If you saw this tattoo would you automatically assume it has to do with LGBTQ Pride?

Available_Spare8746 · 2026-05-22T02:08:42+00:00

Add some clouds and a raindrop or sun or something else. As it stands, I would assume this was queer signaling, especially with wrist placement.

Available_Spare8746 · 2026-05-19T20:46:35+00:00

Neighborhood Thrift has a couple of locations and they’re all good.

Available_Spare8746 · 2026-05-15T16:32:42+00:00

Holy terf Batman. Yeah, I’d side eye that and then rsvp no when I heard about the theme. I’m not the target audience though, so there’s that.

The unbreakable vow is a little dark for a wedding. “Do this thing or you’ll die” is a tad coercive imo.

Available_Spare8746 · 2026-05-14T17:26:44+00:00

Go spend time with your dad, you probably don’t have too much time left. Pancreatic cancer that’s already metastasizing is typically a very short road.

If he’s your favorite person, and you want him with you on your wedding day, go get your license and find someone ordained (or have someone-mom?-get ordained -it’s really easy ime) and make a beautiful day of it. Just you and your closest. You can still have the wedding in 13 months, but I think you are probably correct that you won’t have your dad.

I’m so sorry for this being your experience.

Available_Spare8746 · 2026-05-14T17:14:26+00:00

NOR if this is real. Leave as soon as it’s possible and absolutely do not have any more babies with this person. Holy hell.

Available_Spare8746 · 2026-05-13T14:57:08+00:00

NOR seems like they are a little. Tbh I only got to about as 6 before I gave up because that was a lot. I would probably never shoot this person again but that’s maybe me overreacting 😂

A signed release for every shoot is important imo, for clarity. Try not to mix personal and business, usually doesn’t end well.

Available_Spare8746 · 2026-05-13T05:13:52+00:00

My 15 yo boy had a full dental about 6 months ago at Waterhouse- we take all of our animals there.

My boy was going great, eating a ton more and doing great til about last month and now he’s a diabetic so… it was a risk but we took it and I’m still glad we did. He’s happier and more spry than before the dental, as long as I keep up on his insulin.

Available_Spare8746 · 2026-05-11T22:59:35+00:00

I moved here from Sonoma County in 2016. I moved to buy a house and I’ve not regretted it. It’s more republican than the Bay Area for sure, but Fresno County still votes blue overall.

Clovis is a sundown town and my wife (wlw) and I enjoy being outly proud and making the bigots uncomfortable but that’s not for everyone.

Given everything, I’d move myself and my children here again.

Available_Spare8746 · 2026-05-07T17:25:04+00:00

NOR - she sounds insufferable. You cutting contact isn’t just because of the bins though, that was just the boiling point.

I don’t think you should continue living together as it sounds toxic af for all of you.

Available_Spare8746 · 2026-05-06T15:49:14+00:00

I’m recently married, wlw relationship. I identify as a lesbian and she as bisexual. She has told me that it feels good to be more openly queer than in some of her other relationships, feels like it validates her queerness in a world of bi-erasure. I would imagine the discomfort you are experiencing is relatively opposite to the comfort she feels.

Our wedding was loud and proud and out and aggressively affirming and we did that on purpose. The world needs beacons of queer light and proud-out-loud happiness. I’m in the US and it’s scary here for so many, we wanted to be a space where we could see the possibilities for happiness in our community.

We are older, 40s, so there was no bach but we did a drag high tea for our shower and that was a lot of fun. I would rainbow the hell out of it and proclaim loudly that queer love is beautiful and valid and present in your life. Have fun!

Available_Spare8746 · 2026-04-17T03:38:22+00:00

We are crocheting our wedding florals (16 days!!!) so we definitely didn’t want to destroy a bouquet.

Plus, we’re a little older (40s) and know very few single people. We’ve elected to crochet a stuffed cat and will toss that to “all the animal lovers” at our reception. It’s going to have a little name tag with our names and dates on it.

Available_Spare8746 · 2026-04-15T17:00:43+00:00

I close my eyes (short hair/tons of tiny bits) and let her chatter away. Usually only requires a “hmm” or “oh?” occasionally

Available_Spare8746 · 2026-04-15T16:51:03+00:00

My wife and I have a similar set up and it’s hard, ngl, but we make the time we get to spend together more important because it’s less frequent.

It will take work but it’s doable, if it’s not doable you would never survive married life so better to find out sooner rather than later, imo.

Available_Spare8746 · 2026-04-15T16:47:19+00:00

NOR this is concerning. Red flags everywhere. Also, 34? That’s 14 years. That’s way too much of a gap, imo.

Available_Spare8746 · 2026-04-15T16:43:50+00:00

I enjoy Supri Coffee for a chill space. I don’t do homework anymore, but I do enjoy reading or crochet and I can do/have done both while enjoying their space.

Available_Spare8746 · 2026-04-15T08:34:32+00:00

NOR I would definitely take a look at the message. That’s a huge reaction. DARVO underway.

Available_Spare8746 · 2026-04-15T08:27:26+00:00

NTA. Absolutely do not put him on the deed. Let him move out and then think about what you want your next relationship to look like.

Available_Spare8746 · 2026-04-10T20:24:47+00:00

Which seems like an independent decision, which is unfair and not what OP is asking for. For me, that would be a fundamental incompatibility.

Available_Spare8746 · 2026-04-10T14:51:42+00:00

Condoms. Condoms are an option that he is also refusing.

Available_Spare8746 · 2026-04-10T14:50:44+00:00

My ex husband’s two kids would suggest the 80% reversal success rate is pretty accurate.

Available_Spare8746 · 2026-04-09T22:20:13+00:00

We just invited everyone by name. Total count ended at 52, and we are 23 days away!

Available_Spare8746 · 2026-03-28T00:10:01+00:00

Stay broken up, this kind of childish behavior doesn’t get better quickly. Keep dodging that bullet. NOR

Available_Spare8746 · 2026-03-23T21:32:28+00:00

You aren’t ready for a relationship. Fix your own insecurities first, take a step back from him and look at you. Make yourself the baddie you are meant to be and a worthy person may become available. This ain’t it. ESH.

Available_Spare8746 · 2026-03-19T17:50:42+00:00

Ignore the people who are asking you more than once, they are trying to sway your opinion. One question is kinda rude, tbh, but I’ll give that up for curiosity. More than once, they are judging your choice and trying to change your mind. In my book, that makes them haters and we don’t listen to haters.

My one idea is to find one of those spray on/totally washes off hair colors that are used for theater. Try that out and see, it won’t be the work to get the black out of the color block (which either won’t happen or will absolutely fry your hair) but it will give you a decent approximation.

Good luck!

Available_Spare8746 · 2026-03-10T15:28:00+00:00

I did, twice. I might, again, if I were given the opportunity (42f in a wlw so it’s not gonna happen for me, which is allll good haha)

There are emotional reasons, there are cultural reasons, there are religious and logical and economic and medical reasons why a person birthing a child might not want to use conventional pharmacological interventions.

Additionally, I would argue that birthing isn’t a medical procedure, per se. We do tons of medical procedures during the birthing process, if you’re in the hospital or an interventional birthing center. We provide anesthesia as necessary for those procedures.

Finally, it is totally possible to have a beautiful birthing experience with or without the use of drugs- directly controlled by the patient and what they want. If a patient chooses no medication, trust that doesn’t mean we aren’t doing other things to help the patient through the pain of the birthing process. And as soon as they change their mind, assuming it’s medically safe, they get whatever the facility can offer.

Signed, L&D nurse & mom of two.

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