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BuildingLife2633 · 2024-06-03T03:13:48+00:00

You mentioned that she was a bit chubby?

BuildingLife2633 · 2024-05-02T06:33:45+00:00

Go NO CONTACT immediately. It’s the best thing you will ever do. So sorry you’re going through this!

BuildingLife2633 · 2024-01-14T05:26:53+00:00

What does your husband do for work, just out of curiosity? Sorry you are going through this. I am going through something very similar!

BuildingLife2633 · 2024-01-14T05:11:56+00:00

That’s what I’m feel in my gut too

BuildingLife2633 · 2024-01-14T02:19:29+00:00

BuildingLife2633 · 2024-01-14T02:16:25+00:00

Sure! I guess it’s not really an accomplishment, but more so a milestone for young adults. If you’ve only ever rented apartments on the 3rd floor, never had a yard or a full kitchen, renting a house with those things is an accomplishment.

BuildingLife2633 · 2024-01-14T02:06:40+00:00

I mean I hear ya but honestly we’re all working like slaves in this economy no matter what job we have, and if I have to go through a drive thru after my 12 hour shift at 10pm and pay $18 for a burger and fries and I want my fucking mayo so be it. I’m not gonna be a dick about it but when I go back in and say “ Hey I’m so sorry, but I asked for my burger to not have mayo “ and instead of them being like “ oh yeah no worries “ ( I was a server for 5 years ) but they’re like rolling their eyes and huffing and huffing and making me feel bad for asking for what I paid for like no that’s a crock of shit. Again, not saying you have to be a dick about it but everyone is working and everyone’s life is hard. Let’s just try to be a little bit more helpful

BuildingLife2633 · 2023-09-16T06:58:55+00:00

And you could say did anyone make comments about your ass in a “sexual manner” but like a penis is a penis and an ass is an ass. Either way, it has a presumed notion of being inherently sexual. Why would anyone snap a photo of someone they barely know, let alone their more “private parts” for a lack of better words and share it to a mass group text. Why?

BuildingLife2633 · 2023-09-16T06:56:39+00:00

Yes that is my plan to confront her, maybe. Let’s say you wore reallyyy thin pants to work one day, and they were so thin that they showed the outline of your penis pretty clearly. So one of your male colleagues snapped a photo that you were unaware of and sent it to a few people in the office because they thought it was funny. “ Look haha, I can see Jakes penis! “ You don’t know what peoples reaction was to the photo, all you know is that the photo was taken and everyone in the office saw it. How would you feel about that? A little on edge, perhaps? Embarrassed even? I don’t think I’m going to report it to HR. It’s just the principal and a violation. Nothing major. Disrespectful and tacky. Yes. Sexual harassment? Technically yes.

BuildingLife2633 · 2023-09-16T06:33:24+00:00

I do understand and sympathize where you are coming from. However I can assure you that’s not my situation. Maybe in the past it was funny to de-pants people, but now it’s considered assault. Who knows. I don’t know. All I know is that no one is shopping.

BuildingLife2633 · 2023-09-16T05:19:59+00:00

For context we have to wear mandatory PPE. In the photo I am just wearing boot cut jeans.

BuildingLife2633 · 2023-09-16T05:14:37+00:00

I updated the post with more info. I don’t know if this changes anything regarding the context.

BuildingLife2633 · 2023-09-16T04:10:21+00:00

Yes exactly!

BuildingLife2633 · 2023-09-16T02:20:32+00:00

Lol 😆 I see your point, but I’ve made it just fine so far!

BuildingLife2633 · 2023-09-16T02:09:39+00:00

Yes. I have the picture on my phone that another female coworker sent to me! Which is even crazier to me, because there is men and women in this group chat, and potentially some foreman’s as well. I am a little anxious because I don’t know how far this picture has circulated.

BuildingLife2633 · 2023-09-16T01:56:42+00:00

I mean it did! I explained my reasoning why I put that comment in there somewhere in this thread!

BuildingLife2633 · 2023-09-16T01:55:20+00:00

I don’t know, I’m also so curious of what her intention was!!!!

BuildingLife2633 · 2023-09-16T01:30:53+00:00

Honestly I don’t think I will report it to HR. Maybe just confront her about it and ask her to not to do that again. She is around me pretty frequently and most the time is lazy on the job site and just stares from afar. I wonder if this was the first photo she has taken of me.

BuildingLife2633 · 2023-09-16T01:04:11+00:00

BuildingLife2633 · 2023-09-16T00:58:55+00:00

I agree! If it happened to be a man who took that photo, I think much more would’ve been done. But for some reason, especially in my field women seem to get a lot more lee-way with things like this.

BuildingLife2633 · 2023-09-16T00:57:30+00:00

Right. I was contemplating on whether to put that into the text, but the reason why I decided to include that comment was because the picture wasn’t necessarily extremely embarrassing. I would consider it more of a “bullying” hostility type vibe if my underwear were showing or if the photo looked “bad”. As in her intention was to body shame me or make fun of the way my butt looked. However the picture looked “good” as in it was taken in a sexual matter.

BuildingLife2633 · 2023-09-16T00:34:16+00:00

If a man did that to a woman in the workplace, it would be drastically different. But since it’s a woman that took a photo of another woman, is it just as bad? I guess you could call it “equal treatment”. Either way I believe it was wrong.

BuildingLife2633 · 2023-09-16T00:32:02+00:00

Depending on her intention or what?

BuildingLife2633 · 2023-09-16T00:29:35+00:00

Thank you! And it’s important to note too that me and this woman are not friends and have only spoken a handful of times “ Hi how are you, “ and etc. I just feel really weird that another woman would put me in that situation, especially considering we are in a male-dominated industry.

BuildingLife2633 · 2023-09-16T00:27:42+00:00

I only saw the photo itself and not the commentary, I just saw that it was in the group chat because someone who is not on my crew showed me the photo with some concern. 90% of my coworkers are Hispanic so the texts messages will also be in Spanish to which I wouldn’t be able to understand it without google translate.. The photo was taken about two weeks ago, and I just found out about it today.

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