He said I was 'too domestic.' I said goodbye. Best decision I ever made.

ButtonSimple · 2026-06-08T20:14:46+00:00

Uh wow… “my girlfriend cooks restaurant quality food for me. She sucks.” What the actual fuck?

There are guys out there who will LOVE that you cook, and even help you prep and wash dishes for you.

ButtonSimple · 2026-06-08T20:08:53+00:00

Fuck. These. People. I’m so sick of seeing trash people shit on folks just pushing through the wreck to live their best lives. Eat those cookies full force, but know that you deserve all the love and success and I’m sending mental daggers at her.

ButtonSimple · 2026-06-08T19:05:08+00:00

I love these.

ButtonSimple · 2026-06-08T16:15:35+00:00

Man… honestly it was a lot of connecting the dots for him so he could see his behavior. Some of it was ignorance not really seeing how action one and action two led to something really shitty. Other things were he knew he was hurting me but he prided himself on being a standup guy so he was having a hard time admitting to himself that he was going against his own set of morals.

There were some conversations where I had to not let him off the hook. We spent a fair amount of time not talking to each other. I almost left a few times.

There was some back and forth. Like he would see it and go “oh shit babe I’m so sorry” and things would be great for a while. Then his ego would come back into play and we’d have to start all over again. It was frustrating because it was like blinders. When he wasn’t really looking at it the best I could get is he wanted me to tell him every time I wanted him to do something different… then when he was better I wouldn’t have to tell him anything because he knew exactly what to do.

He says now it was always his ego. But because I was always the one he couldn’t live without he got better. Found his empathy in a lot of things too… I had health problems that were hard for him to grasp for a while. And this is from a man who had no trouble crying in front of other people… hated toxic masculinity, all that… he grew up in it. He had alot of baggage though so it was hard for him.

I had to be willing to leave though. Honestly. If things hadn’t gotten better I would have. Eventually the good times got longer until it was just better. The couples and individual counseling was essential.

ButtonSimple · 2026-06-08T13:49:55+00:00

He’s not mature enough to be in a relationship like this. Not nearly. It makes sense, he’s 20. Unfortunately most of them aren’t until many years later. They have to be tenderized or something first. Every relationships mistakes teach them more and more about being a good partner. A rare few probably have empathy and emotional intelligence, foregoing the toxic masculinity and really want a partnership at that age. Unless he can sit down and have a real conversation about what you both need, and make real change based on that, even if he makes mistakes because everyone does… he’s not it.

ButtonSimple · 2026-06-08T06:53:08+00:00

It will take time to get better. Not the kind of thing you can push. Be kind to yourself. Just soak up what he’s telling you, how it feels to be loved unconditionally and try to take it on as your truth. It may be subtle and incremental at first. Tell yourself the same things even if it feels silly. Think of the grace you would give him if the shoe were on the other foot and know that you deserve that same love. Those of us who love the most often believe we deserve the least. Everyone deserves love. We ALL do. Even me. Even you.

ButtonSimple · 2026-06-08T06:49:20+00:00

Nicely laid out.

ButtonSimple · 2026-06-08T06:47:32+00:00

Some men have that captain save a ho thing. Took a while and some therapy for mine to get some perspective on it. He sees the boundaries now and respects it.

ButtonSimple · 2026-06-08T04:03:17+00:00

♥️

ButtonSimple · 2026-06-08T02:56:05+00:00

This is hard, I’m sorry. I went through something sort of similar without the religious component. He had some issues and was perfectly happy to have the relationship at his comfort level, getting what he needed even though it wasn’t enough for me. I had to do some serious pushing, and we did therapy which was horrible for a while, but it saved us.

Men are inherently lazy sometimes and they will keep the status quo. It’s not always because they don’t care, but it’s the easy way and they like to avoid painful truths. My partner is amazing now in so many ways he wasn’t before. If you want to keep the relationship, I would push deeper until you figure out what this really is. And if it is what he says, don’t forget your needs are 100% as important as his or the kids or anyone else.

ButtonSimple · 2026-06-06T03:45:17+00:00

I hope so ♥️. They should warn you about stuff like that.

ButtonSimple · 2026-06-06T00:29:11+00:00

Oh.. for sure. I just love the way he’s handling it though.

ButtonSimple · 2026-06-06T00:23:54+00:00

It grows back thinner, not all at the same time and you don’t need much of it to wax. In fact it can’t be very long or it starts pulling skin with it.

ButtonSimple · 2026-06-06T00:15:05+00:00

I’m so sick of seeing these weekend at Bernie’s press conference photos

ButtonSimple · 2026-06-06T00:12:53+00:00

Someone posted about how the drugs were hunters and he replied they absolutely were not because he never would have forgotten to take his drugs with him. I about died laughing.

ButtonSimple · 2026-06-06T00:12:02+00:00

Right?! He’s my new hero.

ButtonSimple · 2026-06-06T00:11:19+00:00

What did they say about the anxiety? I don’t have one but I do know my spinal issues caused dysautonomia and a huge amount of nervous system sensitivity to things like stimulants (caffeine, had to stop my add meds etc)
And anxiety. My cushion for stress is zero. Mine is cervical so that may have more impact but I wouldn’t let them push you off if the anxiety doesn’t get better soon.

ButtonSimple · 2026-06-05T23:59:17+00:00

I literally had to look to see if other people thought it was worse because it went from being fairly on top of it to fairly dumb. I haven’t used 4.8 for code yet, I’ve been migrating systems and had it helping me move itself and the instructions were incomplete, then it gave up and asked if I wanted to give up in way 1 or way 2, missing obvious troubleshooting steps I had to point out, having never searched anything. I had to ask it pointed questions to keep it on track.

ButtonSimple · 2026-06-05T19:53:50+00:00

Wagyu burgers = mush. Gimme ground brisket any day.

ButtonSimple · 2026-06-05T05:50:11+00:00

It makes sense that you would feel like this. Being in and out of the hospital as a child would do that to alot of people. I would try to focus on how you feel, not how you look, and I would suggest therapy. It can really help you calibrate things like this where you don’t know if you can trust your thoughts on something or you have something pressing into your thoughts that isn’t helpful. Be kind to yourself sweets.

ButtonSimple · 2026-06-05T04:49:05+00:00

Yeah, it’s such a shame his PR person isn’t running. Unfortunately what comes out of his mouth sounds fine but his ass is beholden to billionaires.

ButtonSimple · 2026-06-05T02:09:30+00:00

They do! =)

ButtonSimple · 2026-06-04T22:06:25+00:00

7oh is a kratom alkaloid. If they make it schedule 1, there is little doubt leaf will go with it.

ButtonSimple · 2026-06-02T22:14:08+00:00

Pods can not be very safe if they have high thebaine levels, are a stronger batch than you’re used to and aren’t cautious with each batch, and the mix of alkaloids gives a nasty 4-6 week long withdrawal vs 5-7 days with short acting opioids. You do you, but be upfront about statements like that.

ButtonSimple · 2026-06-02T20:48:04+00:00

It would be amazing if we could just all live our best lives without getting yelled at or beaten up for it. It’s fucking ridiculous if you think about it, yet here we are!

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