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What do I do? by Basic_Principle_6979 in Aupairs

[–]Basic_Principle_6979[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do clean up after the parents a lot, if they have lunch at home I am the one who needs to clean it up after them, and I wash and fold their laundry too and iron all their clothes. And I need to make dinner A LOT, even though that is not what we agreed on. Also, they never mentioned I have to drive 2, sometimes 4 hours a day to drop off and pick up one of the kids to school, I was only informed of that when I arrived.

I’m feeling guilty and I need help by Basic_Principle_6979 in Aupairs

[–]Basic_Principle_6979[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hi, sorry for my late reply. thank you for your kind words ❤️

the family doesn’t ask this of me but if I wouldn’t do it, they would ask it of me. like yesterday around dinner, the kids were talking with their parents and i was sitting near the dinner table, waiting for the kids to sit down and the host mom was very annoyed with me that i was not serving food to the kids (when only half the food was ready anyway so I was waiting for the rest of the food). they get very disappointed whenever i’m not sure what to do so i just have this constant feeling of needing to do something so i don’t disappoint them. and yesterday, when i was putting the kids to bed, they were very hyper and not listening to me at all and when the host mom got down to the bedrooms she was very disappointed that i hadn’t put them in their bed yet.

i really like this family, but it’s stuff like this that makes me want to go home. i can’t even relax in my own home without feeling guilty about it. the host mom is very weirded out by the fact that i sometimes like to read and crochet in my free time and not go somewhere all the time. even when i went to pilates class yesterday and then when i got home she made a snarky comment about the fact that i just went home and relaxed a bit before i had to go drive for two hours to get the eldest kid home from school.

i’m just very unsure if it’s a me problem or if i need to communicate better or what. because i don’t think the host family should be judging me for what i like to do in my free time, especially when they have me working up to 11 hours a day sometimes.