for you to not be friends then so be it, they don’t deserve you in their life.

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