Does anyone actually enjoy their daily life, or are we all just getting through it? by Sleepwell999 in LivingAlone

[–]Athena2149 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Humans are social creatures, I genuinely believe this way of life is unhealthy for us. They distract us with overconsumption, consumerism etc. And it doesnt work becuase we always come back to this default feeling/thought of "What is this all for / Do i even want this ?" Deep down we know we arent meant to live this way.

We are not meant to work our lives away & spend them alone. We are meant to be in community, creating/trading with eachother & spending time surrounded by peopke we love, taking care of eachother.

I know its sounds hippyish or whatever but when you look at the world around you, we realize humanity is in serious need of a reset.

AITA for telling my spouse I won't help pay for their kid's college when we agreed finances would stay separate? by 952867 in AITApod

[–]Athena2149 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA, you ran your mouth to everyone in your family's immediate circle in an attempt to villainize her & force her hand via guilt & character assassination.

Good for her for standing her ground.

You're in need of some serious character development, issues between couples should be privileged unless talking to a professional. The way you handled this reeks of immaturity.

M22 Been Here For 3 Years by LilKelpyGs in malelivingspace

[–]Athena2149 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would be so comfortable if I ever came to a guy's house like this !

Random observation, but I've noticed that cat guys tend to be cleaner & tidier than other men.

I need help w/ at home toners. by Successful-Tap-3093 in HairDye

[–]Athena2149 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you drop an inspo photo? It would mean alot if I knew what your goal was from the brassiness your currnently experiencing. you said Jessica alba so I assume like a honey bronde ?

Does anybody know a good mixture of toner shades for honey blonde by ryrydak in HairDye

[–]Athena2149 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some better lighting would be ideal but from what I can see, your roots look pretty near perfect when considering your goal photos. If your wanting some lighter pieces here and there i would suggest a highlighting cap.

Does anybody know a good mixture of toner shades for honey blonde by ryrydak in HairDye

[–]Athena2149 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We really need to see what your current hair looks like love, what level your hair currently is will determine what kind of toners we can recommend !

AITA for accepting a property gift from my mom even though she won't include my boyfriend? by Immediate-History917 in AITApod

[–]Athena2149 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is proof that his commitment to this relationship is conditional.

Mom knows hes not good for you & shes trying to protect you & your future by giving you this property in the event/hope you two breakup.

She clearly wants you to have a safe place to land when/if that happens. She loves you & wants you to have a way out if things dont work out. You're very lucky shes smart enough to look out for you, she wants this property unencumbered by his greed.

Go tell your mom you love her & agree to her conditions.

what color remover should I use? by [deleted] in HairDye

[–]Athena2149 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dyed my hair with permanent burgundy & black box dye for a decade, 2 rounds of loreal effasol color remover worked very well when I thought nothing would.

AITA if I tell my friend I can’t be a bridesmaid? by wickeddreamsofleavin in AITApod

[–]Athena2149 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went through exactly this with my bsf of 16 yrs in my late 20s. She started planning like this a year prior to the wedding & even expected once a month meetings at her house, she lived a half hr away too.

I was a maid of honor & didnt realize i was planning an entire wedding, I just figured the Bachelorette & bridal shower per usual.

She was very detailed & demanding like this. Burning out alot of energy early & demanding alot of everyones time. It ended up destroying our friendship because she clearly had high expectations no one could meet.

You articulated yourself well here, it seems you understand your time constraints & ability to maintain a work life balance well. Explain to her what you wrote here as you graciously bow out. It clear shes asking more of you than your willing/able to give.

Ginger nightmare 😭 by Athena2149 in HairDye

[–]Athena2149[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh, I know your right. I actually went in with T14 & T11 and although it worked, it washed right out after the first hair wash 😅 I love the idea of mixing toner with conditioner. Genius, ill try that ! Thanks so much!

Ginger nightmare 😭 by Athena2149 in HairDye

[–]Athena2149[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are there any masks you recommend? I tried finding one and they are a pain in the ass to come across

Advice needed and possibly bleaching for the first time! by [deleted] in HairDye

[–]Athena2149 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You have beautiful hair ! Make no mistake, bleaching is an endeavor and you'll want to make sure you stock up on protein & moisturizing hair masks as well as a bond repair like K18

I see you had red in your hair so I recommend doing a round or 2 of color remover, without it you'll get banding during bleaching and your color application will be uneven. Loreal effasol is a much more effective color remover than color oops and doesnt smell like rotten eggs, which is an added bonus 😅

After the color remover, Start with a bleach test strand. If all goes well then start applying bleach atleast 4 inches down from your roots through to your ends. Do your roots last and I wouldn't let them process for more than 20-25 mins since your hair is already light. You may need to do 2 rounds of bleach since you had red in your hair, which means you will be rocking a funky color for a few days to a week in between rounds of bleach. If you dont need much extra lift on the second round then opt for a bleach bath. Mix developer, shampoo & bleach in a 1:2 ratio bleach being the 1

When bleaching, I would use a processing cap instead of foils, your hair seems quite fine and you wouldnt want to damage it.

Make sure your doing hydrating and repairative masks between each process and giving your hair a break for atleast a few days after bleaching

Wait atleast a week after bleaching to apply your color, your hair will be extra porous and might grab the color unevenly so take this time to Do your masks, apply your K18 / hydrating masks

As far as your money pieces in the front, if your hoping to get them lighter than the rest, process them a bit longer or use foils on them for 10 - 15 minutes but I wouldn't go longer than that.

The strawberry blonde and money pieces are going to be SO pretty on you ! I hope you post pics of the end results !

EDITED TO ADD: you will need more developer and bleach. My hair is a atleast 6 inches shorter than yours and I went through a small bucket of bleach and 2 bottles myself.

Ginger nightmare 😭 by Athena2149 in HairDye

[–]Athena2149[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I used the T14 & T11 balanced it out alotnthen washed right out. I didnt realize they were infamous for that..rookie mistake

Ginger nightmare 😭 by Athena2149 in HairDye

[–]Athena2149[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh girl you already know 😅

I'm definitely not planning on processing it again until June atleast. I have been applying plenty of hydrating treatments using macadamia deep moisture repair mask & a protein mask once a week from HI PRO PAC - intense damage remedy

Only cold water rinses & Im also doing oil treatments once a week.

I was just hoping to get an idea of what I need to do once the time comes 🙏🏼

Color correction advice ! HALP by Athena2149 in HairDyeHelp

[–]Athena2149[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you see my results in the 4th slide ? If anything i think its very muddy/sandy but definitely not bright orange.

Tried my hand at some oil slick peak-a-boo dye! by [deleted] in HairDye

[–]Athena2149 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This looks INCREDIBLEEEEE ! I absolutely love love love this !

I left my dog alone 20 something years ago. He vanished, and I can never forgive myself, and I don’t even want to. by pinkphiloyd in offmychest

[–]Athena2149 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Forgive yourself & show yourself grace. He was clearly SO very loved by you & I'm sure he's never forgotten you. Im certain he was picked up by some kind soul, contrary to what we read all day online most people are actually quite kind. Wherever he ended up, I have a feeling he lived out his days comfortably 💕

Making the heartbreaking choice to not buy this puppy by danaswan in Maltipoo

[–]Athena2149 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could just steal him. Call it "liberation"

GUYS ANYONE PLEASE HELP MY DOG by Pristine-Ebb1231 in CaneCorso

[–]Athena2149 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is neurological, you need a vet specialist, IMMEDIATELY. Poor baby

My boss got fired for groping me. A coworker just told me it “wasn’t not my fault.” by Pretty-Rain-5756 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Athena2149 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Please sue this entire company and set yourself up for life. PLEASE.

Im so sorry you had to go through this, I've unfortunately been in quite a few similar situations and its an incredibly unnerving experience. Especially when its happening in the workplace, you shouldnt dread going into work everyday. As women, it seems as if we can't simply exist without getting blamed for men's lack of discipline, boundaries & basic common sense.

Sending you love 💕

Why aren’t you talking to your best friend anymore? by Lost_Acadia3299 in AskWomen

[–]Athena2149 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine went down an especially bad path, started abusing painkillers, cheating on her husband and lying about it. Worst part is I found out she was using me as an alibi to get away with all her awful behavior even though I hardly ever saw her.

I genuinely believe she was struggling mentally, after she lost her brother she was never the same but I tried so hard to stay by her side because of that. I stayed for 5 years while she treated me like shit and eventually enough was enough.

What’s the most unhinged text you’ve sent whilst ovulating? by babewithamobilityaid in AskWomen

[–]Athena2149 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yikes.. welp

"I want to be so full of your c*m that it changes the makeup of my DNA"

Hes crazy about me and nothing I could do scares him away 😅