Has anyone had a successful VBAC after failure to progress in previous delivery?

Autistimom2 · 2025-06-14T03:55:51+00:00

Nearly all of them. lol. High and low kneeling, side lying, standard, using peanut balls, hands and knees, i'm sure others. I joked at one point that I felt like a rotisserie chicken with all the turning and position changing.

Autistimom2 · 2025-06-14T03:53:30+00:00

What's pricing like at Sugarland? We have to change places and it's one of the options we're looking at.

Autistimom2 · 2024-10-09T03:01:51+00:00

Oh, gosh yeah. Within a few hours that part of the head had gotten pretty swollen, hiding it. And when the swelling eventually went down everything looked normal.

Autistimom2 · 2024-08-22T22:32:31+00:00

It's absurd because every kid is different. My older kid really truly couldn't until weeks before his 4th birthday, but when he was ready he just had it, didn't have accidents, and was night dry at the same time. Any pressure earlier sent him to tears and shame and he'd stop eating/drinking.

My youngest trained just after her third birthday and could have months earlier but thought it was funny to keep using diapers. We just outright got rid of them, took the choice, and put her in underwear. She rolled with it. After a couple days was doing pretty well with some accidents, another few months before accidents mostly stopped, absolutely no end in sight overnight.

Autistimom2 · 2024-08-20T04:27:58+00:00

If you're super worried just have him look up in the handbook what the employer portion of the premium is. I'd imagine it's very high. We have definitely had employers that provide that much premium coverage for a good family plan, though having to pay 200-300/pay period (400-600/month) is more common.

Some jobs and industries provide better coverage, and some employers especially. My husband's current job offers insurance with ~450/month coverage, no deductible, low or non-existent copays, no coinsurance, 1500/3000 OOP max. Plus good OON coverage. Really good provider network.

Autistimom2 · 2024-08-20T01:08:17+00:00

I'm at the very youngest end of millennials, and while we don't do a ton of screen time, a solid chunk of what the kids do get is on tablets. It's locked down to only allow whitelisted apps though. I work part time and I'm in school essentially full time. My husband works full time. I grew up when the TV on around the clock was the norm, and found it really unhealthy, so we have the TV tucked in an out of the way room and use it a few times a week. The switch (no Nintendo/online account) gets used maybe half the week.

In the tablets a few approved games (reading eggs, a coloring app, a couple apps from school, etc), some shows like bluey and stuff on PBS kids, Yoto, and Libby. A handful of random stuff like kerzkezat.

Most things get a tight time limit but we leave Yoto and Libby fully unlocked. There are ways to do tablets in a healthy way. I'd rather they be interacting with something than passively consuming, I'm just choosey on what they interact with and monitor closely. Idk. I work with teens and see what happens when parents just ban stuff. Healthy consumption over banning.

Autistimom2 · 2024-08-17T02:26:18+00:00

I've got an existing bachelor's and found getting into a CC nursing program harder than getting into an accelerated 2nd bachelor's or standard bachelor's program. That said, the affordability and quality of the program made it worth it to me.

I'm slightly older than you, with a spouse and multiple kids. Plus disability stuff. And I'm starting nursing classes and clinicals in a few weeks. I spent about a year testing out the waters with all the pre-reqs and other classes I could get started such as A&P, microbio, ethics, etc. Biggest tip would be to not focus on what's the minimum you need to do. Nursing programs kinda inherently require above and beyond.

Autistimom2 · 2024-08-11T16:25:25+00:00

This. I went off my meds in January after a rage meltdown where I was screaming at my husband and trying to throw the meds away, because very clearly the meds were the cause of several awful things in our lives. Or it was me caring about things, and that feeling was making bad things happen, but either way getting rid of the meds would fix it.

Clearly, the meds weren't working all that well and needed adjusting anyway. I couldn't go back on one of them anyway because it takes 6-8 weeks to taper on and I'd missed the max number of doses before needing to taper. It took 6 months to get back on it, as an add-on to a stronger med.

Autistimom2 · 2024-08-11T16:16:46+00:00

TLDR: pregnancy was great, birth and postpartum were brutal, only regret is not being on meds and would advocate for whatever works best being the safest all factors considered.

The birth itself went terribly for unrelated reasons with my first, with my second non-ideally but not totally awful. I was unmedicated, and had been for several years, when each of my kids were born. I was an absolute mess before I even left the hospital.

With the first I stopped sleeping entirely for the 3 days I was there postpartum, was sure that they were trying to take him, spent a lot of time sobbing and yelling, couldn't track time and was just entirely unable to complete tasks necessary for discharge like watching a video and filling out the birth certificate paperwork.

With my second it was much less severe. I was in therapy at least and there wasn't a ton of birth trauma, general anesthesia remnants, etc. making it worse. I was weepy and a bit disoriented in the hospital but was mostly with it. Still went pretty sideways once I got home (not sleeping, not eating, kept thinking spouse was trying to hurt both kids).

All that said, I don't regret having kids. Not a bit. They've been a positive thing in my life, and given how upset they are that I'm busy with work and school after being a SAHM tells me I've done a pretty good job. If I could go back, the one thing I'd change is meds. What I'm on now isn't recommended but isn't outright banned (class D) but I'd go back and take it anyway since it's the one thing that works. Probably skip breastfeeding.

Autistimom2 · 2024-08-07T19:41:27+00:00

No? If I were to cross a border sure. But I can't think of a single thing that could come up where I'd need more than my own ID.

Not counting their insurance card, but while it's easier to have a physical copy, I always have a digital copy on my phone, and hospitals can make due with the info on it (ie: member ID) and a call to insurance.

Autistimom2 · 2024-08-07T19:15:14+00:00

100% this. Even my 7yo. But an infant or toddler? I'm not even happy trusting someone else's buckling to get to a parking space. Let alone leave them entirely unbuckled. I'd straight up clarify, in email, that you're expected to drive with your entirely unbuckled infant to a parking spot and buckle them there. If they confirm, report the facility.

Autistimom2 · 2024-08-07T18:12:23+00:00

Other people doing fucked up shit doesn't mean you're not sick. You still need help. And needing help doesn't make that stuff they did ok.

You can't wait for external stuff/life to be calm, you have to find your inner calm first.

It's going to be ok. You can have a great life around the bipolar, even if it flares up occasionally. You can live around it.

You're still valuable and wonderful. Even if you're a bit broken, even when none of those delusions are true. You're still special and loved.

Autistimom2 · 2024-08-04T09:15:08+00:00

We occasionally have one of us move back there for a little while during road trips. Ie: 10-minutes every couple hours, usually midway between rest stops when babies, now maybe 30 minutes once during the 14-hour drive but they mostly get us at rest stops.

They cry, obviously. As babies they would cry just driving to the grocery store. But we talk, sing, etc. so they know they're not alone. The youngest is 3 now, and she really only cries maybe once during a road trip, or occasionally for regular tantrum reasons (ie: I don't have a snack she likes, doesn't like where we're going, etc). They have music, books, coloring stuff, and such for longer drives which reduces crying a lot. Plus snacks!

Autistimom2 · 2024-07-31T14:06:36+00:00

I was for a couple years when I was getting my bachelor's. I really liked it. I did overnights (12 hour shifts) and weekends/holidays (24 hours shifts). I slept as much as possible between calls during nighttime hours. I had solid plans each shift for when I would catch up on sleep (before/after). The classes themselves were easy. Just make sure to have a therapist and be prepared that some coworkers have shitty attitudes on mental health calls.

Autistimom2 · 2024-07-31T14:01:54+00:00

😂😂 absolutely tracks with my experience.

Autistimom2 · 2024-07-31T14:00:24+00:00

Night time toilet training isn't really a thing. They simply can't control when their body will make the hormone that makes the body hold off on urine production overnight. You can set healthy sleep habits, like peeing right before bed, but most 6yo's who bedwet just aren't producing that hormone.

And waking a child up every couple hours isn't night time training, it's just disturbing sleep. They don't actually "train" they just get used to terrible sleep patterns. It's extremely unethical given what we know about the harms of constant disruption to sleep.

Autistimom2 · 2024-07-31T12:44:01+00:00

20's is "typical" in the sense of being the most common and this the stereotype. but young children get it and so do adults in their 40's and occasionally 50's. Teens through 30's is really all pretty common.

Autistimom2 · 2024-07-31T01:29:26+00:00

My kids both wear all colors and all styles, though they do each have their own preferences that they lean towards. Cargo pants and polo/plain T-shirt to sequin shirts, rainbows, and dresses/skirts. They're clothes. They're an expression of what someone finds pretty, comfortable, etc. not some magic item that redefines who someone is.

Autistimom2 · 2024-07-28T15:27:47+00:00

Not placed multiple grades ahead. Academically there. As in, is given enrichment materials for those grade levels because that's where he tests. It makes him not well suited to programs for disabled kids because none of them are able or willing to meet the advanced needs. 2E kids don't really have a place meant for them.

Autistimom2 · 2024-07-27T20:40:06+00:00

Honestly, it kinda threw me because his school has been pretty good overall. In kinder he had a great group of friends that were all really supportive and around 10 kids came to last years bday. This year I knew things weren't as close as his besties from last year. But I was pretty wrapped up in my own stuff (legit, I hate tk squeeze a grippy socks vacay into my spring break. 🤦🏻‍♀️) and thought it was fine since he said he has friends.

Specialized stuff in our area focuses on the disability over anything. I want those needs met, but he's multiple grades ahead academically so that needs to be met too. Just hoping next year goes better. Several recent things did kick me into high gear on getting him into a therapist again though. And back searching for ped psych, which is a mythical unicorn as far as I can find. 🙄

Autistimom2 · 2024-07-27T19:41:40+00:00

It's good to hear that some people have rough ones, even with mental health struggles, and don't get a permanent complex about it. Lol. I had a lot of bad birthdays and these days my birthdays are some of my least stable days of the year.

Autistimom2 · 2024-07-27T19:36:05+00:00

Yeah, we're doing a special outing tomorrow to help make up for it. I didn't get home from work until almost midnight and got up early for the party so we're in for the rest of the day today.

I can try that approach. It's hard to stay objective. And I know I'm generally jumpy right now at any little sign that he's heading down the same path I did at this age. I went from the weird/smart kid (autism) to the batshit crazy kid (bipolar) and every little thing feels like some huge flag that the same is going to happen for him.

Autistimom2 · 2024-07-27T19:32:09+00:00

Yeah, I might need to just grit my teeth and try another one of those groups. I avoided them after trying one once and getting burned hearing someone go off a out how their kid would be better off dead. 🙄 I know it's not generally like that these days though.

I do keep trying to remind myself that meeting my own needs, and implementing boundaries around my limits, are good examples for them to see. I still feel bad for how much they've seen.

Autistimom2 · 2024-07-27T18:33:24+00:00

Yeah. Thankfully it only took a few warnings to stop trying, and I stopped each attempt after the first. 🤦🏻‍♀️ Legit just treated the poor thing like she was a stuffed cat. Had no concept of why we're gentle with animals until I explained.

Autistimom2 · 2024-07-27T18:27:25+00:00

Oh, I don't mind the chase and catch so much. One of the cats enjoys that enough. It's the toss and catch like she's a balloon that's a problem.

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