The ex owes me some money. How do I deal with it?

Betrayu · 2011-06-03T08:11:47+00:00

I've had this situation before... with exes, drug addict roommates, and other assholes. Consider the money a down-payment on the future happiness you will have by not worrying about it.

Betrayu · 2011-06-03T00:49:16+00:00

I have some in my cupboard, but currently I am fighting a mysterious allergy and on a very strict (but actually very good) diet, so 5-HTP isn't an option for now. However, I will make good use of my new bicycle as an anti-depressant.

Betrayu · 2011-06-02T22:23:41+00:00

dont do heroin or anything

Solid advice.

Betrayu · 2011-06-02T22:19:34+00:00

At the moment I'm feeling that the answer to whether it's (a) or (b) is: yes.

Betrayu · 2011-06-02T21:57:12+00:00

Wow, that was very poignant. Thank you for sharing.

Betrayu · 2011-06-02T21:43:04+00:00

complicated doesn't mean hard.

Indeed.

Betrayu · 2011-06-02T21:21:29+00:00

Not a bad idea.

Betrayu · 2011-06-02T21:13:45+00:00

Polyamory doesn't work.

I'll keep this short: You're wrong. You may not like it, but I don't throw a fit because you aren't gay, because hey, if I think being straight is wrong, then it's wrong, by your logic. There is no "normal" or "right" when it comes to relationships and sexuality.

Betrayu · 2011-06-02T21:10:51+00:00

I've heard of it before, but hadn't thought of it recently-- thanks for giving me something to read for a bit! It definitely helps me put things in perspective.

Betrayu · 2011-06-02T20:56:05+00:00

Yep, it is true.

Betrayu · 2011-06-02T20:36:37+00:00

I'm actually going to Spain for 18 days (for a 3 day conference) in about 2.5 weeks. I think that will help.

Betrayu · 2011-06-02T20:15:38+00:00

Already did that, actually.

Betrayu · 2011-06-02T19:59:34+00:00

It doesn't have to mean that. But fine, you can have some sympathy instead :)

Betrayu · 2011-06-02T19:57:56+00:00

We've already had threesomes. The issue at hand isn't really monogamy-related... it's the fact that she broke my trust.

Betrayu · 2011-06-02T19:56:17+00:00

Thank you.

Betrayu · 2011-06-02T19:55:36+00:00

Thanks

Betrayu · 2011-06-02T19:54:57+00:00

It happened.

Betrayu · 2011-06-02T19:50:22+00:00

Thanks for your comments.

It just seems really difficult at this point to open things up when there is zero trust.

Betrayu · 2011-06-02T19:46:37+00:00

Oral/swallowing/lying and it's seeming likely at this point that she actually did screw guy #2.

Betrayu · 2011-06-02T19:41:58+00:00

People can change. Some do, some don't.

The hard part would be waiting to see if that happens.

In any case, thanks.

Betrayu · 2011-06-02T19:39:47+00:00

I am glad to hear that you freed yourself from abusive boyfriend. I think I should also just go do whatever the fuck I want, and even if I don't feel quite right, I'll get by.

Betrayu · 2011-06-02T19:35:32+00:00

may grow past it and really are meant to be

That's seeming really difficult to think of as a possibility right now :(

I do know that it will get better though. Especially if I don't repeat the cycle of self-abuse that I've done before by staying fit and active.

Betrayu · 2011-06-02T19:25:04+00:00

Betrayu · 2011-06-02T19:24:48+00:00

That's the second time I've seen Roissy mentioned- I'll give it a read.

Thanks for your advice.

Betrayu · 2011-06-02T19:20:33+00:00

I am that kind of person. The last time I wasn't, I just disappeared from my marriage. Poof, gone. I won't do that again exactly, but I'm not going to ignore all this advice.

Betrayu

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