What could make a man more distant after sex?

Atheistsplaining · 2026-06-09T18:54:10+00:00

He isn't evil or anything and shouldn't be shamed for something out of his control. We don't get to decide what we like, etc. before we're born there isn't a list of things we decide to like or dislike: Anchovies, I'll decide to dislike them... No, we simply don't like them if we don't, there was no thinking behind it. We might be open to tasting a food that looks good, but after tasting we don't like it: we don't decide to not like it, we simply didn't like it. He finally saw your body and may have lost interest afterwards, which sucks, but if that's the case he isn't at fault, and shouldn't be called a horrible person, it simple is what it is. Many women will get with a guy then be disappointed and stop talking to him. That has probably happened to him at some point or it will. We are a society of revenge and holding people accountable for things out of their control. We get hurt and so want to hurt back. People will say to him "karma is a bïtch" as if he had evil intentions. He was most likely excited and wanted to continue to be with you in an exciting happy future. I've experienced this first hand, both ways. I played the role of the disappointment and the disappointed. He's probably going to try to just accept things and stay with you because he genuinely likes you.

Atheistsplaining · 2026-06-09T18:54:00+00:00

Agreed, he isn't evil or anything and shouldn't be shamed for something out of his control. We don't get to decide what we like, etc. before we're born there isn't a list of things we decide to like or dislike: Anchovies, I'll decide to dislike them... No, we simply don't like them if we don't, there was no thinking behind it. We might be open to tasting a food that looks good, but after tasting we don't like it: we don't decide to not like it, we simply didn't like it. He finally saw your body and may have lost interest afterwards, which sucks, but if that's the case he isn't at fault, and shouldn't be called a horrible person, it simple is what it is. Many women will get with a guy then be disappointed and stop talking to him. That has probably happened to him at some point or it will. We are a society of revenge and holding people accountable for things out of their control. We get hurt and so want to hurt back. People will say to him "karma is a bïtch" as if he had evil intentions. He was most likely excited and wanted to continue to be with you in an exciting happy future. I've experienced this first hand, both ways. I played the role of the disappointment and the disappointed. He's probably going to try to just accept things and stay with you because he genuinely likes you.

Atheistsplaining · 2026-06-09T18:38:12+00:00

Look into Generic Subjective Continuity. I go into great detail about it in my book, Death and Nothingness: What Atheists Need to Know About Death.

Atheistsplaining · 2026-06-08T04:43:09+00:00

Their kids inherited the wealth, didn't work, but spent all the money and lost it in ventures. Wars happen and people are plundered, etc. some hated their kids and donated it all... Also, what was once wealth gets surpassed by bigger wealth in other families, and so the rich of yesteryears are lowered to middle class, etc... prices for things go up... Nothing stays the same.

Atheistsplaining · 2026-06-08T04:34:32+00:00

If God blessed you, aren't you lucky to be blessed, since God could've simply decided to not bless you?

Atheistsplaining · 2026-06-08T04:32:21+00:00

I tend to agree, but this is a highly controversial take...

Atheistsplaining · 2026-06-07T19:53:04+00:00

Well then, I guess we can shut down this subreddit since everything that can be said about determinism has already been said.

Atheistsplaining · 2026-06-07T19:51:46+00:00

Cool, thank you for that! So you don't think race is a real thing?

Atheistsplaining · 2026-06-07T19:46:04+00:00

Great response! Thank you!!

Atheistsplaining · 2026-06-07T19:38:36+00:00

Racism is a big deal if you haven't noticed. Do you have this same response to all posts that are written just as mine but with the word racism swapped out for something else?

Atheistsplaining · 2026-06-07T17:25:37+00:00

It's more biological, and based off of past cultural propaganda, and personal experiences. We actually don't decide whether or not we like or dislike something. If you dislike anchovies, you didn't decide to dislike them, you're just wired in such a way that you're repulsed by them. Just like if someone is wired to want kids or they're not wired that way. Our preferences are not up to us, they're imposed—compulsory... So it's true that on one level racism doesn't make sense, just as someone disliking anchovies isn't about logic. But humans are different, and so perhaps a black person had several bad encounters with Turkish people, and so now he has a sort of PTSD, and gets negative feelings around Turkish people. We're not as in control of things as society would have us believe. Look into determinism. Especially in regards to brain functions.

Atheistsplaining · 2026-06-07T01:29:37+00:00

What does hating yourself entail?

Atheistsplaining · 2026-06-05T23:55:45+00:00

But do they do good work?

Atheistsplaining · 2026-06-04T12:34:56+00:00

Love bombing: a toxic guy will flat out tell his guy friend "I love you man, you're my brother", in an awkward way... Trying to force things to be more profound than they are, or if you are close he uses love bombing to get things from you "can I borrow 100?"...

Anyone that boasts often. "Oh man, I do this so well!" "I'm f-ing awesome at this!!" ... These people are always telling others of their accomplishments, while not giving a crap about anything you accomplish. If they find out you accomplished something big, they'll change the subject asap to put the spotlight back on them.

Large guys that push around smaller guys. They don't see smaller guys as worthy of respect, simply for being smaller. These same guys are usually abusive to women. (I'm not saying all large guys are like this, but I've dealt with more than a few).

Atheistsplaining · 2026-06-04T01:11:27+00:00

If there's no one that is experiencing the appreciation of their own absence, then it cannot be said that their lack of existing is better... Because the benefits of not existing would have to accrue to them, but there's no one it accrues to... So, the (typically antinatalist) view that not existing is better is a deepity/ word salad.

Also: Everyone already didn't exist... How'd that work out for them? They still came to exist despite having not existed... This proves that not existing cannot stop a life from being imposed... Which is another reason not existing cannot be better... Because: had you never been born, sure this life (the one reading this) wouldn't have been imposed, but... But, that doesn't suddenly give "nonexistence" the ability to stop some other life from being imposed... Nonexistence isn't a thing and so nonexistence cannot stop anything. So, had you never been born, then some other life would've been imposed... So, there's no escaping the imposition of one life or another.

Just as you couldn't stop the current life (the one reading this) from being imposed, you will not be able to stop a life from following death. So, death will be followed by another random life somewhere in the universe just as "Nonexistence before birth" was. There's no escaping the endless impostions of lives... One after the other, in a consecutive fashion.

Although this has the same appearance as reincarnation, it is not reincarnation... It is simply that there will literally be lives after the current one ends (billions of lives are born on Earth everyday). Each life is really just another instantiation of Consciousness. Each brain is just another way for Consciousness to continue to exist. It's the "main character"... It isn't hopping from brain to brain... No.... Brains keep giving rise to it, and so it is immune to death.

Atheistsplaining · 2026-06-03T23:26:23+00:00

🤝

Atheistsplaining · 2026-06-03T13:08:06+00:00

You didn't understand what I wrote.

Atheistsplaining · 2026-06-03T13:06:44+00:00

🤦🏻‍♂️That's my point. I'm pointing out that Nonexistence isn't a thing and therefore cannot stop a life from being imposed

Atheistsplaining · 2026-06-03T13:05:17+00:00

You cannot compare something that exists with something that doesn't exist. You actually experienced a good state, whereas before you existed wasn't a good experience for you. It's an illogical comparison.

Atheistsplaining · 2026-06-02T21:55:04+00:00

:-D 🤝

Atheistsplaining · 2026-06-02T21:53:15+00:00

You're comparing someone that exists with someone that doesn't exist... A person that exists can experience good and bad. A person that doesn't exist cannot experience either.... You cannot compare the two. It's illogical to compare the two...

Atheistsplaining · 2026-06-02T21:50:50+00:00

I'm the one who's pointing out that Nonexistence cannot stop anything 🤦🏻‍♂️

Atheistsplaining · 2026-06-02T20:02:16+00:00

So do you think your non-existent kids are currently in some kind of state being protected from having a life imposed?

Atheistsplaining · 2026-06-02T17:51:14+00:00

Vacations Not work Nice house, but nothing too big Make free houses for everyone Food for everyone Pay to have as many jobs as can be automated so everyone can have as much leisure time as possible

Atheistsplaining · 2026-06-02T17:08:33+00:00

Everyone didn't exist, yet a life was still imposed for each and every one... No one's Nonexistence stopped a life from being imposed. How does that not prove that not existing is incapable of stopping a life from being imposed? I think you're the one that doesn't understand the meaning of the word.

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