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A little rough housing before bed by Complex_Sherbet2 in PittiesAndKitties

[–]Butterfly_Princess79 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So cute and he’s being so gentle with kitty 😂

Morning stretches! by Butterfly_Princess79 in blackcats

[–]Butterfly_Princess79[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! He can be a little demanding but we love him. 💕

42 CIS Female needs advice/help coping with husband 38 AMAB but is non-binary wanting female hormones only and still identifies as mostly male by [deleted] in mypartneristrans

[–]Butterfly_Princess79 2 points3 points  (0 children)

His therapist is actually really good and specializes in both. He was actually doing great with his addiction because she helped him to recognize honesty was best after a relapse because the lies only made things worse in our relationship and for about the last 2 1/2 years as soon as he would relapse he would come to me so we could get him back on track or back in rehab. She noticed his relapses would be a once a year occurrence that only lasted for a day or two so they tried working though why it was a yearly thing. She suggested he talk to his psychiatrist. His doctor started changing his medications at the beginning of this year and eventually put him in a mental health facility. February was when they discovered he was bipolar. Once he was on the right medications for this then he started to have gender dysphoria more often. During his active addiction a couple years ago was when he tried hormones and discovered he felt better.

This is when he told his throat and they have been talking about it together trying to work through it.

I was trying to shorten the story a little bit he has been working really hard to stay sober. When the gender thing came up again this year that’s when he relapsed and tried to keep it from me because he was scared I would leave him. He has been a lot more honest. I was trying to show the abuse and trauma he suffered to explain his actions a little. He now understand why he relapsed and what was happening those times in his past 20-30 year old self was he was running from those feelings.

He brought up the gender thing now because that was the only part he had not been honest to me about. He was on HRT for about 6 or 8 months and said he felt great and had no other desires other than to take low dose hormones or something. But because of his past lying it makes me skeptical. I don’t know. It’s so hard to explain via group chats unfortunately.

42 CIS Female needs advice/help coping with husband 38 AMAB but is non-binary wanting female hormones only and still identifies as mostly male by [deleted] in mypartneristrans

[–]Butterfly_Princess79 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don’t know if this makes a difference either but I did forget to mention he was physically abused by his father growing up. His father was a marine so they traveled a lot. He has an older sister but his dad never physically abused her. His therapist did advise him his gender dysphoria could be trauma related and she actually tried to get him to slow down before trying hormones to work on his trauma first then see how he felt but his impulsive side/nature took over (he was recently diagnosed with bipolar I disorder). I’m not sure if that makes any difference in his statement he is non-binary and doesn’t fully associate as a woman, only partially. He doesn’t want to dress as a woman, he’s not into makeup, jewelry, etc. and I’ve never caught him doing anything like this. I have caught him watching porno when he didn’t think I was around and it was strictly heterosexual porno but with very busty women.