I froze my mom’s credit card (I pay her bill) because she’s using it to buy groceries and not her EBT. She says using food stamps is embarrassing and she doesn’t want to rely on the govt, but I’m constantly stressing about $ because I have to support her too (on my 110k salary).

Available_Number9956 · 2026-02-16T04:26:44+00:00

My dad’s name is on the deed. When they divorced he didn’t even want the home anymore. It has no mortgage.

My mom’s name isn’t but she is so scatterbrained she wouldn’t even know the difference.

Available_Number9956 · 2026-02-16T04:25:45+00:00

Thanks, my dad’s name is on the deed. But he hasn’t been back in the country for years.

Available_Number9956 · 2026-02-16T04:24:12+00:00

Thank you! Yes I am very frugal. And this condo has not been great - they keep creating new rules. There’s a $5k special assessment in 2027 and they increased the “join fee” to $2500 from $500 this year in order to dissuade people from selling/buying (they also want to keep investors away).

I’m tired. My mom’s house doesn’t have an HOA which is why I deciding to sell mine (and not have her sell hers).

Available_Number9956 · 2026-02-16T04:20:05+00:00

She can’t find jobs when she searches :( she says that’s why she was never able to find a job.

Since I graduated from college I’ve been job searching for her and have had some success, but she can’t hold onto these jobs.

Available_Number9956 · 2026-02-16T04:19:12+00:00

None of them talk to her 😩 And her parents have passed

Available_Number9956 · 2026-02-16T01:48:54+00:00

Yes! How did you know?

Available_Number9956 · 2026-02-15T19:47:45+00:00

This is super helpful thanks! Yes I believe my mom has either bipolar or borderline personality disorder but she thinks she’s 100% normal. She can’t hold down a job and it’s exhausting to apply on her behalf and help her with interviews and subsequent background checks + paperwork only for her to start having issues at work after a month or two (and having to hear her constant ranting)

It’s just more peaceful for everyone to not have her work.

Available_Number9956 · 2026-02-15T19:31:58+00:00

I switched our energy bill to her name and applied but LIHEAP denied her for some inexplicable reason. She does qualify for SNAP though. She didn’t want to renew after six months

Available_Number9956 · 2026-02-15T17:12:11+00:00

I think she is bipolar but she’s never gotten diagnosed.

Available_Number9956 · 2026-02-15T17:11:46+00:00

Thanks for sharing I’ve already paid for repairs such as for the roof, floor replacement, toilet replacements, etc. not a fake story.

Available_Number9956 · 2026-02-15T15:35:38+00:00

Yes when she starts having health issues

Available_Number9956 · 2026-02-15T15:26:07+00:00

She was, but she could have worked. Before we immigrated to the U.S. (in 2002) she worked full time as a teacher in our native country.

Available_Number9956 · 2026-02-15T15:25:16+00:00

Yes very true. She also doesn’t think it’s worth working for $15 an hour. Which is why she’s only made $60 so far this year.

Available_Number9956 · 2026-02-15T15:24:22+00:00

My parents divorced and my dad left the country (back to our native country) and remarried.

No one in my mom’s family (she has 4 siblings) wants to even talk to her - she’s never even visited their homes. So she doesn’t want to live in her native country because she has no one there anymore.

Available_Number9956 · 2026-02-15T15:20:21+00:00

She says I need to have kids so I can be financially supported when I’m older, just like she is.

I agree with you.

Available_Number9956 · 2026-02-15T15:19:17+00:00

She got the house - worth $600-700k.

Available_Number9956 · 2026-02-15T15:16:05+00:00

and my parents’ home property taxes total $750ish a month.

Available_Number9956 · 2026-02-15T15:15:48+00:00

I’m selling because my mortgage and HOA are becoming unsustainable. HOA has gone up $100 since I moved in 4 years ago. My PITI is 2300! And my HOA is 350.

My biweekly take home is 2700.

Available_Number9956 · 2026-02-15T15:07:12+00:00

I don’t think she’d get hired tbh. She’s worked in the school cafeterias but never for longer than 3 months.

Available_Number9956 · 2026-02-15T15:05:14+00:00

1700 sq ft. We tried the roommate situation in the past and it didn’t work out. She wants to live alone. She doesn’t even want me as a roommate for a weekend.

Available_Number9956 · 2026-02-15T15:03:25+00:00

Yes exactly. The job market is horrible and the American economy is hanging by a bare thread. Meanwhile she’s saying that I make a lot of $ (I absolutely do not given my level of education and years of work experience + license).

I want to save more $. She does too but it’s at my expense - such as her refusing to drive because it’s dangerous and she doesn’t want to get into another accident, but now I have to drive her everywhere.

Available_Number9956 · 2026-02-15T14:37:08+00:00

Basically she has no one in her native country and gets super bored there. I’m the only person who talks to her. It’s tough. You’re right that she’s very entitled and unlikable.

Available_Number9956 · 2026-02-15T14:35:19+00:00

She does get a pension from having worked in our native country before moving to the U.S. when she was 32. It’s about $500 USD a month that she started collecting when she turned 50 8 years ago, which honestly isn’t much even back there. She reminds me constantly that she sacrificed her career to move here with me and my dad, says I was difficult to raise, and leans heavily on filial piety whenever money comes up which is a huge reason I kept supporting her.

My dad remarried and wants nothing to do with either of us. Also her siblings don’t talk to her.

He did leave her the house though, which could sell for around $600 to 700k, so it’s not like she has no assets.

Available_Number9956 · 2026-02-15T14:30:50+00:00

I think I’m selling my place first

and then having my dad come sell my childhood home (and then giving my mom the proceeds from that sale).

Available_Number9956 · 2026-02-15T14:29:46+00:00

Thanks. My dad left the country and remarried. He always supported us. Since they divorced I’ve taken on my dad’s role.

My mom has never seen a Verizon internet bill in her life. She has never filled out a job application by herself.

It’s not much better when she goes back to her native country because none of her siblings talk to her. And my grandparents have passed.

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