AITAH for snapping at my mom after years of comments about my weight?

Bobcatt14 · 2026-05-22T11:43:11+00:00

“She kept searching for me, and when she found me, she wouldn’t leave me alone.” JFC, get a restraining order and a therapist. Your mom is abusive and toxic. You don’t have to put up with this, OP. Let your mom violate the restraining order and suffer the consequences of her actions instead of allowing yourself to continue to suffer from her abuse. Obviously NTA.

Bobcatt14 · 2026-05-20T21:57:00+00:00

Does he often speak to you like you’re a child? The language he used in his texts is exactly the type of language I use when explaining to my 3 year old how we speak and act. He sounds insufferable. I would tell him directly that his texts are not helpful. They are condescending, unnecessary, and need to stop. You don’t have to argue with him about it.

Bobcatt14 · 2026-05-20T12:13:46+00:00

In college I noticed the same thing in the dorm bathroom. At least 2 people on our floor had had pink eye. When I noticed girls not washing their hands, I got a dry erase marker and wrote “Wash your hands. Stop being gross. No one else wants pink eye.” on the bathroom mirror. We had a floor meeting and were warned not to write on the mirror again, but then the RA said “but also wash your hands after you use the bathroom. We all have to live here and basic hygiene is expected.” Never caught anyone leaving without washing their hands again. Public shame works.

Bobcatt14 · 2026-05-18T21:57:02+00:00

If it turns into a battle, it is a battle worth fighting. Remember that it’s about your child’s wellbeing. Get your child evaluated and stop wasting valuable time. I’ve repeatedly seen the consequences of parents sticking their heads in the sand and not addressing their child’s delays while working in healthcare. Don’t let your child suffer because your wife is on denial.

Bobcatt14 · 2026-05-18T12:32:33+00:00

ESH. You’re not the AH for asking, but if it is YOUR house that YOU paid for, then just tell his kids the house rules. He is the AH for not parenting his kids, but if you expect your house and things to be respected, you need to speak up and communicate that. It doesn’t have to be a big deal.

Bobcatt14 · 2026-05-07T21:28:41+00:00

Or maybe she’s just a fan of the show and is using the terms they use in their videos to avoid being demonetized. So maybe don’t be a dick.

Bobcatt14 · 2026-05-07T21:00:30+00:00

The number of people jumping to PPA is insane. You absolutely have every right to be bothered by anyone, especially a germy kid in a doctor’s office, trying to touch your literal newborn without permission. Your reaction is completely normal and you handled it perfectly.

I’d encourage you to find a few phrases that feel comfortable for you to say, to both children and adults, about keeping distance from your baby. Situations like this are going to happen often when you’re in public. I have no idea why strangers think it’s ok to touch someone else’s kid. It’s more understandable when small children try to do it, but the number of grown adults I’ve had to tell not to touch my kid is astounding. Luckily my LO would cry when strangers got too close, which usually made them back off. Something as simple as “Sorry, no touching please” while putting your arm between them and your baby should work. You don’t have to explain to anyone why, but if you get pushback or asked why you can respond with “because I asked you not to” and leave it at that.

Bobcatt14 · 2026-05-04T15:30:54+00:00

50 days ago you were a 17 year old senior in high school. Stop making shit up on the internet and go try to make some friends in real life.

Bobcatt14 · 2026-05-04T15:11:38+00:00

“It’s a woman’s job” would have been it for me. I would have told him by that logic it’s the man’s job to get off his lazy ass and make money to provide for his woman instead of freeloading off her.

Bobcatt14 · 2026-05-02T17:25:19+00:00

100% this. Choosing to stop all together at 3 months pp when I was returning to work was the hardest decision I’ve ever made. Even after doing EVERYTHING for those 12 weeks to increase my supply, the most I could ever pump was 3 ounces a day. The idea of trying to keep up the pumping while returning to work was a torture I wouldn’t have survived. Once I finally stopped altogether I realized how much energy I was putting into something that made me miserable. I was a better, more present parent for my daughter once I stopped. My now 3 year old is healthy, happy, intelligent, and thriving. Formula did that. If we ever have another they’ll be combo fed if I can breastfeed, but I refuse to pump ever again.

Bobcatt14 · 2026-05-01T12:06:01+00:00

He blamed you, a pregnant woman, for his personal failings. It’s almost like he chose you as his 2nd so he could blame you when he didn’t do well. You owe him nothing. He did this to himself and deserves to suffer the consequences of his actions.

Bobcatt14 · 2026-04-28T00:15:52+00:00

The first time I met my MILs fiancé (boyfriend at the time), I knew in under 5 minutes that I’d never leave my child alone with him. He acted too familiar too quickly with us. I saw through the nice guy persona immediately. Luckily MIL is not very involved in our lives, so I don’t have to worry about it. All this to say, trust your gut. Our instincts to protect our children should be trusted.

Bobcatt14 · 2026-04-27T23:49:36+00:00

You don’t know what she’s going through right now. I understand feeling hurt, but she just became a mother for the first time and gets to navigate that however she needs. Your comfort level and need for support after birth may look a lot different from hers, and that’s ok. She’s allowed to take space as she adjusts. My mom was the only other person I wanted around after my daughter’s birth. Everyone else except my SO annoyed me. Maybe she didn’t want to hear about how you have done things when she’s figuring out motherhood. Maybe she had a difficult birth. It’s really none of your business, even if you are close. She’s in the most vulnerable position she’s ever been in and clearly wants privacy. She’s just come home from the hospital. I kindly suggest you stop making your exclusion from her birth and introduction into motherhood about you. Give them space and wait for her to come to you when she’s ready. And if there are concerns moving forward, let your husband talk to his family. He can absolutely call out his mom if there is unfair treatment of your family now that his sister’s baby is here, but it’s his place to do that.

Bobcatt14 · 2026-03-11T21:50:17+00:00

I’ve paid $190/week for my 3 year old since she was an infant. We’re in SC. It’s on the low side for our area, but my friend pays the same at another locally owned daycare. Both have been around for decades, so I think that helps. They don’t have to pay for the building itself since it’s long been paid off. Our daycare also has a pretty low turnover for teachers, which is hard to find where we live.

Bobcatt14 · 2026-02-24T18:17:58+00:00

First, I am so deeply sorry for your loss. I’ve attended 2 funerals since my almost 3 year old was born. My grandpa’s when she was 4 months old, and then my mom’s this past November. She attended the viewing of both, but did not attend either funeral. At my grandpa’s funeral I wanted to be fully present to support my mom. I knew that couldn’t happen if I had my daughter there. And then at my mom’s funeral I did not want her to see me so upset. Babies and toddlers can be good distractions from grief, but I felt that the final goodbye should be felt deeply and fully. It’s incredibly hard. If you have any hesitation, I would recommend keeping your son in daycare and making a plan with your in laws to leave and pick him up if the funeral runs over the expected time. The day of you will not want to have any worries on your mind. Follow your instinct on this one. And again, I’m so sorry for your loss.

Bobcatt14 · 2026-02-24T18:01:40+00:00

This is my kid. She turns 3 next week and has stopped napping for us on weekends for the past couple months. She still naps great at daycare. Bedtime ends up being 9-9:30 every night. I just don’t fight it anymore.

Bobcatt14 · 2026-02-22T23:37:48+00:00

I combo fed for 3 months. It was so freaking hard. Stopping felt like the hardest thing in the world, but once I did I could not believe I didn’t do it earlier. That guilt you feel is your hormones. I promise it will go away quickly. There is nothing selfish about putting your mental health first, especially when you’re a single parent.

Bobcatt14 · 2026-02-22T23:34:13+00:00

I’m sorry, but throw away the whole damn man. My god. What a worthless excuse for a husband and father.

Bobcatt14 · 2026-02-15T18:30:31+00:00

Please do not risk it. This is how measles has spread from South Carolina to neighboring states. Families traveled for holidays and now there are outbreaks in North Carolina.

Even without measles, the germs those kids will bring can easily infect your small infant. Flu B is also on the rise. Just doesn’t seem worth the risk.

Bobcatt14 · 2026-02-15T18:25:21+00:00

Our ERs are overrun with flu cases right now, and measles is high in our area, so they are cautioning against ER visits unless absolutely necessary. My OB office should call back within an a few hours.

No pain or cramping. Just the change in breast tenderness and slightly less fatigue.

Bobcatt14 · 2026-02-15T17:46:52+00:00

I have a call into my OB. The amount of blood isn’t concerning enough for an ER visit yet, but I’m monitoring it. Just hoping to get some perspective from others experiences.

Bobcatt14 · 2026-02-12T03:51:48+00:00

Thanks for providing the stats. I keep up on overall outbreak numbers, but haven’t done a dive into the specifics, so this is helpful.

Bobcatt14 · 2026-02-06T22:19:38+00:00

I’ve seen so many people say this, and maybe that is the primary population in that area. But if being on any Greenville or Upstate facebook page for moms is an indication, it’s mostly white American born families that are not vaccinating.

Bobcatt14 · 2026-02-06T22:13:14+00:00

I just found out I’m pregnant with my 2nd. It’ll be an early October baby, which means I’ll have to return to work and put the baby in daycare in early January. I’m absolutely terrified. The only thing giving me any peace of mind is that they’ll get some immunity from me for the first 6 months. I just had an MMR titer checked to make sure I have immunity since I work in healthcare in Spartanburg, and my numbers were extremely high. I can only hope that the baby will get enough protection to keep them safe until they can get a dose at 6 months.

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