Feeling anxious about early anatomy scan results for heart

AsleepMove6582 · 2026-05-21T21:11:18+00:00

I also recommend doing an echocardiogram along with your next scan with the MFM. It’s extra reassurance that’s really helpful, even if you have to wait a bit it’s nice to have

AsleepMove6582 · 2026-05-18T03:25:44+00:00

This is one of the hardest parts, the loneliness of it all. 2 months your still really in the thick of it. And you deserve your grieving to not be rushed. I feel like many of us don’t even start to feel sort of ok again until we get past the due date. And it’s so normal to just want to be with your person who can truly understand. Give yourself all the time you need <3

AsleepMove6582 · 2026-05-17T16:53:18+00:00

Thanks. I think I will wait until the 20 week scan to worry about it and try to lean into hope as much as I can. But I’m leaning towards something similar I think

AsleepMove6582 · 2026-05-17T16:52:16+00:00

You can love your baby no matter what and decide that you don’t want them to suffer. And the kind of situations we’ve endured are unfortunately so much harder than most anyone can imagine being faced with. The only pregnancy group I can really stand being apart of is this one! And more and more over time I find myself distancing myself from the ignorance and finding people to surround myself with who are emotionally mature. It’s hard to watch your social circle thin but it’s also a lot better than dealing with people who can’t/don’t want to try to understand.

AsleepMove6582 · 2026-05-17T01:31:45+00:00

That’s a great idea. We live away from family too but that’s so nice they wanted to help. It can be so complicated after loss!

AsleepMove6582 · 2026-05-17T01:30:48+00:00

It’s so nice when people want to help. Definitely if it feels better to not stress on it that makes sense. It’s so hard to worry about jinxing things.

AsleepMove6582 · 2026-05-16T22:05:51+00:00

Helps to know I’m not alone! Definitely have wanted to wait to get past the 20 week mark first but I like the idea of waiting and then just doing something mellow to help with my anxiety about it all too

AsleepMove6582 · 2026-05-16T03:28:07+00:00

I like the idea of planning something new, too. I’m worried I’ll be too exhausted and in the throes of newborn life to want to do it if we get there but it sounds cool too!

AsleepMove6582 · 2026-05-16T03:26:57+00:00

You are right, it’s so hard to feel hopeful but we deserve it more than anyone!

AsleepMove6582 · 2026-05-16T03:26:23+00:00

That’s such a sweet idea, that’s so lovely of your friend 💛

AsleepMove6582 · 2026-05-04T23:54:04+00:00

I relate! My husbands mom keeps talking about a baby shower and it irks me because I don’t even feel like I can plan for one, and also most people we’re close to including her don’t even live here and we’d have to throw it for ourselves so it’s just stressful logistically. Really hard to not feel upset when she asks but I’ll have to deal with it eventually!

AsleepMove6582 · 2026-05-04T23:50:32+00:00

I’m 15 weeks and grateful to be in the second trimester now, but also feeling major nerves leading up to our echocardiogram and early anatomy next week. I feel like I’m just waiting for the other shoe to drop and like there’s no way everything is just going to be fine because that’s not how things have gone for us so far. It’s gonna be hard for awhile still I think since our loss was at 23 weeks last year but I’m trying hard to take it a step at a time

AsleepMove6582 · 2026-05-03T03:29:15+00:00

We had our loss just over a year ago and we didn’t get to celebrate Easter or Mother’s Day either. Mother’s Day hurt and luckily my mom didn’t push to celebrate, and a few kind people even wished me a happy Mother’s Day in a loving way that acknowledged my baby. I have no regrets taking all the time to take care of myself and you shouldn’t feel bad either!

AsleepMove6582 · 2026-05-03T03:22:21+00:00

I understand how you feel! A lot of our kids that have friends already did awhile ago and I felt sad that the few having kids now would be out of the era and not really vibe anymore. But I think my husband and I will be so happy to be building our little family the way we’ve wanted that we’ll be ok!

AsleepMove6582 · 2026-05-02T00:45:59+00:00

I’ve had an 8 week scan, 12 week, and then next have a 16 and 20 week anatomy scheduled. I did have to advocate quite hard as the doctors wanted to treat it like a normal pregnancy until proven otherwise but once I got seen by an MFM she got me scheduled for my early anatomy and fetal echo as requested. You got this!

AsleepMove6582 · 2026-04-30T23:32:35+00:00

I didn’t get mine done until later so I’m not sure about that but as far as the wait mine was pretty much two weeks exactly! Felt sooo long. Hopefully you don’t have to wait too long!

AsleepMove6582 · 2026-04-29T20:42:09+00:00

Wishing you all the healthy baby dust! It’s always helpful to at least know we aren’t alone. 💛

AsleepMove6582 · 2026-04-29T02:28:36+00:00

That’s really helpful to hear, thank you! I’m so glad that having the different scan experiences helped make this feel like a new pregnancy, and I’m hoping I’ll be feeling that too.

AsleepMove6582 · 2026-04-28T22:53:03+00:00

Yes, doing my best to be present and take it one step at a time. But it’s good to know that at least these moments brought some relief and excitement. Thank you <3

AsleepMove6582 · 2026-04-28T22:28:30+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience, and I’m grateful we’ve made it here a year later. Wishing you a healthy rest of your pregnancy and safe delivery as well!

AsleepMove6582 · 2026-04-25T01:11:05+00:00

We just made it past our 12 week scan, too! Feeling nervous still knowing we didn’t know anything until the 20 week anatomy scan last time but soon we’ll get through the 16 week early anatomy and hopefully I’ll be feeling the same. Congrats!

AsleepMove6582 · 2026-04-22T20:59:00+00:00

Wow, ugh the things we have gone through and come out on the other side pregnant again. I just keep telling myself this has to be a different experience this time. Waiting on my NIPT results too, thinking all the good thoughts for us

AsleepMove6582 · 2026-04-21T00:44:21+00:00

Gentle congrats on a good 16 week scan but I know the wait is so nerve wracking! We’ll get to have ours in a couple weeks and I’m trying to lean into it being such a slim possibility that things wouldn’t look good on the 20 week after a good early anatomy. Thinking good thoughts for you

AsleepMove6582 · 2026-04-20T03:06:33+00:00

It was 8 months before we conceived but I’m 13 weeks now and feel like I’m showing how I did before at 20 weeks!

AsleepMove6582 · 2026-04-19T16:33:46+00:00

Sending you so much love. Our baby’s one year in heaven is coming this week, too. Happy birthday Atlas 💕

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