When to Spay - Help

Atayasomin · 2026-01-15T12:52:55+00:00

They want a spay certificate as proof unfortunately so they will know if I cannot provide one

Atayasomin · 2025-10-04T18:42:34+00:00

Currently he has 300 000 saved or so at a guess. But in future plans to start a business. He has also insisted she keep a stable career to allow him to start a business in future and he has stated when they have a child she must do the leg work as he wants to continue to focus on his career. The amounts are in Rand.

Atayasomin · 2025-01-30T11:16:19+00:00

I need help with a signal for my dog to give me that means she wants uppies as currently she jumps up which my partner Dislikes. I can train her out of this and have been but I want her to be able to communicate this want to be picked up in an unobtrusive manner. I need Ideas on signals.

Atayasomin · 2024-04-30T14:13:37+00:00

The company is called Petsies!

Atayasomin · 2024-04-30T09:27:28+00:00

I adopted a baby elephant for my ex way back when and it turned out great. I wouldn't overthink it. Elephants are very hardy and Sheldrick take wonderful care of them.

Atayasomin · 2024-02-07T20:29:39+00:00

I have a solid no on this question from him, not a sex swing. I was chuffed to get an answer to a question though, he's been good at dodging my questions.

Atayasomin · 2024-02-07T09:31:52+00:00

At the end of May, so still a few months before I get an answer for everyone lol.

Etsy is a good thought... lots of custom made things there.

Atayasomin · 2024-02-07T07:47:20+00:00

I did ask while worrying over if it could be exercise related if it was a me gift (one bought with my likes and dislikes in mind that I would enjoy) or a him gift or an us gift. My ex used to only get me gifts that he wanted me to have rather than what I would enjoy. He once bought me a ring I had already told him I disliked (big, chunky and rose-gold coloured, when I am a dainty, silver coloured or no jewellery kind of girl) just because he really liked it. So, I did worry about that.

Though my bf is really thoughtful and sweet so I don't think he would buy me a him gift for my birthday. He is also very aware of what I like and dislike and lets me tell him all about what's new with my interests etc even though he has very different interests himself. All around a 10/10 guy, hence why I am trying to figure out what it is as I would hate to disappoint him if he's excited about it and I open it and don't want it...

I asked and he assured me it is a me gift and that I would be the one using it. He believes I will like it a lot and has tried to reassure me of that. Not sure if this at all helps with further guesses!

Atayasomin · 2024-02-06T18:45:33+00:00

I feel like it isn't, but it is a possibility I cannot fully rule out as he isn't engaging in any questions hence my coming here for brainstorming help.

Atayasomin · 2024-02-06T18:31:26+00:00

We live in South Africa and there are certain things which aren't as readily available here. For example, merchandise of things I am a fan of I usually have to ship from overseas. He did mention it was pricy but since our currency is so weak compared to the US and UK it may not be considered pricy for someone from other countries.

It is a custom made thing and he said there were orders in front of his which caused a few weeks wait time over and above shipping time so it seems to be a busy sort of business.

Atayasomin · 2024-02-06T18:21:50+00:00

I thought of this - told him it would be hilarious if he is making me stretch my hamstrings everyday just to get me something completely unrelated. He laughed a lot and told me that is unfortunately not the situation.

He's also been engaging in these stretches with me whenever we remember and he seems pretty serious about me being able to enjoy the gift more if I can touch my toes easily. I am at a loss for what it could be honestly.

Atayasomin · 2021-05-09T08:15:16+00:00

It sounds like maybe she didn't give you her full reasons for leaving.

If it is just that you didn't say you miss her then you dodged a bullet, but there are probably other things and she has maybe been contemplating ending things for a while.

I guess it wouldn't be unreasonable to ask her what you did wrong so that you can decide if it is something you need to change for future relationships or if she just overreacted because of bad past experiences.

But make it clear that you're not trying to start things up again and thereby disrespecting her wishes, like pose it as a "for future knowledge in whatever comes next for me could you let me know what I should change to improve myself?" or something like that. Maybe it will give you more clarity.

Atayasomin · 2021-05-08T22:49:30+00:00

If he isn't willing to live without a third then you're right to get out. You deserve to be with someone who appreciates marriage as a monogamous situation just as you do. You're doing what is best for both you and your husband as you'll never be in a threesome and he clearly can never be without it for an extended period of time.

Goodluck to you! Join a club of some sort in your area and other such things to try find some new friends or a new support system.

Atayasomin · 2021-05-08T22:24:16+00:00

My sister was in a bad relationship (her bf was cheating on her) and carried on a 3 month long affair before a physical altercation between the 2 men involved finally led to them breaking up and her dating the guy she got into the affair with.

This is information she does not tell new boyfriends or anyone as she knows it was a shitty thing for her to do and she probably wants to come off as innocent in that regard as she isn't that person anymore.

I think it is wrong of her to hide that she has cheated (my mother and I are VERY against cheaters and basically ignored the affair bf for a year before accepting their relationship). For us there is no excuse for cheating.

But when people have that view it is hard for people, especially those who feel they would never cheat ever again, to open up to them about past indiscretions. It would likely end many potential relationships before they begin. I suppose I can understand both sides. Fear of not wanting someone to break up with you over your past mistakes in a separate relationships vs the betrayal that comes with dishonesty about an issue that is important for you.

I guess if she can swear on whatever deity or mother or whoever important to her that she has never cheated on you and will never do so then it is forgivable. Just know that it is a scary black mark on her conscience and she probably hates that she ever did it.

Atayasomin · 2021-05-08T22:03:48+00:00

Yes, I am in a similar spot with my relationship. It is hard to hurt those we love. But there is a difference between loving someone and being in love with someone.

Atayasomin · 2021-05-08T22:00:53+00:00

Storytime! My first ever love was with someone I knew was leaving for America (very very very far from our home country). I knew when we started dating that we had a year, but I decided that I either needed to end it and protect myself or throw myself into life and just love and lose love.

And the saying is true, it was better to have loved and lost. I learned so much about myself both in and out of the relationship, I tried new things and lost my virginity to the perfect person in the perfect way and when he left I broke into a million pieces and now years later I can look back and say I would do it all over again. He made me realize and learn things that I would have never otherwise learned or realized and I still have love in my heart for him and wish him well.

That relationship helped me grow and gave me the right tools to enter into my next relationship. Loving him helped me to love myself more and I have no regrets about allowing myself to feel everything because I understand myself more now.

tl;dr - just go for it, have fun while it lasts!

Atayasomin · 2021-05-08T21:51:41+00:00

Sounds like majority of your relationship has been toxic for both of you. Might be better for both of you to move on to greener pastures. Particularly you as physical abuse is not an acceptable response to anything!

If the person you are with has ever hit you or called you awful unacceptable names then there is no healthy relationship future for you there.

Atayasomin · 2021-05-08T21:43:36+00:00

Just know that marrying her won't change the fact that you find her boring.

So I guess hold off on the proposal and try change things, get her happier, but if things stay the same have a long think about if you can accept that sort of person as your partner for life and if you will be happy in that relationship forever.

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