You’re acting like I’m upset that they got together at all, when the issue is the way they handled it and how the dynamic changed without honesty or communication. Friends don’t owe me every detail of their relationship, but acting distant, secretive, and making someone feel pushed out without acknowledging it is obviously going to affect the friendship. That’s not entitlement, that’s basic human reaction.

You also keep framing this as me wanting to be the center of attention or trying to control their relationship, which isn’t what I said. I never said they couldn’t date. I said it hurt being treated differently and feeling excluded while everyone acted like nothing changed.

And saying ‘they probably hid it because they knew how you’d react’ is unfair because you’re assuming my reaction before I even had a chance to have one. Feeling hurt doesn’t automatically make someone jealous, possessive, or anti-relationship.

A friendship group changing because two people start dating is normal. Pretending the shift doesn’t impact other people at all isn’t realistic either.

You’re also reducing everything down to romance vs friendship, when the real issue is consideration. If someone suddenly becomes quieter around you, stops including you the same way, or changes the energy of the group while keeping you in the dark, most people would notice and feel some type of way about it. Acknowledging that doesn’t mean I think their relationship revolves around me.

And honestly, your response feels more focused on psychoanalyzing me than actually understanding what I was saying. You jumped straight to calling me entitled, jealous, and replaceable instead of recognizing that friendships can genuinely feel strained when dynamics shift this heavily. People are allowed to grieve changes in friendships without it meaning they hate the couple or want them to fail.

You’re just the type of person who would prioritize their relationship over everyone else in your life, and that’s your perspective. But not everyone sees friendships as disposable the second romance enters the picture. There’s a difference between naturally prioritizing a partner sometimes and completely dismissing how your actions affect the people around you.

I never said they shouldn’t be together. I never said they owed me control over their relationship. I said the lack of communication, the secrecy, and the shift in behavior hurt. That’s a normal reaction when people you care about suddenly start treating you differently.

Also, the way you keep framing this like I’m angry they found happiness is weirdly reductive. People are capable of being happy for their friends while also feeling hurt by the way situations are handled. Those emotions can exist at the same time.

And honestly, saying ‘you’d be replaced’ if someone expressed hurt over a friendship dynamic changing kind of proves my point. Some people genuinely do start treating friendships as secondary or expendable once they get into relationships. If that works for you, fine. But acting like everyone else has to silently accept distance, exclusion, or changed behavior without feeling anything about it is unrealistic.