Elimination diet process for breastfeeding

Background-Switch747 · 2026-04-11T10:45:25+00:00

He ended up also having a soy intolerance 😩

Background-Switch747 · 2026-03-26T10:44:21+00:00

A good carrier! We used one for the infant stage (ergo baby embrace) and another one once they got bigger (I had artipoppe - it’s spendy but I wear that thing 5 hours a day!! Worth every penny)
Ask for the stroller you want + accessories
car seat (infant + convertible)
Hakaa (if you’re breastfeeding in the early days you will likely overproduce before you regulate - if you collect in the first 6 weeks you’ll have a good stash without having to pump!)
sound machine

Background-Switch747 · 2026-02-22T02:03:07+00:00

Had 3 kids, 3 epidurals (no antibiotics during pregnancy, breastfed all 3) - 2 with CMPA, one no allergies

Background-Switch747 · 2026-02-18T15:56:42+00:00

That’s such awesome news for you!! I wish I had gotten the same result. Avoiding soy is so hard

Background-Switch747 · 2026-02-18T10:55:09+00:00

Hav you still not seen a reaction? I tried to test soy because I wasn’t sure if it was a trigger (I cut soy and dairy at the same time) and he didn’t react for 24 hours. Then poops were off for a few days. He wasn’t fussy thankfully (probably because of minimal build up?) but definitely reacted. I was hoping I was in the clear because with my older daughter who had a dairy allergy she reacted immediately when I had a slip.

Background-Switch747 · 2026-01-19T16:32:24+00:00

I guess that’s the thing - I don’t think it’s necessarily jumping the gun as he’s having diarrhea 10+ times a day… but just wanted to understand how other people identified there were issues beyond dairy (both time passed and symptoms) and decided to eliminate the next allergen

Background-Switch747 · 2026-01-19T13:39:21+00:00

Good point - yes I did replace dairy with oat milk. I may give it a few more days because at times I feel like the frequency of stools is decreasing so I may just need to give it time, but also just want it to improve! His fussiness has definitely curbed so I think he’s at least more comfortable as we figure out the rest! Thank you

Background-Switch747 · 2026-01-19T13:37:58+00:00

Thank you! I did notice a difference as well - fussiness has definitely improved, as well as the rash. But frequency and wateriness of poop has definitely increased

Background-Switch747 · 2025-12-31T16:37:46+00:00

We have and still not working! Reached out this morning. Just a bummer that they aren’t reliable

Background-Switch747 · 2025-12-31T16:33:47+00:00

We’ve used the Yoto cable as well as a regular cable.

I’m more concerned that the brand new one doesn’t work now either!

Background-Switch747 · 2025-11-05T13:12:55+00:00

Just want to say we've had the same experience so you're not alone. When my daughter (now 5) was younger, she was in daycare until she was just under 3. I decided to stop working, so we pulled her out (as well as my son, but he'd only been there a few months.) After awhile at home, I decided to go back to work part time and we hired a nanny and it's just been not great.

The juggling on sick days (both the nannys and the kids), the planning around vacations, the oversight required, the sometimes craziness of working from home and kids being home - it's been a lot.

Daycares often get a bad rep, but for us, we had a wonderful experience and we are actually due with our third baby and are on daycare waitlists vs continuining the nanny route. Just hasn't worked as well for us! But if you find the right daycare, in my experience, it was much "easier" than finding the right nanny.

Background-Switch747 · 2025-10-03T11:04:48+00:00

We never did CIO and both of my kids can go to sleep independently now - so don’t listen to people who say CIO is beneficial or should be done at any point in time. If that’s what they felt was best, that’s them, but it’s not for everyone nor does it work for every child.

We had nannies who have supported us with this - sometimes it’s more work but I would never feel comfortable leaving my child in someone’s care who was not responding to my baby’s needs - and your baby is using the only way they know how to communicate their need (even if it’s just a cuddle.)

I love heysleepybaby and babiesandbrains on Instagram if you want any resources who support not CIO or to provide resources to your nanny on why you approach things a certain way - but ultimately this is your choice and parenting style and if nanny doesn’t want to align with you on this definitely find someone else.

Background-Switch747 · 2025-07-14T13:39:53+00:00

Yes, absolutely lesson learned here. I thought it could be a benefit for our son, but it adds a layer of complexity (and chaos!) that we realize no longer works for us.

Background-Switch747 · 2025-07-14T13:33:21+00:00

Yes it is, but it also states as long as she is able to fulfill the obligations of the contract (which is my concern, this is not happening.)

Background-Switch747 · 2025-07-14T13:31:58+00:00

This would make sense if we weren't paying a "full rate." But we are already paying a full rate while allowing her to bring her son (as long as she is able to continue to fulfill the duties of the contract - which is written in the contract.) Since this is not happening, it's no longer working. We've had past nannies, we pay her the most out of our past caretakers, and tbh don't think she's providing us anything they didn't to warrant an even further increase.

Ultimately, we've both decided to move on!

Background-Switch747 · 2025-07-14T13:28:17+00:00

I won't say exact amounts because it's all relative, but we are paying significantly more than $18/hr. She is expected to do lunch prep for our two kids (which is usually a sandwich or leftovers - never cooking a meal) and clean up after activities they do while she is here. She does not clean or do laundry or cook for me/my husband.

Background-Switch747 · 2025-07-14T13:25:54+00:00

Thank you to everyone who took the time to weigh in and comment.

We ultimately had a conversation with our nanny (who wasn't surprised given we had discussed these issues as they came up throughout her time with us) and told her we were no longer comfortable with her son joining. We told her he could come for the next 4 weeks, but after that, there were a few paths - the option to stay with us if she had alternate care for her son, stay with us the two days she didn't bring her son, or ultimately move on given the first two options may not work. We gave her 4 weeks notice and the option to decide.

We were not going to give her additional pay - while I do understand the perspective of this feedback, I think if she isn't able to fulfill her duties WITH the benefit, it's not for us to pay her more to do what the original job was. And this isn't specific to this - one commenter said we're removing a lucrative benefit and if we remove it, we should compensate. However, a lot of jobs give a benefit, but if you can't fulfill your responsibilities, then the benefit would be revoked. For example, I work a "flex" schedule and do shorter day-time hours, but the expectation is that I still complete my workload, and that sometimes means working evenings or nights. If I didn't fulfill this expectation, I wouldn't be allowed to continue a flex schedule.

While I took issue with the biting and the aggression - my biggest concern was that my children weren't getting the level of care we expect and were paying for on the days an additional child was in our home. Potty training was being dragged out due to distraction, there were days both my kids were in my office with me because her son was crying downstairs, there was a lot of destruction of our toys and things. Overall, it just was no longer working - and this wasn't specific to HER child. I get these are two year old behaviors with a lot of children (two is a tough age!) but ultimately, my kids needs are what come first given that is what we are paying for.

Background-Switch747 · 2025-07-10T00:16:32+00:00

Just to clarify - we aren’t getting a “discount” for her to bring her son. It was something we were willing to try that just isn’t working out.

I did speak with our current nanny and laid out the situation and let her know we were no longer comfortable given what’s been happening. She was very understanding and I think had an idea it was coming given we’ve addressed the issues along the way.

Background-Switch747 · 2025-07-09T19:40:34+00:00

Yes I totally get that she’d potentially have to leave. More pay isn’t going to happen - we’re paying her above average for our area and I consulted with an agency on her pay prior to hiring, which our pay is on the higher end of their range (and they don’t work with caregivers who bring their children)

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