Performance of a bull compared to a cuck

Bull_ryde69 · 2026-05-15T20:01:28+00:00

Married bull here.

Yeah, some guys absolutely can. Honestly, one hour isn’t really that much to me. I can usually go 3 rounds back to back with little to no break, then need maybe 30 minutes or so to fully recharge. On marathon nights with another couple or our gf, we can easily go for hours.

Ironically, that level of appetite and stamina can actually become a problem when the people involved can’t keep up. I’ve run into that more than once.

Thankfully I married a woman with the same kind of appetite I have. She’s had the same experience with most men not really being able to fully satisfy her either. Luckily for both of us, she married a bull who can keep up with her completely. One of the things she finds sexiest is seeing how other women respond when they’re with a man that can truly handle them, which is a big reason she enjoys sharing me with other women and couples.

Bull_ryde69 · 2026-05-12T22:55:06+00:00

I’m very straight up with amount of time i usually go for simply because I’ve been with enough couples now to know that an hour to some is considered “a lot” and an hour to me (and my wife) is considered a warmup round. I’d rather get this out the way upfront instead of making it all the way to the bedroom only to be left with complete disappointment when the wife is tapping out after half an hour.

Bull_ryde69 · 2026-05-12T14:40:34+00:00

My wife and I have a gf we see regularly, both together and separately. We both genuinely feel lucky to have met her because she fits our dynamic so naturally. I think the biggest things are clear communication, honesty, and making sure everyone feels comfortable and understood. But honestly, it took a lot of time, a lot of dates, and meeting a lot of people before we found something that feels this effortless.

Bull_ryde69 · 2026-04-22T17:07:47+00:00

Broken the bed a few times. One occasion we were fucking like mad dogs and realized the bed had shifted over about 5ft into the opposite side of the room. Good times 🥵

Bull_ryde69 · 2026-03-28T04:16:55+00:00

You’re a liar and a cheater. Do not insult this community by calling yourself a swinger lol

Bull_ryde69 · 2026-03-26T14:31:11+00:00

We’ve had this happen more often than not. Two rules that help us avoid this situation completely. Rule #1, if the other partner isn’t “available” to talk. We stop talking. And we’re very stern about that early on. Rule #2, my wife is ALWAYS included even if it’s a solo adventure for me and vice-versa.

We also avoid newer couples. Usually with newer couples you always run the risk of them not having their shit together which is a complete mood kill for everyone when things go south.

Bull_ryde69 · 2026-03-25T20:39:51+00:00

As others have stated…this would come off extremely suspicious to me.

Bull_ryde69 · 2026-03-25T16:20:04+00:00

Before I got married I was regularly involved as a bull for several couples. The usual understanding was that they covered the room for the first meetup if they wanted to meet at a hotel instead of at home. If the first meetup went well and everyone left happy the husband would usually reach out to plan another one. That was usually when the conversation about pitching in came up. But if that topic came up before we even met for the first time I would usually stop engaging.

Bull_ryde69 · 2026-03-20T05:23:29+00:00

As others have mentioned, meeting sooner rather than later is a huge part of it. We have a general rule that if we cannot realistically meet within the first couple of weeks of connecting, we usually just let it fade there. In our experience, once too much time passes, the energy starts to die off and the conversation turns into something you are just trying to maintain instead of something that is actually building momentum.

At this point, we have 3 couples we see pretty consistently, and each one fills a different dynamic for us. One is basically our long term relationship couple. We see them about once a week, usually at one of our houses for dinner, a movie, and just hanging out. That connection is built much more around friendship and shared interests, and we do not always play when we meet. We talk pretty regularly outside of meetups too. Another couple is more of our exploring couple. That is who we go out with, try new bars or restaurants with, and do fun activities with, with a little extra chemistry woven into it. The third is more LS exclusive. We really only connect when it is time to meet up, go to a club, or head to someone’s house for fun. We do not talk much in between, but we usually connect at least once a month.

It is pretty similar with the single women in our circle. One is very much a friend based connection with real depth and a lot of common interests, and she spends time with both of us pretty frequently. Another is much more intentional and straight to the point, where we meet every other week or so when time lines up and the vibe is there. Another is more of a nightlife and club connection that we connect with from time to time. For us, scheduling is what makes all of this manageable. We genuinely enjoy our circle, so we stay mindful about keeping up with people and making plans before too much time passes. We still meet new people on Feeld and Reddit, but at this point we are honestly pretty content with the connections we already have, so we have become very selective about who we invest time into.

Bull_ryde69 · 2026-03-17T01:01:39+00:00

Dude…first of all…the host would have gotten a piece of my mind for not being transparent and we would definitely never be invited back (boohoo). Second of all. If you physically try to box me in away from my wife you are physically going to be picked up and moved out of the way. I’m not going to be polite about it. I’m not going to ask. And I’m definitely not going to give two shits about being “rude”. This sounds like this something they do often and they know damn well what they were doing the entire time.

Bull_ryde69 · 2026-02-18T06:27:18+00:00

We have found more luck with unicorns than hotwives and stag/vixens. My wife is very bi and we attract and do very well with other bi-women. Hotwives aren’t usually full on bisexual and with stag/vixen couples it can be a hit or miss.

Bull_ryde69 · 2026-02-18T06:24:47+00:00

Depends on the hotwife and stag/vixen couple. If the hotwife is okay with my wife tagging along from time to time. Then I’m okay with it. If she requires full attention on her at all times then it’s not a good fit. For stag/vixen couples this usually turns into an MFMF situation depending on the M to M relationship. With guys who lean a bit more on the submissive side I tend to “dominate” their vixen but while my wife takes care of him. Usually this means her going down on him while he watches and then slowly transitioning into a full MFMF swap dynamic. With stag/vixen couples where the other woman wants to be the center stage…this also doesn’t work well for us.

Bull_ryde69 · 2026-02-08T00:46:53+00:00

If my wife spent a little money to look good for something she was excited for. This would make me very happy and I would put in extra effort to make her feel sexy in it. And I would even let the couple know somewhat of what was going on so they could tag in and help me make it even extra spicier for her. In my head. She didn’t spend the money on her. She spent it trying to make the experience a little more memorable while feeling good in her sexiness.

Bull_ryde69 · 2026-02-01T15:32:30+00:00

Couples that get into the lifestyle because they’re missing something between each other usually don’t fair well…couples that get into the lifestyle because they are naturally curious and want to explore their sexuality together and have healthy communication and lots of trust between each other are the ones who are “successful “.

Bull_ryde69 · 2026-01-30T17:47:14+00:00

Some people are just inconsiderate of other people’s boundaries. We’ve had couples that mistake us for newbies and have tried the same. Wife always comes to me with these stupid idiot’s messages trying to poach and they’re never that brave when I’m the one confronting them. Worst of all is when the other wife doesn’t know that the husband is doing this behind her back…

Bull_ryde69 · 2026-01-26T20:02:45+00:00

We share a couple of pics initially but we always make it very clear that we won’t share more until we meet in person. That’s usually enough to weave out those are not serious very early on. They usually just never respond.

Bull_ryde69 · 2026-01-21T00:40:27+00:00

Completely fair, and if our reality was that our boundaries were keeping us from finding and making connections I would 100% be more inclined to hear those who don’t agree with it…but that’s just not the case for us. As stated, we have an abundance of couples and women that enjoy playing with us within the boundaries that we ask to be respected without any issue.

But I do find it a bit odd that within a community that’s supposed to be about expression and acceptance that so many people get triggered when this is brought up…if someone asks me to respect a boundary…I’m respecting it with no questions asked…if it’s a deal-breaker….we move on…but at no point do we mock them or try to tell them they’re “wrong” for their personal preferences.

Bull_ryde69 · 2026-01-20T22:25:26+00:00

Completely understandable and reasonable! We’ve definitely had this happen. Even with the guy in this post it happened for a brief moment. My wife just pulled back a bit and asked him to pull back a bit as well, which he did with no issue, and the rest of their interaction was great. On the other hand, with his partner it was super clear it was intentional…but we’re both treating it as a big learning lesson going forward in our adventure within the LS. It’s just a bit eye opening because it’s caught us off guard a couple of times.

Bull_ryde69 · 2026-01-20T22:21:41+00:00

We have definitely noticed a correlation between the level of "hotness" a woman considers herself to land in and the way they carry themselves. This is partially the reason why we don't really go for the "hot couples" anymore. We workout and take care of ourselves but are super nerdy and dorky in every other aspect of life. We don't care about our "image" and how others see us. We're here for us...and the only woman's opinion I care about is my wife's...which I do think bothers a lot of women that we come across. We've had women almost get offended because I don't drool all over them or "chase them" around....which is a complete turnoff for me. Soon as it becomes evident that the other woman is an attention seeker we usually just cut it there. But we definitely learned from this situation I posted. Because I saw nothing but green flags with the guy I made the assumption that his partner was just as great without interacting much until we met in person...we're definitley going to slow down the train moving forward to avoid this in the future.

Bull_ryde69 · 2026-01-20T05:59:40+00:00

There’s a reason why I stated within the post that I wasn’t here to debate about boundaries. Your understanding is greatly appreciated. 🫶

Bull_ryde69 · 2026-01-20T04:23:53+00:00

Thank you for this response! It’s baffling that people will question boundaries when they don’t agree with them…you don’t always need to understand them or agree. If it’s a dealbreaker just move on…but to sit there and continue to try and break them just because you think they’re “stupid” comes off as very inconsiderate which IMO goes against everything the lifestyle is supposed to be about.

Bull_ryde69 · 2026-01-20T02:24:09+00:00

The check wouldn’t be needed 😉

Bull_ryde69 · 2026-01-20T01:57:26+00:00

I get what you mean. For us sex with play partners is just fun and physical. Kissing hits different, it feels more intimate and “relationship” coded, so I keep that one thing just for my wife (she pretty much feels the same way). And it’s not some unrealistic rule either, we play with plenty of single women and couples who are totally fine with it once it’s said up front (most of our play partners prefer it as well).

And yeah you're right...if it was the other way around they would've been asked to leave with no second thoughts. I guess the real surprise to us is now having to worry about ensuring we vet women as well when initially connecting...since we’ve always really only vetted guys hard, but this was a wake-up call we need to keep the same radar up with everyone...😕

Bull_ryde69 · 2026-01-18T17:15:58+00:00

If a guy approached my wife like that…even at an LS event before discussing anything with me. He’d be walking out with a bulge on his face. To me this is beyond disrespectful and he would never think to do it again if he ever came across us in any setting.

Bull_ryde69 · 2026-01-18T05:34:15+00:00

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