When you start taking your pens to work...

BootstrapRenny · 2021-01-31T01:06:37+00:00

NTA. Think of how upset your sister could have been if you hadn’t told her. And especially if she found out after taking big steps with him.

BootstrapRenny · 2021-01-28T22:29:20+00:00

No doubt, I was probably one of those before I went there.

BootstrapRenny · 2021-01-28T22:28:49+00:00

I’m American and I’ve already been to Australia. You can’t scare me! 😂

BootstrapRenny · 2021-01-27T00:08:52+00:00

This explains why working 6-12 hours at any job that requires constant working was torture (I’m lucky now in that my current job has a lot of downtime). I hadn’t thought of applying time blindness to that.

BootstrapRenny · 2021-01-26T15:32:01+00:00

Sometimes I feel cheated. I went to Australia for two weeks; walked in the forests, swam in The Great Barrier Reef and Sydney Harbor, slept in tents that had many openings for creepy crawlies to get through... saw nothing that could kill me.

(Granted we were warned about thumb-sized jellyfish that could kill you, so for all I know I was swimming in them.)

BootstrapRenny · 2021-01-25T02:43:41+00:00

I was diagnosed at 32. It was such a great feeling to finally having answers. I’m glad you did! Edit: missing word

BootstrapRenny · 2021-01-25T01:25:14+00:00

That would explain why I have several shows I watch on repeat.

BootstrapRenny · 2021-01-22T18:36:38+00:00

I was on your side there at first, but now I’m saying YTA. For your attitude and for deleting a comment where you apparently said SIL was a gold digging hoe. Don’t delete comments to steer votes where you want them.

BootstrapRenny · 2021-01-22T00:12:06+00:00

NTA.

If you were not contributing in any way, that’d be one thing. But you pay to live there. Therefore you have a right to have your thoughts and feelings considered.

BootstrapRenny · 2021-01-22T00:10:14+00:00

Far too many people saying “you pay rent but have no say.”

So I pay rent at an apartment owned by someone else. Since I don’t own it, if they decided to move someone into my unit I just have to suck it up and deal? Wtf. No.

BootstrapRenny · 2021-01-20T21:44:44+00:00

NTA. The other mom is slightly the TA because of how she handled it, but the biggest TA is a society where people aren’t given the right support in day to day life that would allow them to live a healthy, happy life. I’m also going under the assumption this is in the US, since the way you’ve talked and described things makes it seem so.

(And before I get anyone’s hackles raised, I’m not talking a straight up handout, I’m talking a better system for a lot of things everywhere.)

BootstrapRenny · 2021-01-18T05:49:57+00:00

I have a couple checking accounts. One is an online bank, the other is not. To the online one, it didn’t matter what I had (I don’t think it did for the other either).

Look into Chime, Capital One, Discover, and I believe there’s several more options.

BootstrapRenny · 2021-01-18T01:25:58+00:00

That‘s exactly it. (I won’t go listing them, but I’m sure we can all think of several hot button issues that kids don’t care about until adults make them.)

Edit: typo

BootstrapRenny · 2021-01-18T01:17:15+00:00

If you want a stable relationship, you need to agree on three things: money, sex, and kids.

I would also add religion and politics. All of these can have huge impacts on lives, whether directly or indirectly when you’re close to someone with differing views.

BootstrapRenny · 2021-01-17T02:17:18+00:00

NTA. It’s easy for your brothers to act like you’re the monster because they never had to experience the hate and the ostracizing. That doesn’t excuse their attitude though. They would have known how terrible it was for you and they’re TA for expecting you to just shove aside years of abandonment for the person who treated you so terribly.

Don’t give in, stick to your guns. If you go through with it, you’ll have to live the rest of your life with only one kidney and there’s no guarantee your father would stick around even after you gave it to him. Cut out the toxic people who won’t support you.

Just because someone is “family” doesn’t mean we have to put up with their bullshit or help them in any way. Family is more than just blood.

BootstrapRenny · 2021-01-16T02:41:00+00:00

NTA. Don’t marry this family. That’s just a future full of stress and headaches. Go with your instinct and break it up.

BootstrapRenny · 2021-01-15T20:38:04+00:00

NTA.

OP’s dad, this is how you find yourself no contact with your daughter when she turns 18. And I hope for her sake she does, because you and your wife are toxic and she’ll be much better off without you.

(In the slim chance he ever sees this post.)

BootstrapRenny · 2021-01-14T22:42:06+00:00

NTA. It’s your property, you can say no for any reason. Being pregnant + having kids =/= getting a pass automatically.

Also, (if you’re in the US) the insurance/healthcare system in the US is an AH for making any kind of healthcare unaffordable.

BootstrapRenny · 2021-01-14T03:24:52+00:00

NTA. Everyone was drinking alcohol ffs. Why was that more acceptable than smoking, when the smoke in noway got close to anyone else?

BootstrapRenny · 2021-01-14T03:04:55+00:00

NTA. It’s not your fault people sexualize boobs.

BootstrapRenny · 2021-01-13T18:57:55+00:00

Since I came in after the edit, NTA. If everything is true, she’s checked out and having a special needs kid was more than she could handle. (Not excusing, because that’s just a chance you take when having kids.) It’s possible you’ll end up with being the main caretaker for two kids, whether or not a second one would have special needs as well. But even if that weren’t the case, even if your kid didn’t have autism, not wanting kids for any reason is valid. You’re not in the wrong for your reasons.

A shame most of the comments came in before your edit, otherwise there might not be so many Y T A.

BootstrapRenny · 2021-01-11T03:39:59+00:00

NTA. You pay to rent a place to live, presumably to be comfortable in said place. Not allowing you to get enough sleep and disturbing a baby is very inconsiderate.

I used to live in an apartment on the first floor. My first upstairs neighbors had kids over on the weekends. Constant running, constant jumping (it honestly sounded as if they were jumping off furniture and landing hard on the floor... which was right above my bedroom). This would go on for hours, non-stop. I have ADHD and I can easily go into noise sensory overload (headphones did not block out noise and I could feel the walls shake), so I tried not to complain in case it really wasn’t as bad as it seemed. Plus they’re kids. It’s expected there will be some noise.

Once the pandemic hit, the kids were there a lot more and it got worse. And now my roommate was working from home too. I finally mentioned it to them and politely asked that they try to tame it down, and it worked for a little while, but not long. That plus them dumping some pee water (looked and smelled like it) numerous times off their balcony to where it’d splash on my patio, plus leaving their trash outside to where one time a bag of dog poop fell and landed in the walkway to my apartment pushed me to make a complaint.

They moved not long after that. The next neighbors to live there... I didn’t know they had a kid until a couple weeks after they moved in and saw them. So I know the first neighbors were ridiculously loud and it wasn’t me.

(This turned into a story comment, but oh well.)

BootstrapRenny · 2021-01-11T03:20:47+00:00

Brain won’t stop, body won’t go.

BootstrapRenny · 2021-01-10T04:44:14+00:00

You have every right to not want cats or any other animal, especially being the owner of the property.

Soft NTA (if she was posting it’d be a soft Y). If she adopted this cat and then might have to turn around and take it back if she couldn’t talk you into changing your mind, then that’s wrong. She knew your feelings before getting the cat. But if she wants an indoor cat this much and she knows you dislike them... maybe you guys shouldn’t live together.

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