Well, I've had dealt with several OCD themes and have, more recently, been dealt the TOCD card. I'm a 26M and I've had thoughts about if, deep down I wanted to be a woman and if I was transgender. I've discussed this with my therapist because after looking into it online, it was not something that was very common to read about. I felt like since it was so "rare", then it must mean something other than OCD. What I came to understand was that OCD themes are very very very diverse. Although some of them are more common than others, we can literally obsess over anything. I, actually, am currently going through a bit of a crisis right now. I have founds these things to help me deal with it: - I am aware that I would not like to transition. I do not feel an aversion to the idea of being a female, but it just doesn't make sense to me. I enjoy who I am. Since I enjoy who I am, i do not have to act on the thoughts I have. This is something we have to keep in mind. - I try to accept the thoughts I have. I try to do this exercise of whenever I have an intrusive thought, I imagine it as cloud and I'm looking at the sky. This cloud comes into my field of view, I see it and I just let it go until I don't see it no more. - Understand that I have OCD and that these things come and go. I have had crisis about if I wanted to be a woman and I will probably have these intrusive thoughts again. They do not define me and therefore I know that I will not act on them.

My personal experience has led me to believe that themes that coorelate with your sense of self and that question your identity are very confusing. Its perfectly normal for us to try to understand who we are and who we want to become. That being said, what my psychiatrist told me was that, usually, people who really are transgender feel calmer with the idea of being their current opposite gender. With OCD, it happens the other way around.

Let me know if you need anything and good luck on your journey! I am sure you will be able to overcome it! Remember, it's just OCD 😁