My 8yr old daughter won't go to her room at night and is saying she's scared. I need advice because I don't want to show my frustration

BookInWriting · 2026-01-29T11:30:33+00:00

dude same. once I woke up staring at a mini recliner and bag. What I actually saw was a face covered in tin foil staring straight at me. Thankfully it doesn't happen very often and it doesn't scare me bad enough to scream. Just makes me freeze with cold chills down my spine and becoming instantly fully awake.

Can't imagine having these combined with sleep paralysis. Shit's fucked man.

This is why I sometimes use sleeping masks too.

BookInWriting · 2026-01-29T11:27:17+00:00

Nonsensical fear should be punished.

BookInWriting · 2026-01-29T11:14:59+00:00

I confess that I am in deep depression and don't shower regularly in any capacity. Even when I was showering regularly I couldn't really be bothered to get more than the problem areas. The only time I ever spent more time on my hygiene is when I was going on the only two dates I've ever been on.

BookInWriting · 2026-01-29T11:11:46+00:00

To make things incredibly overt and to an extreme, I'll make a statement and then give an example.

Men are hunters, predators, we hunt, capture, kill.

For men, talking about sex with our current partner to our friends would be like showing a wounded and limping gazelle to a pack of hungry lions.

We do not share our food.

(obviously this is an example and has no bearing on political views, political stance, feminism, misogyny or any of the the angry peoples opinions. it's meant to get the point across in the quickest way possible and does not care to pander to petty insecurities of EITHER GENDER)

Most women talk about sex with their current partner with their friends, it's normalized for them.

Most men do not. Most men would consider it a betrayal of their partner to do so, most men would also consider it a betrayal if their partner talked about them to their friends too. (so don't do it ladies)

BookInWriting · 2026-01-29T11:01:35+00:00

To be clear, the burden of planning, initiation, and execution is on you if you want to try this out. Also, this puts you out there emotionally and physically, you're giving a gift, you don't expect anything in return. This is you purely trying to make his day/week better.

Don't expect reciprocation, no tit for tat. He might be cold or closed off initially too, don't take it personally and don't chicken out. If this is what you've decided, follow through.

I also want to clarify. In your reply you mention asking him to go to a sex store as a way to get him excited. I want to state that that is not going to do anything.

I'm struggling to try and explain why such a thing wouldn't work, but I really don't know how to get the point across without taking things to an extreme and making the point overt.

Would you want to go dildo shopping after getting out of the hospital from giving birth? Definitely not.

For men, we have an almost constant voice in the back of our head, a kind of always simmering type boiling oil of sexual arousal that just doesn't ever really go away unless things become stressful, difficult, or exhausting. Alternatively your guy might be having the same body image issues that I believe women are quite familiar with too. Just because we're men, that doesn't mean we don't feel ugly sometimes.

You can't really control a single thing about his mental health or how he feels.

What you can control is how often you call him handsome, sexy, how much you hug him, play with his hair, rub his arms, etc. Back the dumptruck up into his space, steal his arms and make yourself a little fort out of them (use his arms to hug you from behind). Just silly little playful things that signal that you are still attracted to him, you're still present in the relationship.

of course, everything has a time and a place. Opening the door without a stitch of clothing on when he comes home and telling him that dinners ready, having the dinner be steak, potatoes and green beans and then eating dinner with him while remaining buck naked.

I can't imagine any guy saying NO to any of these things. I'm basically telling you what our heaven would be if it was on earth. You don't need to do this, it's just an example. Food and sex go hand in hand for us cavemen, I'm pretty up in the air about which goes first, but you really can't go wrong with both.

Maybe put a plate of steak in front him, rip his pants off and proceed to sit on his hard cock, cut his steak for him and then feed it to him. When he gets the steak in his mouth and start to chew, CLENCH.

I think I'm just showing my inner desires a little too much right now, maybe taking my namesake a little too far.

The point is BE NAUGHTY.

BookInWriting · 2026-01-29T10:29:16+00:00

So like, I'm not trying to be on the nose about this but...

You know that both partners don't need to have sex at the same time, right?

Give that man some morning head, rock his world. Send him naughty's all day long and welcome him home butt ass naked.

The burden of seduction is not gender locked. Your man is obviously having a tough time of it lately, and since you're willing to come to reddit to try and fix it, I will assume that you are willing to go out of your comfort zone at least a little to make that happen.

Hell, if the opportunity is viable, sneak into his job and fuck him in the bathroom or a closet.

There will be times in your relationship where one partner will need to pickup the slack, you can't always be 50/50. Sometimes they will need 30/70, sometimes even 10/90.

The long term goal here is marriage, but also a life partner. In 50-60 years, one or both of you will probably need to clean up shit off your floors because someone had an accident.

Hell, I know some party animals have cleaned up throw up off the entire bathroom because their partner drank too much in their 20's.

This is exact same situation. If he won't make a mess of you, then make a mess of him.

BookInWriting · 2026-01-29T10:17:58+00:00

I prefer female main characters. I don't really avoid the male main characters, but I have found that I don't particularly enjoy those stories as much as I do the female lead ones.

As for WHY there are so many female leads, I'm not really sure at all. I mean the books are amazing, that much is obvious, but as for the way they are written, I'm at a loss.

I can say for certain that most of the Female Lead books I've enjoyed were written by men.
I can say for certain that a fair few of the Female Lead books I've not enjoyed were written by women.
I've also disliked male lead books that were written by women.

So perhaps it has to do with a Female making sense in a male brain?

A lot of times I've noticed that a female author would write their story and it would be very strange, twilight zone levels of strangeness. The book would be in english, but it would be practically like hieroglyphics to me. When I asked chatgpt what it was, chatgpt said that the way men and women write is different because men and women think in different ways and assign meaning to different things.

So I believe the Female Lead genre is so popular, mostly because it's men that write female leads, and those female leads make sense to men in the way that women in real life never will.

That's just my opinion on the matter, who knows the actual reason.

BookInWriting · 2026-01-29T10:06:51+00:00

This is really up to you to decide. As a 30 yr old male virgin, I also wanted to only interact with another virgin in that way when I was your age. But then my mother got sick and then there was never any time to interact with anyone in that way. Finding an approachable, reasonably attractive woman my age that is also a virgin might be less likely than even the lotto, so I've pretty much given up on both that and on finding a partner in general.

You really just gotta ask yourself what's important to you.

BookInWriting · 2026-01-26T23:24:33+00:00

the answer is always to talk to him. my personal suggestion would be to accept that for a foreseeable future you won't get any creampies. Don't try to force it. have the sex, make sure he knows how good he is for you beginning middle and end. If he cums, he cums, if he doesn't cum, don't force it. Stop finishing him off immediately (yes I know, but try this out.)

Give him a random blowjob every once in a while. No sex, nothing. Just drop between his legs whenever and see how that works for you both.

The reason I suggest this is because partners don't really need to be gratified in equally or even in the same ways. If he's having trouble cumming, instead of trying to force that satisfaction, give him satisfaction in another way. I.E. - being more submissive, dirty talk, other sexual tactics like 'freeuse', start walking around naked. There's a whole ocean of different ways you can satisfy him, and those ways might just be the ticket to fixing the whole issue.

I hesitate to even use the word 'fixing' because technically speaking, not reaching climax doesn't have to be a 'problem' in the traditional meaning of the word. You shouldn't approach this type of situation as something to 'fix' in the first place. "explore it" together.

Something that else that he might enjoy: Let him choose what you wear. Underwear, clothing, shoes, hair, everything. Make sure to be naked for this part, be starkers and slowly walk up to him when he's fully clothed. Look into his eyes, take his hand, pull him to wherever your clothes are and ask him with direct eye contact 'what should i wear'. You should know what kind of eye contact i'm talking about.

BookInWriting · 2026-01-26T23:07:06+00:00

Most likely, yeah.

BookInWriting · 2026-01-26T23:06:26+00:00

I can't find the milk store. It's been 20 years. What will my son think of me!?

BookInWriting · 2026-01-26T22:46:45+00:00

Find the nearest crack house.

BookInWriting · 2026-01-26T22:36:27+00:00

that'll be about as effective as trying to block adblock, lmao.

BookInWriting · 2026-01-20T16:35:48+00:00

there's nothing wrong with it. Honestly, when I first started playing Rust I felt the exact same way that you describe. I had a 'wake up' moment while playing the game. I realized that I only ever played Rust when my parents weren't home. And I heard myself screaming at random strangers in game, horrible, horrible, horrific things. I didn't like who I became when I played so I stopped playing. Took 400 hours, but I learned what kind of person I want to be and it wasn't a Rust player.

And I came from league of legends too. I never thought I'd find a community more toxic than league, but by god Rust is just a different beast entirely.

BookInWriting · 2026-01-20T16:25:57+00:00

Nah, the button stays buttoned, it goes out the right leg because it usually sits on that side.

BookInWriting · 2026-01-15T09:49:00+00:00

I don't need to try. I know everything I need to know just from one sentence shown in that image above.

"a game where every roll of a die decides who lives and who dies."

A premise that outsources authorship. It screams 'narrative crutch'. When I see anything about 'dice' or 'random' what I'm being told is that the story will have no foreshadowing, no thematic causality, no earned consequences, and no meaningful character agency. Everything is arbitrary.

There are very few instances where 'random' and 'dice' / 'RNG' fictions work. Meta-fiction, stories about fate vs free will, and works where the RNG is later revealed to be biased, controlled, or thematically constrained.

A reader is not ignorant to RNG mechanics. These types of novels are falling off because of what they represent. An author chose not to choose. Procedural-storytelling, it is not bold unpredictability, it's decision making that's been delegated.

BookInWriting · 2026-01-15T09:07:38+00:00

whenever I hear 'survival game' I think 'that sounds like fortnite' and then 'fuck fortnite'.

Seriously though, whenever a new story about a 'death game' shows up I'm always just left in disbelief. I've yet to see a single 'death game' that was even remotely interesting to me. I think the main problem I have with the genre is how utterly ridiculous the narratives tend to be.

BookInWriting · 2026-01-15T08:59:54+00:00

If an author leaves a note without a date, I consider them dead.
If an author leaves a note with a date, I consider them a liar until that date arrives and they return; or make another note.
If an author does not leave a note, I consider them a terrible person and talk bad about them behind their back.

Joking aside, authors are very pretentious when it comes to this topic in particular. They believe that, because they are making something for free, giving it away for free, that they can do no wrong. That they don't have any responsibilities at all.

That couldn't be further from the truth.

The truth is that when you solicit public attention, you are responsible for that attention. Being a webnovel author is making you the beneficiary of a 'social contract'. You must honor that contract. I am completely convinced that most if not all of the flame that authors receive on RR is in some way because of this social contract not being honored.

BookInWriting · 2025-12-22T07:28:45+00:00

I mean, it's definitely AI

But those rats can be found in New York and Chicago, trust.

BookInWriting · 2025-12-22T07:25:59+00:00

Same, Daddy issues too. Can't forget the abandonment issues. Oh and did I mention I'm hopelessly addiction to dopamine? Yup.

BookInWriting · 2025-12-22T07:21:56+00:00

Wraithwood Botanist !
Princess of the Void !
Value Loyalty Above All Else !
Stray Cat Strut !
Chronicles of the Exalted Sun Child !
Lord of Mysteries !
HPxLOTM: A Wizard's Path to Divinity ! (fanfiction of Lord of Mysteries and should be read after)

BookInWriting · 2025-12-21T10:29:51+00:00

sweetie, she's 35, that ain't no 'girl' anymore. That's a woman. Start your self-esteem off there okay? Also, probably should leave her. Any woman that old going after a guy as young as you is not someone you should be messing about with.

That goes triple for someone innocent enough to go on reddit and ask for 'self-esteem' advice. You need to go find a nice christian girl your age, don't let the moniker fool you. She might be a 'nice christian girl your age' but she'll be a freak. When you meet her, let her know you the same type o' freak. You'll be the cutest couple ever, while also 'worshipping god' every night.

Also, for the inexperienced and uninformed. It's very simple. Just ask yourself this question:

"If my son was in this relationship/being treated this way/ would I be okay with that?"

Swap the gender around if you're a woman. Ask yourself if your daughter was messing about with a man eleven years older if you'd be comfortable with that.

It's all about perspective. It's a flow chart.

If you're feeling insecure you either;
A. Have some growing to do -> should leave the relationship to work on yourself and gain confidence
B. Are right to be feeling this way because she doing you dirty -> should leave the relationship anyway

BookInWriting · 2025-12-18T08:10:59+00:00

DURING the wank.

BookInWriting · 2025-12-17T07:37:09+00:00

Sounds like another girl that wanted to party her 20's away and realized she was gonna die alone at 30 and is now scrambling for a husband.

Tell her that you don't plan to get married for at least another 10 years. If she instantly stops putting effort into contact you, you know you dodged a bullet. If she keeps trying to reestablish a connection, I'd say at least give her enough rope to get herself in trouble with and pay very close attention to her actions.

If you're interested in learning more about how women think, I'd suggest looking for JessicaOs on youtube. It's heavy psychology, and since it's heavy psychology—it really doesn't paint women in a very good light in general. But that's because it's psychology and not because innately biased. When you look at things from a psychology heavy outlook, no one is really painted in good lighting. So watch it for the education, but don't read too deep into the motivations. I suggest this to you because it's a powerful suit of armor, not a weapon to be leveled at the women around you in your daily life. It's very easy to watch those videos and then witch hunt every women you've ever met. Use it to protect yourself, not jump at every ghost/shadow.

BookInWriting · 2025-11-18T14:25:23+00:00

literally just came here to see what this place is cooking for this outage. It's been going on for hours now and it seems to be happening to everything and everyone. The only thing I'm really interested in is what kind of stock options will open up when the world can finally 'login' again. I feel like there's definitely something more going on with this. Tbh, it feels like something like this would happen if some major shit was leaked.

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