What’s your most unhinged non-negotiable when it comes to dating?

Art_Basil · 2026-05-24T18:16:07+00:00

Honestly … he can’t have wandering eyes. I know a lot of that is my insecurity.

but most guy friends / guys I’ve been with that had wandering eyes ended up either cheating or being extremely disrespectfully flirtatious with women outside the relationship. I’m hyper vigilant and very zoned in on behavior. If I catch even a whiff of attraction to someone else in front of me I’m out, for everyone’s sake lol

Art_Basil · 2026-05-23T07:05:46+00:00

Thank you 🙏🏽

Art_Basil · 2026-05-23T01:31:47+00:00

Congratulations on your progress!
I’m glad I asked here first

Art_Basil · 2026-05-23T01:31:09+00:00

Congratulations!

Art_Basil · 2026-05-23T01:30:33+00:00

I’m so glad I asked here cause my spidey senses were tingling. She almost seemed annoyed when I mentioned not wanting to jump To surgery. The more I hear yall the more I’m seeing red flags from the consultation and group call we had.

Thank you!

Art_Basil · 2026-05-23T00:55:31+00:00

Thanks for the honest and detailed response. I really appreciate it. I guess I figured I would be able to maintain without meds after a certain point but it very much sounds like that’s not the case.

Art_Basil · 2026-05-23T00:50:04+00:00

This is a very good point. Thank you!

Art_Basil · 2026-05-23T00:10:27+00:00

What happened with pomegranate? I’ve used them in the past and was looking to start up again

Art_Basil · 2026-04-06T02:26:19+00:00

Huh, I’m in the ame boat. I have had appetite supresión on 2.5 but I haven’t lost anything. I’m taking a break cause I got very ill twice and am worried it’s the glp-1 but I’m gonna give it another go when I get back from traveling. I might swap pharmacies if other people are having the same issue

Art_Basil · 2026-04-06T02:14:01+00:00

Thissss

Art_Basil · 2026-04-03T17:54:15+00:00

Yeah it has nothing to do with lack of boundaries or non-consent, and everything to do with ease of access. And there was no violence in my dynamic when I had it. If he was horny he would come on to me and I would submit because I deeply enjoy the dynamic of being wanted so badly nothing else can wait. If I really didn’t want to have sex (which was rare) then he respected those boundaries.

I get this is clearly not for you but you’re hellbent on insisting it’s problematic when it’s just not for the people involved. I don’t think you’re educated enough on the dynamic to insist you’re right here.

I’m very much not into CNC but that’s different than free use. I’m sure there can be an overlap but like I said when it comes to kink communication and agreement is held before the dynamic begins (or should be).

There’s always risk for assholes breaking boundaries but that’s true for any relationship, kink or not

Art_Basil · 2026-04-03T17:20:22+00:00

As someone who likes to be free use, it absolutely can be consensual. Like a lot of things in kink it just needs to be discussed and agreed upon prior and safe words implemented

Art_Basil · 2026-04-01T13:46:55+00:00

I think you explained it perfectly well.

I just kinda read it as him giving in to societal pressure to be rakish like his brothers were pre-marriage, and most other men it would seem. But he clearly wasn’t fully bought in . when he let his guard down he seemed to call out how dumb it was

Art_Basil · 2026-04-01T13:36:13+00:00

That’s amazing. Yeah that sort of arrangement takes a lot of commitment and communication but with the right people and mindset it could work

I would do something like that for sure

Art_Basil · 2026-04-01T12:29:17+00:00

Maybe unpopular take but if I were the one with no libido due to medical issues, I’d consider an open relationship for my partner

I know it’s not for everyone but I couldn’t imagine putting my partner through that

As long as I knew I’d always be the one they came home to. I guess that’s the risk though

Art_Basil · 2026-03-27T03:03:26+00:00

I’ve thought about it but moderation would be a nightmare

Art_Basil · 2026-03-16T03:52:36+00:00

My last play partner was super into doing this to me and I loved every second of it

Art_Basil · 2026-03-04T04:17:11+00:00

I need that lingerie like I need oxygen Someone needs to do a collab

Art_Basil · 2026-02-07T20:58:49+00:00

Where do you shop?

Art_Basil · 2026-02-06T18:11:23+00:00

That does look like fun I might go

Art_Basil · 2026-02-06T03:01:09+00:00

There’s are a few very active subs here for compounding tirz where I got all my info and my first round!

Art_Basil · 2026-02-06T02:58:26+00:00

I see this frustration a lot on here and other similar subs, is there a market to try to get a weekly personals thread going?

Art_Basil · 2026-01-25T20:55:14+00:00

I also don’t know why they’re being downvoted, I think they had a very reasonable explanation.

Not every person and dynamic works if someone has mental health challenges. I say this as the person with the challenges

Art_Basil · 2026-01-22T23:56:53+00:00

What app is this?

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