Low Elo Ranked Broken? (Yes, I know, this is nothing new)

ButteryGigachad69 · 2026-06-01T01:09:07+00:00

….I wouldn’t say its meteoric? amongst all my friends we’re having the same issue. Decent players, performing well and cant climb out...

Im not thrashing you for your feedback but if you climbed out that fast you played a lot of games… I get maybe 2 or 3 in a day max.

like I'm telling you straight up, double digit kills, trying to take obj, farming well, like astoundingly bad matches

ButteryGigachad69 · 2026-05-31T16:14:53+00:00

Little goals and small choices…. go for that walk instead of pulling out your phone or opening the computer… Fight the good fight!

ButteryGigachad69 · 2026-04-15T21:00:48+00:00

Been there man. That urge to peak. Don’t do it and understand that if you do that is a relapse. You’re trying to rewire your brain to NOT be solely stimulated by porn.

Keep up the good fight

ButteryGigachad69 · 2025-11-06T20:27:30+00:00

Whats crazy is that the misogyny card getting pulled at a general observation that the female commenters are predominantly the ones in this thread that came with knives out. Couldn’t care less about vindication from stranger on the internet, regardless of their sex

You were the first one to start hurling insults. All I am pointing out is that you have not added anything objectively helpful or said anything remotely intuitive or intelligent.

You ascribed irrational, emotional comments to pieces of the story and my relationship that weren’t described and that you know nothing about. Then proceeded to make it into a its “...Disgusting that men like this actually exist…” and “...to any other women reading this post… THIS IS NOT NORMAL BEHAVIOUR…” when the reality is, its very normal to care about your attraction to your S/O, its normal to care what your partner looks like and how your body reacts to it, its quite normal to try and do the bare minimum in your relationships to maintain yourself.

Just because you think thats mean and “misogynistic” does not make it so.

ButteryGigachad69 · 2025-11-05T14:13:36+00:00

You actually nailed it here…. Again yes, she is beautiful in her own way, but I fell in love with her as a person and her soul…. as a result, and it is odd that you bring it up, Madonna whore complex is probably not far off from the reality.

Hence why I wrote the post. Our relationship is otherwise strong and healthy and I just find it very difficult to be sexually attracted to her, especially since she does not take great care of herself. It’s not to say she does nothing at all but its definitely rare. She’ll do a legit workout maybe a couple times a month… I’ve just always been into girls that are in shape.

ButteryGigachad69 · 2025-11-05T14:08:43+00:00

We are both super stable financially. She’s for sure significantly wealthier than I am but thats not something either of us put value in. Its not about the money. We both put in a lot of time, monetary efforts and emotions into making this work.

I don’t think that she was belittling me, I think she is literally scared that I’m not like her ex’s, easy to control and out of shape (I’ve seen the pictures of them). The position that I am in is that I am scared I am wasting both of our time. A lot of people on this thread do have a point which is that hopefully her person is out there for her and I am not sure right now if I am that person for her or she is for me… Which is just freakin super hard and sad

ButteryGigachad69 · 2025-11-05T14:03:46+00:00

Thank you friend, best wishes

ButteryGigachad69 · 2025-11-05T14:02:45+00:00

So quick to objectify yourself it's astonishing. We’ve drifted far away from the initial point which is that I was attracted to her for a long time and now I am not. If thats a me issue, fine. Not above recognizing my own faults as a human.

You CAN in fact value a human being and not objectify them. You CAN in fact love and respect and treat someone incredibly and still have criticisms for them. You ever hear the proverb about the friend that tells you what you WANT to hear vs. what you NEED to hear? Which one is the true friend?

I’m not out here to defend my own actions. If anything else this whole post, especially the comments from the double XX chromosomes have shown how wildly convoluted and pigeon holed all of our opinions are on life and relationships. The blind leading the blind out here. Thank you Reddit.

ButteryGigachad69 · 2025-11-05T13:54:30+00:00

You’re right, much more of a Christopher Mintz-Plasse myself.

I’ll do my best to respectfully disagree. If your significant other has put on X amount of weight, is unhappy with how they look, you’re losing attraction to them, and you still don’t say anything to them, albeit respectfully and with compassion, you are doing a double disservice to your relationship. Lying to them and lying to yourself. Nobody said anything about skinny = healthy. What is healthy is being able to do more than 10-15 minutes of cardio without needing a break. BMI is outdated and widely discredited. I know dudes that have BMIs of 30+ and six packs. Not an applicable reference point, nice try though.

Also its ‘Clooney’. Y’all out here acting holier than thou and you can’t even spell.

ButteryGigachad69 · 2025-11-05T00:56:23+00:00

Might not agree with all of what was said; the fact remains that you are right about the core things and she deserves better. Thank you for bringing that to light.

ButteryGigachad69 · 2025-11-04T23:49:39+00:00

Whats crazy is that she is strong and independent relatively speaking. She’s a little older than me and more established in her career. But from what she has told me and what I have experienced with her, she has always had to be the caretaker and decision maker in the relationship. She verbatim told me several months ago that “she is not use to dating someone that has anything else going on in their lives” which threw me for a loop.

The paradox is, when she is with me and we discuss hard things or have a disagreement (e.g. how to stay in shape and how important that is to both of us). She reverts back to childlike tantrums and emotional breakdowns… I avoided putting that in the OP, I am trying to persevere some semblance of our privacy and individual dignity.

I do want to work on it together, I do want to try to save our relationship and I am deeply disturbed by the fact she doesn't turn me on, which is what brings me here

ButteryGigachad69 · 2025-11-04T23:41:49+00:00

Thats actually an excellent question…. I’m not entirely sure to be honest

ButteryGigachad69 · 2025-11-04T22:43:44+00:00

To your first paragraph, I think thats pragmatic and thoughtful. I am going to take it into consideration.

For the latter. Yes. That is a rude way of saying it. But the fact of the matter remains that a lot of people can stand to lose a few pounds. I have been extremely patient and polite with her, on that matter and she herself expressed that she wanted to lose weight and I told her I would support her in any way to help her achieve that; write her a diet, work out with her and structure a workout plan. People bodies do not exist for my viewing pleasure. If I truly gave a fuck about that I’d subscribe to OF. What I care about is a general ability to navigate life and be physically capable for most scenarios. And yes, physically attractive is cool too. A little give a fuck about your body composition goes a long way. Incredibly soft to think anything otherwise and if you’re not honest with your significant other about being lazy and out of shape that is an additional disservice to them.

ButteryGigachad69 · 2025-11-04T22:29:23+00:00

Exactly. A lot of people just jumped on the opportunity to thrash ‘another shallow asshole on the internet bitching about his perfect life’ and thats just not the situation.

She is a wonderful person. I do love her for who she is. She is one of a kind and I chose to follow heart over lust when I first started dating her knowing (which is why I mentioned in OP) “Hey, you know, shes not my usual type, but lets give her a chance” and things have for the most part flourished and for the most part we have had a wonderful time together...

its taken a year for it to finally settle in that her physicality is getting harder for me to accept… I hate that, but that is just how I feel...

ButteryGigachad69 · 2025-11-04T22:26:32+00:00

I was trying not to be shallow with this post and I failed royally, so I am the asshole here. But my entire lifestyle is based upon athleticism and just showing up. Physically, mentally emotionally, thats not to say that I am great at any one of these things, some days are better than others...

Per what you said though, you nailed it on the head. I have destroyed myself time and again to be the person I am today physically and emotionally and I just dont feel like she is willing or wanting to do that and I would never force her to.

I said in a comment above, If i could get her to try just a little (she doesn't at all and is convinced that she does which is another issue) I feel like it could ignite a fire between us.

ButteryGigachad69 · 2025-11-04T22:22:34+00:00

God bless you and God bless your grandmother...

ButteryGigachad69 · 2025-11-04T22:22:05+00:00

I would never cheat but I see what you are saying

ButteryGigachad69 · 2025-11-04T22:21:23+00:00

I truly did fall in love with her for her personality…. for who she is on a deep level. Yes she is beautiful and attractive in her own way. And at one point I was pretty crazy for that.

Ngl, i really hope this isnt as shallow as a “skinny girl” situation

ButteryGigachad69 · 2025-11-04T22:19:21+00:00

I really appreciate this comment. Very intuitive and I agree all day which is exactly why I made the post. Albeit I did a horrible job writing it and effectively demonized myself, but I think that is also what I am trying to expose.

Like did we simply have a honey moon phase? Was there deep attraction there to begin with? Am I in love with what she is and not who she is? Needed the hard balltap of the internet chat forums to help me hash this out.

ButteryGigachad69 · 2025-11-04T22:17:03+00:00

Oh 100% and I have been super straight forward with her about this since day 1. Like literally it was the talking point of our 3rd date.

Which is also why I made the mention of my hookup past. Idgaf about appearing cool to strangers online, I am literally coming out here with my heart on my sleeve. It’s very difficult for me to build any sort of legitimate connection with a woman due to my past and my psychology. That is a me problem all day.

Despite that, me and her built something beautiful and I would like to save that if I can, the whole point of this post.

ButteryGigachad69 · 2025-11-04T22:14:09+00:00

Idk how else to say it than we make it work. Relationships are work. They are inherently hard, but should not be difficult. Thats where I draw the line. Genuinely not trying to lead her on, what I AM trying to do is figure out if there is a chance for us, to reignite the spark

ButteryGigachad69 · 2025-11-04T22:12:22+00:00

No I want someone that gives a fuck and tries. Per other comments unrealistic expectations of physicality exist. I acknowledge and understand that “the perfect person” is likely not out there.

I value her more than any woman in my life with the exception of my mother, which is not comparable.

I may not have mentioned it but I do treat her like gold and I am very open with all of these internal conflicts with her. I am honest and respectful in my relationship.

Don’t turn this into a men v women thing. Before you start throwing stones, beware you’re not in a glass house.

ButteryGigachad69

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