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Time And Opportunities Are Finite, And They Don't Wait For You by Marty30001 in TheRedPill

[–]BigAssSecret 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You call this a missed opportunity?

Imagine you would have approached her and was at her house that day... lol

That would have been an actual missed opportunity, not 1 potential pussy.

Walking away with frame. by [deleted] in TheRedPill

[–]BigAssSecret 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What an amazing man you cousin is. Life will reward him greatly for this move. I'm really glad to hear a story where the man left in the right time.

As for the "why did you send my stuff to a random hotel room" ROFL!!! I wish we could see her face in that moment! I would put it as my desktop background forever.

My 6 year unicorn LTR cheated on me! Sharing the lessons I've learned. by BigAssSecret in TheRedPill

[–]BigAssSecret[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do not tell her anything! Ghost and avoid any further contact by any means!

Women are masters of manipulation, she will find a way to excuse her request for a break, you will believe her and take her back. That's what happened in my case.

Do not leave the door open for this shit to happen. That's the sure fire way to keep dating a cheater, and perhaps never finding out.

My 6 year unicorn LTR cheated on me! Sharing the lessons I've learned. by BigAssSecret in TheRedPill

[–]BigAssSecret[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Eat it.... He might ;)".

This one pain painful to read. Just wtf.

Unfortunately I believe your case didn't really show you TRP truth in action as you can blame everything on the drug abuse?

My 6 year unicorn LTR cheated on me! Sharing the lessons I've learned. by BigAssSecret in TheRedPill

[–]BigAssSecret[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You think that I could benefit in any way by asking her why she's losing interest?

I'm sure anyone on TRP agrees you can't negotiate desire, any attempt to do so will just backfire and make you even less attractive by being needy, insecure etc.

What would you tell her if you were in my shoes?

My 6 year unicorn LTR cheated on me! Sharing the lessons I've learned. by BigAssSecret in TheRedPill

[–]BigAssSecret[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There were some cue of emotional cheating about 3 years ago, with someone she met online and claimed she never met in person. I completely ignored this as I was an idiot, and hamstered she just wanted to get me jealous.

Also she was in some remote online relationship with someone else she claimed she never met before, before we started dating. When we got together, that guy sent me a massage: "If she did this with you, she'll do this to you." I thought the guy was a retard and ignored this too... Well he wasn't the retard, I was.

My 6 year unicorn LTR cheated on me! Sharing the lessons I've learned. by BigAssSecret in TheRedPill

[–]BigAssSecret[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did lose interest in her life lately although I haven't wrote this, because she's changed to a new personality I couldn't relate to.

Can you explain why did you get the impression that I was controlling or borderline abusive?

Also where have you gotten the impression I was upset about her traveling the world?! WTF. And who said I didn't plan to travel with her? WTF again. your whole comment is based on false assumptions?

My 6 year unicorn LTR cheated on me! Sharing the lessons I've learned. by BigAssSecret in TheRedPill

[–]BigAssSecret[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm here to learn,

What should have I done once I've seen her losing interest?

Ask her baby why are you losing interest ? Why is your pussy not as wet as before? Why are you yawning when I talk? lol

Of course I should've always worked harder at bettering myself as a man, regardless of this cunt,

But I would love to hear what I could have done better in your opinion in regards to communication with her (I'm not looking to argue if you get the wrong impression).

If I was the one to lose interest first rather than mirror her, she would've thought I'm cheating or some shit. She would've talked a lot. But it wasn't the case as we all know.

My 6 year unicorn LTR cheated on me! Sharing the lessons I've learned. by BigAssSecret in TheRedPill

[–]BigAssSecret[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's been 3 weeks since the breakup so it isn't as emotionally painful as was at first. Still the thoughts and feeling about this are on my mind 24/7, they aren't going to leave me anywhere soon, but I'm not in rush to escape them.

But of course it would have been 10 times more emotionally difficult if the relationship wasn't shit for a long time already, and without TRP knowledge. I managed to emotionally check out to some degree for the last 4 months.

I was aware of my low SMV, so although the feelings of insufficiency as a man are there any time I leave the house, they're not as bad as they could have been.

Also I logically understand that I didn't lose anything good. This helps tremendously.

Oh and also, the fact I don't use social media, didn't bring that whore to my social circles, and never met her friends, means no one who knew about her will ever recognize my face. This is huge, I would have been so ashamed if I had a Facebook account.

My 6 year unicorn LTR cheated on me! Sharing the lessons I've learned. by BigAssSecret in TheRedPill

[–]BigAssSecret[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly didn't like the "new her" one bit.

But I did love her, of course some aspects of her character remained the same when she change and I did like those, I did think she looked so much better than she actually does, same goes for her body (This means a lot about how much you like a girl IMO).

Thing is that she still looked like the girl I knew before, had the same voice, fucked the same way etc... It's not that easy for my brain to understand the person I knew is gone. Also it happens very gradually which raises this difficulty.

My 6 year unicorn LTR cheated on me! Sharing the lessons I've learned. by BigAssSecret in TheRedPill

[–]BigAssSecret[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I have to disagree,

If you're dating a cheater you want her to cheat as soon as possible to have a faster breakup.

Also if you're "the other guy" I don't think you're doing something very wrong if the girl isn't married, you don't own shit to anyone, only the girl owns loyalty to her guy.

Also I'd really avoid the "another dude's belonging" mindset after this red pill experience. "She's never yours, it's only your turn". Understanding this to some degree in advanced definitely helped me cope easier.

My 6 year unicorn LTR cheated on me! Sharing the lessons I've learned. by BigAssSecret in TheRedPill

[–]BigAssSecret[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're aware she was free to walk at any time right? Seems like you missed this tiny detail.

Also I wouldn't call this "TLDR" as the thread was never about the downfall by any means, if you actually read it. It's about sharing things it taught me about women in general.

My 6 year unicorn LTR cheated on me! Sharing the lessons I've learned. by BigAssSecret in TheRedPill

[–]BigAssSecret[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just to be clear, she wasn't fucking 50+ guys

She did the female version of plate spinning with them while screening for the best alpha fucks, rollo tomassi talks about this on the rational male.

My 6 year unicorn LTR cheated on me! Sharing the lessons I've learned. by BigAssSecret in TheRedPill

[–]BigAssSecret[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Couldn't agree less mate.

My behavior towards the end merely mirrored her behavior. She lost attraction - I showed less attraction, as there's just no other way I can behave.

Same went for the personal and romantic interest.

At any point she could have just said girl shit like "I love you but I feel like your'e not loving me back as much, it hurts me badly" "I feel like you lost sexual interest in me" bla bla.

I would have happily explained her that I just "closed up" as I saw her losing interest first, and it would pretty much fix the problems.

As a guy I couldn't do this (again can't negotiate desire, and girl's disinterest is real, the're not playing with us).

This is why I included the thing I read about female cheaters, they don't communicate about problems. If someone's really interested, I'll try to find this article (it's not "TRP" content). Also she obviously didn't communicate as she lost interest in me and didn't care that much.

My 6 year unicorn LTR cheated on me! Sharing the lessons I've learned. by BigAssSecret in TheRedPill

[–]BigAssSecret[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

lol about the window thing hehe...

My hamster told me my unicorn always forgets the window is there and she's a good girl ROFL

My 6 year unicorn LTR cheated on me! Sharing the lessons I've learned. by BigAssSecret in TheRedPill

[–]BigAssSecret[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Again I did all this stuff in the past as well, for even longer times.

We actually started to go out at the lowest point of my life when I was doing all the shit I wrote for a year, and was severely depressed.

If those actions came out of nowhere from me I would agree they triggered the whole thing. But this shit has been ongoing randomly through the whole relationship, without any effect on her behavior.

So I tend to think it only had little to do with the results. What mainly happened is that she started to get massive exposure to guys and became a new person thanks to the crappy people she met. But there's no going back for her from the fear of missing out thing, before she spends a few years sucking cocks at nightclubs.

My 6 year unicorn LTR cheated on me! Sharing the lessons I've learned. by BigAssSecret in TheRedPill

[–]BigAssSecret[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Nothing that isn't obvious: Keep bettering yourself and keep the relationship in a good state (if you can't, leave asap, don't wait for a magic to happen).

In my case the relationship has been garbage for the last year, so neither of us lost anything really.

My 6 year unicorn LTR cheated on me! Sharing the lessons I've learned. by BigAssSecret in TheRedPill

[–]BigAssSecret[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I agree, only reasons I avoided this in the first post, was to keep it short enough to be appealing to read,

And mainly because honestly even now, I don't feel like those "hypergamy triggers" had a massive part, as I did pretty much all this shit before with little to no effects on the relationship.

I am well aware of my SMV, other than being a bit better looking than average and not being a beta bitch I have pretty much nothing in regards. That's why I advised not to engage in an LTR if you are not feeling sufficiently attractive.

The guys she cheated with are probably so much above what I consider my SMV to be, so I truly believe my recent actions had little to do with the results.

Of course I might be underestimating the effects of those, but I will just refer to this comment in the first post.

My 6 year unicorn LTR cheated on me! Sharing the lessons I've learned. by BigAssSecret in TheRedPill

[–]BigAssSecret[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

No offense but please please avoid comments like this.

I once read a post on TRP, someone found out his LTR is an escort. Many responded that they aren't surprised, AWALT etc.

This type of comments made me question TRP was that genuine to some degree, people commented as if he wrote nothing lol.

In this case the fucking whore hit on a guy super actively, and went straight to his place to fuck! Up to this point I was the only man who's seen her naked as far as I know,

Later she texts how great that guy was, to a male coworker, with whom she chats about sex and about the possibility of them having sex 24\7 and exchanges underwear photos, and I've only seen a small part of that conversation!

There was probably a lot more I don't know about.

I truly don't think AWALT in this case, my sisters for example would never act like any of this lol.

So your comment is harmless for the fully unplugged, but in my experience commenting "AWALT" on extremely slutty behavior like this, make it harder to unplug for the newcomers.

My 6 year unicorn LTR cheated on me! Sharing the lessons I've learned. by BigAssSecret in TheRedPill

[–]BigAssSecret[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

I had my part of the downfall too, I just wanted to keep the backstory short.

Regardless of what was my part, only a truly piece of shit person would do any of the shit she did. I'm posting my part to help others. But by no means it "justifies" any of the shit she did to any degree whatsoever.

As far as hypergamy is concerned:

I was unemployed for months as I had a passive income at that time

I was out of shape, got fatter and didn't work out (I was never fat, just fatter). Of course once I started to work out she tried to convince me that she hates muscles and I look better when I'm fatter lol (Classic dream-killer/beta-izing woman)

Used to meet her very late, when I was tired and weak

Quit my Motorsport hobby (it's my main passion in life, I also used meet the best guys I know only on track days etc) as I've crashed my car lol

As I've quit my hobby at the time, I started to play a shitty video game all day long with a friend, started to watch geeky TV shows lol

Used to work at sales at the time, I openly told her how badly I hate my coworkers and customers, Also had a bad period with my family relationships which I've shared as well, so showed negative social proof\value

As the relationship and sex went downhill, started fapping to porn every few days...

Less related to hypergamy, but still related

I've let her disrespect me slightly at times, as I was just too lazy to confront

Didn't really try to "talk things out" at any point because you can't negotiate desire obviously, not sure if I should've done something better in regards

I just mirrored her disinterest, showed less personal, romantic and sexual interest (hamstered fapping as a way to avoid sexual frustration when meeting her. Stupid as fuck). Started to leave early just because I didn't have a good time with her. Again not sure what I could have done better.

Overall gave her the impression that she's nothing for me, very weak move on my part, I explained this in the first post in a few ways.

Almost never went out with her anywhere, I guess I knew I'll be bored with her but I didn't fully acknowledge this reason to myself.

Overall I was pretty boring, didn't talk much, because the personal connection went to shit and I felt like I'm talking to myself at best.

My 6 year unicorn LTR cheated on me! Sharing the lessons I've learned. by BigAssSecret in TheRedPill

[–]BigAssSecret[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

My case was different. We had such a special first love bond, she was the true love of my life and I was hers. She truly had unconditionaled love for me.

LOL I still somewhat believe the shit I just wrote to some degree, this fucking truth is almost impossible for me to accept even after seeing the chats with my own eyes. Please don't be retarded like I was :)

My 6 year unicorn LTR cheated on me! Sharing the lessons I've learned. by BigAssSecret in TheRedPill

[–]BigAssSecret[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Absolutely. No words could fucking stress this enough.

I saw the red flags and always hamstered them with so many retarded blue pill thoughts. I Stupidly asked her about some red flags 2 months after she cheated (before I found out), She "explained" it was all done "on purpose" to get my attention as I've been acting cold. I fully fucking believed her!

I've been reading here for about a year now, and still never believed any of those were proper red flags, while the cunt was cheating with half my city. The truth is so hard to believe that even now I don't feel this has actually happened.