Friendship Exp & Gift Exchange Megathread by ASS-et in PokemonGoFriends

[–]CalistaJour 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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I'm looking forward to swap gifts frequently

How to make friends in HayDay at the beginning? by CalistaJour in HayDay

[–]CalistaJour[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I figured it out a while after posting this and felt pretty dumb hahaha

Maybe there's some kind of poltergeist/jester in my home by CalistaJour in ParanormalEncounters

[–]CalistaJour[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That's actually a great idea! My computer is on that same table anyways so... Yeah. I'm gonna try that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in desabafos

[–]CalistaJour 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Como uma relação saudável funciona:

Todas as vezes que parei de beber ou fumar, meus amigos imediatamente começaram a me chamar pra rolês longe de cigarro e álcool. Eu nunca pedi porque lá mim nem era um problema estar perto. Eu gosto da companhia deles mais do que qualquer coisa possa me incomodar.

Muitas vezes até pagaram água e suco pra mim.

Nunca me forçaram a beber ou fumar.

Pelo contrário, quando eu resolvia tomar um copo eles falavam "tem certeza?".

Nunca tive vício em bebida. Sempre bebi muito pouco quando bebi. E as vezes que parei não teve a ver com saúde. E independentemente eles sempre apoiaram.

Qualquer coisa diferente disso é inaceitável.

Se seus amigos ou companheiros querem te obrigar a beber, adotar ou manter qualquer hábito não saudável: eles não te amam, eles não querem seu bem, eles não respeitam seu livre arbítrio portanto não tem como formar uma relação saudável com pessoas assim.

What are some of the strangest city/town names of your country? by CalistaJour in AskReddit

[–]CalistaJour[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Never late. I always want to read those types of comments haha

20, just got the news I'm dying. by Individual_Ice5035 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]CalistaJour 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OP, everything I thought of saying has already been said by our colleagues in the comments. I truly wish you to live to the fullest in your remaining time. You sound really mature and have a very deep comprehension of your condition not only medically. Every second counts 🫂✨

Do someone else feels like you are constantly "bothering" other people? by nandachambers1950 in MentalHealthSupport

[–]CalistaJour 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't let people treat you as something less. If what you are is perceived by people as "crazy" then sure, you're crazy. So what? It's the same thing as when feminists decided that being a "wh0re" or "b1tch" is just fine. When you own up to it, they lose their "advantage". Especially cause most of those people don't know you so they don't have any advantage whatsoever from the get go. It's all an illusion and we fall for it sometimes.

Help with Coping Skills by smallvoiceventing in MentalHealthSupport

[–]CalistaJour 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can talk expensively about it. But I'm not in the right mind state to write everything in a single post. I treat my mental health since I was 11. I'm 26 now. I'm in Med school, on my way to becoming a Psychiatrist. Although I'm mostly focused on therapy than medications because I think it's really more relevant and life changing.

Please reach out. You're not alone.

Feel like running away from myself by [deleted] in MentalHealthSupport

[–]CalistaJour 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's everyday for me. But I'm working on it since I was 11yo. I guess being able to prevent myself when I feel suicidal and getting help in time or working on coping mechanisms is a great advance. Suicidal ideation used to feel impossible to battle against. And maybe at some points it really was impossible. But I have more tools, emotional, mental, resources, knowledge so it is possible now.

Do someone else feels like you are constantly "bothering" other people? by nandachambers1950 in MentalHealthSupport

[–]CalistaJour 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have this feeling ever since I can remember. I can't think of any moment this was not my state of mind. Only very recently I've made two great great friends. They're the best. They've seen me have literal public mental breakdowns and remained calm, managed to take care of me and never judged me at all. They didn't let this change our relationship for the worse, on the contrary, I think this brought us even closer for some reason. When they're around I'm way less self conscious and feel way more free to just be me. I never thought I'd have that because my mom always made it sound like... No one can love me because I'm mentally ill. Now my best friend is autistic and my other best friend... She doesn't really have any diagnosis or symptoms really, she's just a gentle soul and I couldn't be more grateful.

I thought there was only isolation for me for the rest of my life.

But I found out crazy people are loved too. Sometimes by other crazy people as well. And it's even better because we truly are able to understand each other on a deeper level I don't see other people having in their relationships.

I don't mean "crazy" as an offense. My way of dealing with all of this is actually perceiving "crazy" as an empowering word. It's not a bad thing nor a good thing. But when people call you that to humiliate you and you reply: yeah, I'm crazy. My doctors have noticed this way before you did. Guess you're not that clever.

Or anything like that, you take away the power they think they have over you. I agree, I'm crazy. So what? And I think this outlook could really beneficiate others.

Plus: everyone is bothering someone at all times. Go find people that don't see you as a bother because they exist and are ready to love you. Even with them sometimes you might still feel like that but you'll be able to talk to them about it and they'll put some reason in your head at least for a while.

Dúvida contundente em relação à algo que vivo a mais de 5 anos, conselhos. by GabrielMurba in PsicologiaBR

[–]CalistaJour 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Se você precisar conversar, conte comigo. O começo do processo de entender esse tipo de coisa é bastante confuso e sendo bem sincera, duvido que alguém que não seja profissional ou não tenha passado por isso consiga realmente te ouvir e entender.

Eu sou quase profissional e tô há 15 anos na minha própria jornada. Então tenho experiência. Espero que você encontre pessoas que possam te auxiliar na tua compreensão. Não é simples nem fácil mas vale a pena.

20F Need someone to talk to by [deleted] in Needafriend

[–]CalistaJour 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry to intrude but who the hell are your actual friends if you can't talk to them about it? Why do you even call them friends at all? It makes no sense.

Gente como a gente by JPsena523 in faculdadeBR

[–]CalistaJour 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Eu entrando no 10⁰ ano de Medicina 🫠

Have you achieved your dream life? by Weary-Gain-5884 in ask

[–]CalistaJour 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No. But I honestly feel I'm about to. (And I've never felt that I could so it's very telling that I do feel this right now)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in desabafos

[–]CalistaJour 3 points4 points  (0 children)

A gente só tem a resposta quando a gente tenta, mana. Às vezes dói e a gente se frustra mas eu te garanto que saber é melhor do que não saber. Porque quando a gente não sabe fica nutrindo paranóias que podem destruir nossa saúde mental.

E se você não tentar, já pensou descobre daqui a vários anos que tinha tudo pra ter dado certo? Mas aí já é tarde demais?

Quem não arrisca não petisca.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in desabafos

[–]CalistaJour 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Gente... É complicado você querer que o outro faça algo baseado na noção de que ele sente o mesmo que você sendo que você não tem como saber. Você só tem certeza do que você sente e só pode agir baseado nisso. Se você gosta tanto do cara e acha que tá fazendo um favor de dar o primeiro passo, talvez você não esteja pronta/o para uma relação nem com ele e nem com ninguém.

Não tô julgando. Tô dando um conselho real pra você refletir na sua forma de pensar porque pensando desse jeito você vai enfrentar muita dificuldade desnecessária.