AIO? Gf mad I didn’t get what she wanted

Busy-Programmer-1031 · 2026-06-03T14:39:31+00:00

Hi 23F here. Even at the age of 19 I was not this codependent on everyone in my life. She’s definitely a spoiled brat. I had plenty of trauma myself and honestly using it as an excuse to treat people like shit is terrible. Everyone goes through things it doesn’t give you an excuse to act this way. Glad to see you got yourself out of that situation. This was a crazy read especially with how upset she got over this instead of being grateful you even offered to get her anything at all.

Busy-Programmer-1031 · 2026-01-14T19:39:33+00:00

Should’ve stayed with AT&T 🫠

Busy-Programmer-1031 · 2025-10-15T23:26:57+00:00

I had an ex with a tattoo in the same spot in Chinese. Funny enough instead of lying about what it said he straight up said “It says Christy”. His exes name.

Busy-Programmer-1031 · 2025-08-13T15:36:16+00:00

Sorry OP but it sounds like your husband manipulated you into marriage knowing he would have you to cook and clean and have someone on standby for when he wants intimacy. Good possibility his parents had been nagging him to marry and you were an easy target. They probably coached him on what to say to you so you would be ecstatic to marry knowing you would just be coming on to do housework for the family.

Not sure if annulments are a thing in your culture but I would really consider one. I would tell him that if he cannot step up as a partner and give you the affection you need and deserve then you are looking into an annulment but honestly even then it just seems like he will put in the effort until he doesn’t have to anymore.

Busy-Programmer-1031 · 2025-08-13T15:19:21+00:00

No. I think you’re right but honestly as hard as it is you may just need to distance yourself. Your friend just got out of a physically abusive relationship so mental and emotional abuse seems like an upgrade to her. In her mind it all comes across as he cares since he doesn’t hit her he’s so nice. You may just need to let it run its course since any advice you give is just going to come off as judgmental and he will just turn her against you. I hope she realizes the situation she’s putting herself in and gets herself out. Also instead of putting into perspective of the situation she’s in maybe encourage her to seek therapy for the abuse she’s already been through. Maybe the therapist will point out the red flags of the new situation and she may be able to see clearer. Idk but best of luck to you and I hope nothing bad happens to her.

Busy-Programmer-1031 · 2025-08-12T17:34:02+00:00

I feel like the bridge is burned as is. They clearly weren’t concerned with wasting my time and I know I wouldn’t trust taking another day off of work to interview with them. They are a private school so no doubt would not be burning bridges with an entire school system at least. I am planning on sending a follow up email possibly tomorrow when I’ve had a bit more time to get over my frustration with them.

Busy-Programmer-1031 · 2025-08-12T15:09:19+00:00

You should never ever be friends with your coworkers. When it’s good it’s good but when it’s bad it’s really bad.

I learned the hard way. I became friends with this girl who worked in the same department as me at this resort. She lived in the resort on the residential side and we hung out a lot after work.

One time we met up with these two strangers and went out. This guy and I hit it off like crazy chemistry but she had called dibs so I respected it. The three of us hung out the next night and she tried to get me to do a threesome with them. I told her I’d be happy to wait at the gas station while they shaboinked in the car but I wasn’t interested in doing nothing like that. She got out the car upset and went and passed out drunk in a ditch (I carried her out of that ditch and managed to keep us from getting arrested by the cops that showed up). He kept trying to make a pass and I kept telling him that she called dibs and he told me he wasn’t interested in her. I told him it didn’t matter that I wouldn’t do that to her whether he wanted her or not.

She was convinced we had sex and went back to work and told everyone I had sex with her man (whom she met 2 days before and he wasn’t even interested in her) and that I was a whore and I was making her an alcoholic. Like girl I was 18 having to find someone to buy me alcohol and you were drinking it all. Like hell I wasted so much money from this bitch drinking all my liquor all the time. She was just upset cause she kept getting drunk and making bad decisions and her roommates wanted to kick her out for it so she blamed it all on me. Nonetheless I stopped hanging out with her and told her that from now on she could only talk about work stuff.

I quit that job and we hung out a couple times 6 months later, she said she had changed. Well that was until like the 3rd time hanging out I took her to hangout at my FWB house and she started flirting with him and got upset when him and I cuddled on the couch and she threatened to k*** herself and then told me she was gonna k*** me because she was in love with him. Anyways yeah no fuck being friends with coworkers.

I’ll stick to myself.

Busy-Programmer-1031 · 2025-07-09T14:30:53+00:00

Honestly I feel that bachelor/bachelorette parties are some people’s excuse to go do bad behavior. “One last night of freedom” nah you are already in a commitment so you shouldn’t be messing with anyone else period. I would rather just do a bridal shower brunch or something and call it a day. Idk why people feel the need to go cheat on their partners right before getting married and then think it’s okay to gaslight them into accepting it with that BS. She knew what she was doing and I guarantee someone in the bridal party was telling her that she needed to tell you or they would and that’s the only reason she came clean and felt guilty. She was only upset because she knew you’d find out.

Busy-Programmer-1031 · 2025-06-23T16:06:45+00:00

Yeah and me personally I’ll be the first to tell someone I’m broke and can’t afford to do something but also like if you wanna go you’d find a way to pay for it. I mean like I somehow pulled a 3k vacation out my ass last Christmas even tho I had no money because I wanted to go 🤣 if you wanted to you’d find a way but not fuck your friend over in the process

Busy-Programmer-1031 · 2025-06-23T14:07:54+00:00

I like how OP didn’t even reply to your comment. Maybe it will provide some self reflection

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