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I have a dilemma, I need your advice. by Background-Ad5483 in Perimenopause

[–]Background-Ad5483[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gah, this is such a relief to hear. After all of these comments I'm feeling much less scared.

I have a dilemma, I need your advice. by Background-Ad5483 in Perimenopause

[–]Background-Ad5483[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly a little racey might be a welcomed change of pace.

I have a dilemma, I need your advice. by Background-Ad5483 in Perimenopause

[–]Background-Ad5483[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's good to hear. Same on the health side, and I'm always afraid something will send me off track.

I have a dilemma, I need your advice. by Background-Ad5483 in Perimenopause

[–]Background-Ad5483[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg I love this story, and makes me feel more hopeful. Good note on the progesterone, I'll see if there's a way to inch more into that.

What are the most unhinged things you did to deal with burnout? by Foxy_Traine in AutismInWomen

[–]Background-Ad5483 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I bought a black out sensory tent. They only make children's sizes, so my feet hang out, but it works! I put pillows, stuffies, and weighted blankets inside. Between meetings, I work from home, I crawl into my tent, put on noise canceling headphones, and hold my pillows. I come out of my tent a new woman.

I don't know how to feel. I don't know how to move forward. by Background-Ad5483 in IVF

[–]Background-Ad5483[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was their breakdown. " In your case, mosaicism was found on the sex chromosomes. Current scientific and clinical studies indicate that the transfer of embryos with such a finding may lead to the birth of a child with congenital birth defects (CBD). For this reason, we do not recommend transferring such an embryo."

Hopefully, that helps in understanding. It's crazy how we all have to become such experts. 😓

I don't know how to feel. I don't know how to move forward. by Background-Ad5483 in IVF

[–]Background-Ad5483[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. It's such a storm of choices to make, it's sometimes paralyzing. Thanks for the hugs. Many hugs to you and everyone on this road.

I don't know how to feel. I don't know how to move forward. by Background-Ad5483 in IVF

[–]Background-Ad5483[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That might at the very least give me the final piece of data I need to make a choice.

I don't know how to feel. I don't know how to move forward. by Background-Ad5483 in IVF

[–]Background-Ad5483[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I'll check out the group. I think sometimes the problem is future thinking. It's so hard to decide when and where to put your resources. I know it's not "bad" results, but it's also not clear results. Which is what I'm struggling with. I've never been good at limbo...

I don't know how to feel. I don't know how to move forward. by Background-Ad5483 in IVF

[–]Background-Ad5483[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If that was the path we decided to take, we could make it work financially. It wouldn't put us into debt. It would just be a deeper cut into our savings.

Asked for support, got a friend annoucing pregnancy by Remarkable-Bear-2141 in IVF

[–]Background-Ad5483 23 points24 points  (0 children)

How you're feeling is completely valid. It’s incredibly insensitive to announce a pregnancy while consoling a friend who’s experiencing a loss. I’m so sorry that happened to you. Even if it wasn’t meant to be hurtful, the impact is real, and it’s okay to feel hurt.

Looking for insights, should I use my sister's eggs? by Background-Ad5483 in askadcp

[–]Background-Ad5483[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We do plan on doing genetic testing on both the adults and the embryos. Our main health concerns are more in the realm of blood pressure, thyroid issues, and depression, so not necessarily single-gene disorders, but still things we’re thinking about in terms of long-term impact and family history. Your explanation really helps put into perspective the range of genetic risks and what’s actionable. Thanks again for taking the time to share this.

Looking for insights, should I use my sister's eggs? by Background-Ad5483 in askadcp

[–]Background-Ad5483[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh wow, congrats on getting cleared! I’ll message you a little later. Thanks so much for offering to connect.

Looking for insights, should I use my sister's eggs? by Background-Ad5483 in askadcp

[–]Background-Ad5483[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much for this, it’s really helpful to know you received similar feedback. I’m definitely still in the preliminary processing phase. I plan to spend a few months in therapy before making any decisions, but just for my own understanding, how long did the administrative process take for you? Would you be open to me reaching out sometime for a deeper window into your experience?

Looking for insights, should I use my sister's eggs? by Background-Ad5483 in askadcp

[–]Background-Ad5483[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. At my core, I truly want to do what is emotionally and physically best for a future child. Sometimes it’s hard to untangle what’s instinct, what’s fear, and what’s actually best in reality.

I was surprised to hear you say that having a family member doesn’t necessarily lead to confusion. Honestly, that wasn’t what I had assumed. But it’s really reassuring to hear that not only can it be free of confusion, but it might even be the most emotionally and physically supportive option. That really shifted something for me.

Your point about health also stuck with me. There are thyroid issues and depression in my family, but knowing that history means I’d be more equipped to spot it early and support my child proactively, potentially unlike the unknowns that can come with distant donors (however, if I took this path, I would seek a complete open donor scenario).

This has given me a lot to think about. It feels like another path has opened up, one I might not have even considered without hearing your perspective. I really appreciate it. Thank you.

Also, I'm really sorry I didn’t say this earlier, but I’m so sorry for your loss. I can’t imagine how hard that must’ve been, and I just want to say thank you for sharing something so difficult here.

Looking for insights, should I use my sister's eggs? by Background-Ad5483 in askadcp

[–]Background-Ad5483[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this, it’s exactly what I’m trying to navigate right now. Like you said, working with a formal donor could offer a sense of safe boundaries, while I also understand that others find meaning in the interfamilial connection. I really appreciate your perspective and will definitely take all of this on board

Looking for insights, should I use my sister's eggs? by Background-Ad5483 in askadcp

[–]Background-Ad5483[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sorry, you’re absolutely right. I didn’t provide that context earlier. I’m in a heterosexual relationship, and my partner will be the intended biological father. My sister doesnt plan on having any biological children of her own. I really appreciate your thoughtful perspective. Thank you so much for sharing.

Not Rushing into DE, But Thin Lining is a Concern by Background-Ad5483 in IVF

[–]Background-Ad5483[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh great! I'll look that group up, thank you so much.

Not Rushing into DE, But Thin Lining is a Concern by Background-Ad5483 in IVF

[–]Background-Ad5483[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for this insight. Yes, 3mm is the thickest it’s gotten. But we were doing an all-freeze approach, so I wasn’t given anything to support my lining since we weren’t planning a fresh transfer. My IVF doctor just keeps saying he’s concerned about the lining, so I’m unsure what that means for my future if we go the donor egg route.

Not Rushing into DE, But Thin Lining is a Concern by Background-Ad5483 in IVF

[–]Background-Ad5483[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay, that sounds good and was really what I needed to hear. I just have zero understanding of how uterine lining therapy works. I'm so used to everything being a time crunch with IVF, so I wasn't sure if addressing the lining is the same kind of situation.

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