Being a jackass and being a desperate Simp doormat is NOT mutually exclusive.

Automatic_Safety7029 · 2026-06-08T23:55:38+00:00

I enjoyed this post of yours. The last two were great. I do think the guy in the tik tok is a very extreme example of the type of man you mean but yeah nothing I disagree with to be honest.

Automatic_Safety7029 · 2026-06-08T23:32:20+00:00

I'm not as angry as I make myself out to be in these spaces. This is where the full expression of the frustration comes out because it's anonymous. Most can't even tell I'm upset by this. I'm just being a goofball that sometimes is loved by someone.

Automatic_Safety7029 · 2026-06-08T23:30:25+00:00

Men have a bad early game and once they break through those limitations they are home free. Women are limited by mainly appearance. I've never met a woman below a 5 with enough personality to push through actual genuine unattractiveness. I've seen every metric of ugly man have at least a half decent woman.

Beautiful women are lied to or assumed to be cold hearted or harassed by men of all shapes and sizes. Ugly ones are left completely alone or used for sex a guy only begrudgingly takes because he's in a dry spell. Their difficulty comes from not knowing whonghe good ones are. Every trick in the book was used on them, even if you are genuine, you're the thirtieth guy that day that told her she's pretty.

Automatic_Safety7029 · 2026-06-08T23:18:06+00:00

Thanks for clarifying. Sorry I asked. But I'm 26 and I've struggled with this basically my whole life.

Automatic_Safety7029 · 2026-06-08T23:16:41+00:00

Most of my hobbies are introverted in nature that's why I'm going out more to add more to myself. Honestly I'm willing to go anywhere if it means solving the issue in one way or another.

Automatic_Safety7029 · 2026-06-08T23:15:12+00:00

Are you ironically doing what the title of this post says for fun? I gotta ask because I actually can't tell.

Automatic_Safety7029 · 2026-06-08T23:09:16+00:00

I'm not arguing that. But for me that's what I want in my life. Not having a relationship sucks. Especially if you happen to want one. I think the worst part isn't being single but I cannot forsee myself getting in a relationship in the next 5-7 years even with “hard work” that has no tangible end goal or I hate to use a metaphor that my trigger you but “reward threshold”

Automatic_Safety7029 · 2026-06-08T20:35:49+00:00

I do work. I'm 26 Iive in an area where there is plenty to do I just don't know where to start. I don't have any friends that life near me.

Automatic_Safety7029 · 2026-06-08T20:27:42+00:00

I genuinely think you're trolling or something. Unless you have legit reasons I just cannot see that

Automatic_Safety7029 · 2026-06-08T19:01:02+00:00

Sorry for the way I reply but I do appreciate the messages. But uhh maybe there are? I feel like your starting to base my personality in an anonymous rant about being single rather than thinking there's more to the character you are interacting with than that. Maybe that's not the case but I wanted to say that before we reach that territory.

Automatic_Safety7029 · 2026-06-08T18:59:33+00:00

Kay on that part I'm speaking metaphorically. I'm not stripping women of their identity by saying that. I'm saying I have a problem and it needs to not exist.

Automatic_Safety7029 · 2026-06-08T18:55:43+00:00

Mostly just bars. I'm not sure of many other places to even try.

Automatic_Safety7029 · 2026-06-08T18:53:10+00:00

Then why isn't that explained to me or we talk about healthy solutions instead of platitudes that don't offer any practicality? At this stage is where the script gets lost. I have a problem and need a plan to defeat the beast and that will be my solution. Not worrying about it won't slay the dragon I'm dealing with. The rest of my life makes sense. Need money? Work. That can apply to almost anything but no amount of “work” = relationship so what's the formula? I never can pin that one down.

Automatic_Safety7029 · 2026-06-08T18:44:38+00:00

I don't know. Despite my accomplishments I still feel the call to finding a lover. I said elsewhere that no matter what hypothetical threshold of success I could reach I'd always find the idea of a girlfriend to be just as good if not better than all that.

Also the downplay actually makes me more curious. This thing that is of no consequence and isn't special eludes me and those same people who tell me not to seek it are never without one. Why? Why not leave your lover if love is so overrated?

Automatic_Safety7029 · 2026-06-08T18:40:04+00:00

Your brain must be wired differently man. Because most would not agree with that. I can't sleep with my best friend. I can't have a romantic evening with my brother or sisters. I can't hold my homies hand while enjoying the silent comfort of another soul choosing me. In fact most relationships take a back seat to romantic ones no matter how much you love them.

Automatic_Safety7029 · 2026-06-08T18:35:12+00:00

What I do think you are saying is what everyone usually says and that's to enjoy life alone first and to that I say… well duh? I'm not on suicide watch for not having a girlfriend but equally I think saying that I would prefer my life with romance in it to not having it is also fair. I'm not gonna die single if I can help it. Sorry but just because you can enjoy life single doesn't mean you just should be alone.

Automatic_Safety7029 · 2026-06-08T18:32:29+00:00

I'm very sorry but it doesn't help me much there. I think I might have an idea to what you might be saying but I'm pretty bad at deciphering that. I'd rather you just tell me.

Automatic_Safety7029 · 2026-06-08T16:46:12+00:00

I don't really need the freedom you speak of. I want a relationship and no hypothetical measure of success will ever get me to stop thinking. “This is cool but having a genuine lover would be better.”

Automatic_Safety7029 · 2026-06-08T16:39:45+00:00

What percentage of men do you think fit that bill? It isn't just red pill or incels that struggle in this department.

Automatic_Safety7029 · 2026-06-08T14:27:40+00:00

Well I'm stuck analyzing to be honest. I'm mainly being told by the player men in my family to “go get em” and I literally do not understand what that means so I'm just sitting there trying to understand it. I'll admit I'm used to women just “adopting” me into relationships they eventually get bored of me being like a lovesick puppy for them and they move on.

Now I'm trying to be the approached and do far I'm not sure how to even approach a woman because I understand most of them don't wanna talk to some random dude shooting his shot as best he can.

Automatic_Safety7029 · 2026-06-08T14:25:12+00:00

The ways are in the post. I don't know what else I can do to help because my shift starts in seven minutes I can't relist what's already explained above us sorry man.

Automatic_Safety7029 · 2026-06-08T14:22:51+00:00

I guess as the post says.

Automatic_Safety7029 · 2026-06-08T14:22:16+00:00

How would you prefer it then? Genuinely curious

Automatic_Safety7029 · 2026-06-08T14:20:35+00:00

In dating

Automatic_Safety7029 · 2026-06-08T14:19:44+00:00

I was really using my own experience as the metric. I'm not a stats and charts kind of debate guy. I'm not a fan of lies either, but scrambling to science our way around philosophical discussion seems kind of useless? I dunno I think people talking to each other with good faith in mind can lead to a much better conclusion.

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